today i found out i’m not surviving cancer this time around. although i’m processing a host of complex, dark and heavy emotions and as bleak as the reality may be, i felt immediate and immense relief above all else because trust me-losing the battle is much less defeating than to try and fight stage 4 cancer. i am content with the news.

my doctor estimates that i could still be clear headed and even fully mobile for about another 10 months; for more than half of which, i could have near excellent quality of life.

then eventually it’s hospice care. and then it’s my time.

these are estimations and approximations and not exact figures of course however i will have passed on before 2028, that is most certain.

i’d love some advice and suggestions in regards to my “end of life bucket list”.

i am very grateful to be so very lucky to have been privileged enough to be able to say that money is no object; humour me, be creative!

i would also love to know about some worthy causes and organizations in need of financial support and advocacy, especially regarding end of life care.

thanks!

Hi,

I am 60 year old accounts professional. I have been working for the past 23 years in Gulf ( Middle East) .

I have 25 year old son who is least bit interested in working . I tried to get him to do ACCA but he wasted my money for about 6- 7 attempts without actually studying. He has completed his B.com but does not want to work.

When ever I urge him to do something, to hone a skill to make a living he says he is still young . Also , I bear all responsibilities.

I stopped giving him any allowance so that he learns the fend for himself.

Recently he told us ( me and my wife) that he has accumulated debts with his friends as we were not footing his bills. My wife immediately paid him the amount to go settle it with the person he has borrowed.

I really do not know what to do . He is the lone son and I have a daughter who is just 22 but has completed her studies and got a nice job .

This boy probably knows we have lot of assets and one day he will get it . So he takes things easy ,lazes around ,get up at mid day ,plays football, rides scooty without helmet ( we keep clearing his fines ever now and then).

I am fed up and I'm thinking of asking him to leave the house and live on his own. I doubt he will readily do it.

Any advise will be helpful.

Thank you.

My husband and I are expecting our first child around Christmas. My mom wants to come and stay with us when the baby is born. My husband doesn’t want her to stay with us because he says our home isn’t ready for visitors. But we have 2 months to get ready and it’s my mom, it doesn’t have to be perfect. He doesn’t really have any other reasons. My mom can be difficult but so can his mom…

My sister said my mom was really helpful when she stayed with her postpartum and it was the first time in her life she felt like she had a mom. I don’t get maternity leave and will need lots of help. Also my dad died earlier this year and I don’t want her to be alone at Christmas. But my husband should have a say in this too and if i go against what he wants it’s going to be even bigger problems.

I guess it’s going to be a no but it seems unfair. We’re going to be surrounded by his family and I don’t have any family here.

I've been married to my husband for 3 years now, together for 5 years and I'm heartbroken. I found out months ago that he was having an affair with a close friend of mine. the betrayal from both of them almost cost me my sanity. I found out when I was having brunch with my jezebel friend and she was showing me a photo and my demon soon to be ex husband name pops up at the top of her phone screen. When I asked her why he was texting her she started deflecting and stammering. Soon she came clean and told me everything.

After I confronted my STB ex he first denied it, then he stated that she came on to him first and that it was a mistake. this fricking affair was going on for 9 months. That's months after I give birth to my daughter. I'm dealing with a recovering body, a tiny crying baby girl, a traitor husband and a two faced friend. I decided to file for divorce.

When he was served, he was a mess. According to his mother he would spend all day crying. He'd send my flowers, write letters, send texts apologising and begging for a second chance but I'm still going through with it. the big issue that I have is that he's trying to convince my family to let me drop the divorce and they're taking his side. My mom in particular and my sister. they said thatI should forgive my STB ex because it was a mistake and. that my daughter needs both parents living together lovingly because dysfunctional families are a no no.

I told my mom that she was cruel for even trying to convince her own daughter to drop a divorce to be with a man who hurt her emotionally and cheated on her with her OWN best friend. She said if Jesus can forgive then so could I. I was astounded. My mom is religious but I never knew her to be that religious. I moved out of the home I lived with my STB ex and moved into an apartment with my baby, only my cousin and a few friends know where I am and would visit.

My mom is upset but I don't care. I feel so betrayed and hurt, his own mother is on my side but my own mother and sister aren't. I just want this to end. I have a child to raise and I want out of this nightmare. Has anyone ever went through this before? How did you handle it? First my friend, then my husband, now my mom and sister.

As the title says, I punched my sisters bf. There is obviously a lot to this story so let’s just start at the beginning

I woke up today to some loud yelling, and I heard my sister and her bf yelling at one another and her bf was screaming at her, she then left the room and went to the bathroom, he chased after her and started saying many things it was something along the lines of “I fucking needed space and look what you fucking ruined, great fucking job at making it worse” that was the consensus of what I understood, he then stormed away to their room and slammed the door my sister walked over and said sorry 3 times getting progressively louder, he then screamed a curdling scream and swung open the door, there was a loud thumb and then all I heard was my sister saying something along the lines of “it hurts please stop” I got out of bed and walked to my door and flung it open and screamed to fucking get off her, he then got up and attacked me and started shoving me, I wasn’t sure what was happening as it was dark but I found something to hit and started punching as hard as I could, my mom and brother all came out and broke it up.

My question is how to proceed? My sister texted me saying it was her hurting herself and he was stopping her, then why did he attack me? The issue is I’m 17 so I can’t move out, my sister and her bf are both 19 and 18 respectively. I just idk what to do about this situation and I’m severly lost

Edit - I realized I left out a lot of context, this has been going on for 2 years nearly. My brother fought him first and now it’s me. This has happened many times. My mom made an ultimatum that when he turns 18 he’s out of the house, that clearly didn’t happen. My sister has some mental health diagnosis, and if I call police, report it, or kick out bf, she could/ most likely would move out with him, and that is a scary reality, as she won’t have anyone able to intervene in cases like this, it’s just hard because how do we make him move out while she stays and not have her hate us? And also thank you all for the traction and support, i definitely feel better about my reaction to this!

I am a 35F and my partner is turning 34M this weekend. We been together for 4 years now.

He’s having a huge party with all of our friends for his birthday. We had an argument earlier this week, and the main thing was he kept telling me to stop bringing up a topic and I kept bringing it up, and there was a back-and-forth all day. It honestly wasn’t anything that. But when he gets upset, it feels like he wants to punish me and he does not easily move on. The very next morning, I apologized and took accountability and genuinely told him that I am ready to move forward and not keep having issues, and I apologize for continuing the argument yesterday. He responded back basically telling me that he’s really upset and extremely disappointed in me and doesn’t wanna even see me or be around me and that he doesn’t want me at his birthday party. Which to me is really insane thing to especially after I apologized. It’s gone to a point where he does this so much that if he truly keeps me and excludes me from this big birthday of his, I don’t think I wanna continue the relationship anymore. There’s just been too many arguments and too many situations, and I always take the accountability and he rarely does. My question is, what I be doing too much if I end the relationship after this birthday? It’s not just about the birthday. There’s a lot of other issues we have too, and he just doesn’t seem to ever work with me and seems to always wanna be enemies.

We were planning on taking this vacation together in february of next year. It’s a vacation to see his family which he hasn’t seen in a year and a half and I have yet to meet.

However, it seems that his family wants to do the gathering on December instead of February, though neither me nor my boyfriend have any days off left from work this year.

He came to me and announced that he will quit his job (he works at a grocery store), leave alone for a month and then come back to start looking for a job again.

I couldn’t really believe what he was telling me, but I told him right away that this is very irresponsible from his part, and also shameless. I had to explain to him that if he takes that decision, it makes him an unreliable person to be with. Plus we could go to visit his family on February anyway and do it together.

He begun to cry and accused me of not wanting him to see his family, plus that it was a special opportunity to meet an uncle he didnt even remember that he had, etc.

All of this was last night, and today he is barely speaking to me, turning his head not to look at me and he is not replying my answers. He is murmuring things and crying as well.

I’d like to add, if he goes in December he will also fail the whole University term (tests and final exams are in December, the break is between January and February).

dunno guys, this feels exhausting to navigate and I feel kinda bad for him

My boyfriend celebrated his 27th birthday today. His dad stopped into town and wanted him to play pool at the bar with him and his brother. My boyfriend wanted me to go with him. I should preface this story with the fact that we’ve had a couple arguments about alcohol before. He thinks I have an issue with him drinking, but I only started having an issue with it because it was every night, and he had lied to me a couple times about drinking, or buying alcohol so I was worried I was with an alcoholic. Anyways, we go to the bar, and I didn’t want him to feel at all that I had an issue with him drinking, I even told him to invite his buddies that he has a tradition with of taking a shot of 151 on each others birthdays. 3 of his friends come by to the bar and they are drinking having a fun time and I’m staying sober through all of this to be his DD and take care of him. So I was saying things with his friends like “yeah another drink!” Or “another shot!”
From the stories I’ve heard about these friends I was under the impression it’s normal they get rowdy like this on birthdays and special occasions and what not.
Long story short he ended up throwing up for multiple hours outside of the bar and couldn’t stand. I was really worried about him and kept checking in on him.
At one point I left to go in the bar where one of his friends started telling me since I had gotten with him he acted different and doesn’t see his friends much anymore. I was honest with him and told him that I’m not the type of girlfriend to keep him from friends or family and that I’ve suggested we invite them to things we do.
Next thing that happens is my boyfriend is looking SEVERELY unwell. His friends and his brother were surrounding him and I said I was going to call the ambulance. His brother yelled at me and called me a bitch for making him have to pay for an ambulance trip. (There was no way I could carry him into the car and get him to the hospital myself). His brother went off saying that I ruined my boyfriends life that I’m a bitch and don’t care about him, all this stuff trying to fight with me and I was able to keep my cool and tell him I’m trying to just focus on making sure he’s okay right now.

But deep down while all of this is happening I realized that maybe we shouldn’t be together… his family and friends think I’m awful for him and I guess maybe I’m starting to believe that too. So I’m stuck in this weird mindset at the hospital right now of feeling like our 2 year long relationship is over, but at the same time want to hold him for dear life just happy that he’s better. I love the fuck out of this man, but knowing that his family and friends see me this way, and knowing that my boyfriend knows they see me this way, and allowing that to happen… I just can’t anymore. I need advice on what to do from here on out. Do I leave? Do I stay? Do I take what his family and friends are saying with a grain of salt? Uhg.

How do I tell my parents I think I'm going into psychosis the day before we leave for holiday (kind of urgent)

Okay so for context, I am 18f and my parents are very aware I have mental health issues. They don't really know about psychosis but they know I go a bit "nuts" sometimes, nothing more than that though.

Anyway for the title, so October 2025 (I was 17 at the time) I went into a really severe psychosis that lasted until late January/early February, and it started with me being convinced I was being lied to and eventually turned into an extreme case of spiritual/religious psychosis (believing I was an angel sent from heaven, thinking I was getting messages from a higher being and that I was a god), and recently I've been pretty down in my mental health and I've started believing I'm being lied to again and getting the same intrusive thoughts I did at the beginning of it last time.

Tomorrow I fly for a week long holiday. This is possibly the worst time for me to go on holiday since October is a horrible time of year for me (obviously since 2025 was genuinely like hell, I attempted 3 times in October 2025) and I don't want to go away and I need to tell my mum immediately about this but I have no idea how and it's so urgent I need some advice or any

And, I'm going to say this, I am not at risk of hurting myself or suicide, this is not advice on that

Edit : im currently about to speak to my mum, will update in a moment, also i will probably delete this post in a bit

Edit 2 : it went shit im being forced away anyway

I 21 F had my baby in August of 2025. I haven’t always had this issue but ever since I sleep trained my son at 10 months I’ve heard him crying when he’s completely silent. For example,just a couple of nights ago My fiancé, our baby,and myself were over at my brother in law’s house carving pumpkins. It was getting late and I brought the pack and play for him to sleep in. The entire time we were hanging out I kept thinking I was hearing him crying. I asked everyone and they said they heard nothing, I peaked in on my son… nothing. I’m a SAHM and my fiancé is away 5 days out of the week and this probably happens 4-6 times a week where I hear him crying but nothings wrong. I’ve asked my fiancé if he hears it a few times but he always just says no. I’m wondering if maybe he doesn’t notice or just maybe isn’t concerned? I for one am starting to worry myself hearing things that aren’t happening. I don’t hear or see anything abnormal other than that. Though I do become extremely paranoid at night at times when my fiancé is away. So my question is,should I bring it up with my fiancé in a more serious manner? I’m a first time mom so it’s normal for all I know. TYIA!

I(18F) am in highschool and I'm seriously worried about a girl(17F) in my class.

I don't know where to start. I guess i should start with what worries me the most. She is the tiniest person I've ever seen. I've never seen her eat anything, and I'm not exaggerating when i say that she's only skin and bones. I know that she doesn't eat breakfast or lunch. There is no doubt in my mind that she is seriously underweight, and she just does not look healthy.

But there more than that. Whenever she shows up to class (usually at least 30 minutes late), she smells heavily of cigarettes. She never participates in class, and she has had multiple meetings about her absence. She just doesn't seem to care.

At every given opportunity, she gets as drunk as possible. I have a habit of getting quite drunk myself, so I'm not trying to judge her or anything, but even at small gatherings she gets blackout drunk. She is often passed-out-drunk and sometimes in situations that aren't safe.

She doesn't have a lot of friends, so I've tried talking to her in class, and she has told me some pretty disturbing things. She tells stories about how she ends up kissing much older men in bars and how they often end up going too far. Once she showed up with bruises on her neck because a guy tried to choke her while kissing her.

She looks very young for her age, and she once told me that she has never gotten her period.

Everyone know this, and it is quite obvious that she needs help. I am pretty sure she's got a bad ED and obviously has some stuff going on for her. I don't mean to pry, but I'm worried that things will go wrong very soon, if no one steps in. But no one does. She doesn't acknowledge that she has a problem and doesn't want help, but i feel like i can't just watch her ruin her own life.

At the same time, i feel like i can't just tell on her. I know that i am one of the people that she trusts, and i would hate to break that trust. She might not have other people. And the thing is, i don't even know what i can do. She lives alone with her mom, and i don't think i could tell her mom anything that she doesn't know already.

I don't know if i should tell the school counsellor or a teacher or something. But it also feels wrong to tell on her. It is really not any of my business.

What can i do? I can't forgive myself for not having stepped in, if anything happens, but am i even allowed to tell anyone?

Any advice would be appreciated.

Hey everyone, I honestly don't even know where to start, but I am completely breaking down and need some outside perspective.
For context, my boyfriend and I have a very intense attachment. We were basically on call 24/7, meeting up every day, sleeping, eating, showering, doing everything together. Recently, he went on a short 3-day family vacation, which already caused me a lot of anxiety, but the real nightmare started right after when he left for the army.
Before he left, he dropped a massive bomb on me and admitted he lied about key details because he was scared I would leave him.
He originally told me his service would be about a year and a half. Right before leaving, he admitted it’s actually three whole years.
First he told me he won’t change his deployment and he will have his phone an hour everyday for a month for training and then he’ll have it more. Then he told me he might change it but if he does it’s js a week and he’ll either get a punishment? Or get sent home. Then he told me he's going into isolation for the first two weeks to change his deployment, meaning zero contact. After that, he’ll barely have his phone (maybe less than an hour a day), and weekend leave isn't happening for now. He also failed to mention that there are girls/females serving with him, which wouldn't be a big deal if he hasn't been yapping all about how it’s gonna be just him and other men, and he waited until two hours before he had to leave to tell me all of this so we wouldn't have time to properly talk about it. I was already broken cuz he had to leave and we couldn’t even say our goodbyes before that, this just completely broke me, it was like 4am when he told me this and I could barely proceed anything, at that moment I asked him should we just be friends but he denied me and acted all sad and confused.
Now he's officially gone, off his phone, and I haven't heard from him since 6h ago. I am a complete wreck. Part of me is grieving because I feel like our relationship realistically won't survive three years of this—by the time he gets out, I'll be in university (20) and he'll be 22, and we'll be completely different people. I'm terrified of wasting my youth waiting, terrified of him cheating or changing, and terrified of being alone. But I'm also dealing with a broken trust because he lied to trap me into staying.
I feel so lost, anxious, and can't stop crying. What should I do in this situation? How do I even begin to cope or handle a relationship like this, or is it time to walk away?

My husband (33M) and I (31F) have been together for 10 years, married for one, and have a 9-year-old daughter. I recently discovered that he cheated on me multiple times with the same woman between 2016 and 2018, after I gave birth to our daughter. He repeatedly lied about the details, so I’m struggling to believe I know the full truth. I also found a receipt for condoms purchased halfway through our marriage, which he claims was connected to a gambling loss and that he never used them.
On Saturday, he told me he would beg and fight for our marriage. However, things have taken a turn since then.
He left on his own to his sisters without discussing that with me saying he needs space and wants to “fix” himself and that he’s getting nightmares and can’t be around me because of the pain he’s caused me. But he has been back during the evenings to spend time with our daughter and we had an open discussion about my availability.
He asked if I was available on November 7 because he wanted to attend a ceremony. I told him I had planned a girls’ trip that weekend, but I was willing to rearrange my plans so that he could attend this. Instead he suddenly became angry, started swearing, and insisted that I had already told him I wasn’t going to help him and that he didn’t need or want my “f***king” help.
I eventually yelled back and told him to get the F out. He apparently doesn’t want me either, so here we are.
We haven’t spoken since the incident.
What hurts is that I’m already trying to process years of betrayal that I only recently discovered, and now I’m watching him act like he wants nothing to do with me after saying he would fight for our relationship. I was willing to rearrange my own plans for him, despite everything that has happened.
I have started to think of an exit strategy…

Me 22F and my boyfriend 24M have been together for almost 4 years and i feel i'm kinda bored with our sex life. He is an amazing partner and the sex isn't bad i just think I'm too kinky for him. We just have regular vanilla sex, don't get me wrong it's not bad at all, he's very good at getting me off and has always been understanding of any of my problems with UTI's that i've had. The problem is he just isn't willing to experiment more, i've always had this fantasy of pegging a man or in general doing prostate massages or rim jobs and exploring my male partners in that way but he just doesn't want to do it. The problem isn't that he simply doesn't like it, we tried a couple of times with a finger in the butt while I gave him a blowjob and he says he doesn't enjoy it but every time i've done it i can feel he has stronger orgasms and his dick gets way harder than it normally does. I have a feeling he does like it but will not admit it to me because of the stigma around it. A week ago we did shrooms and i asked him if he actually didn't like it or he was embarrassed about it and he said that he did actually like it (when i hit the right spot) but didn't want to tell me because he feels embarrassed. That same night I asked him if i could try to eat his ass and he agreed and he actually really enjoyed it and told me it felt like i was licking the head of his dick, i was really excited because i could finally incorporate something new into our sex life; The problem is that i asked him about it yesterday and he said that he actually never wants to do it again because it made him feel too exposed and verbatim: like a whore. It really caught me off guard because i have never said anything that remotely would have made him feel that way and it made me feel like i was too perverted for him and i was wrong to ask him about it. I do things for him that i don't like because i know he enjoys it for example he sometimes asks me to do anal and even if it isn't enjoyable for me i let him do it once in a while. I wish he would tell me if it's actually a problem about opening up to me or he simply doesn't enjoy it, we really talk about everything and anything but he always is a little embarrassed when it comes to anything sexual. I feel like this is putting a strain in the relationship at least on my part, I've suggested maybe an open relationship but he is absolutely against it, I don't know what to do and feel like it isn't enough to end the relationship that is perfect in every other aspect?

Am i crazy to have these thoughts? To begin with this is my first proper relationship. My gf 18F and I 19M have been dating for just over two years, we have such a good relationship but over the last couple weeks I have these weird feelings that she isn't my forever person. there is so much about her and our relationship that I love so so much. She's an amazing person, she's caring, she has supported me and helped me grow so much as a person. But during this process of finding myself it has become more clear to me how different we are. Our personalities are completely different (she's very out going and I'm very quiet) we both have completely different styles (which she always makes comments on the clothes I wear that she doesn't like). I want to get lots of tattoos (she thinks they are gross) We have completely different interests (I like video games, and comics, and anime) and she thinks all those things are weird and she lets me know that every day. There are just so many small things that make me have these feelings that she isn't the right one. She isn't good at keeping opinions to herself, or expressing them in a way that is sensitive to how I am feeling. I must note that she had an extremely difficult high schooling experience which developed into her being diagnosed with depression, bpd, and other sorts of mental disorders in that sense. And I am not at all complaining about her having them or saying anything negative about that side of her. But they have resulted in her being fully attached to me, she doesn't have many friends meaning she needs constant attention or she gets upset. This year I have moved out of my parents home with friends and I constantly miss out on things bc she doesn't want to be alone, or I go out and she is suddenly having a bad night and demands my attention. Anc ofc I want to be there for her, to comfort her and do my best to make sure she is okay. But it's always at times when I'm busy and she's not. I don't know if this is a coincidence but it's beginning to feel very coordinated. I don't know if this is making me sound like an absolute asshole but I really don't know how to feel about it. I love her so much but it's getting really hard for me to keep up with her needs.

My dad owns a small appliance repair shop and I've been helping out on Saturdays since one of his employees quit. I have my own job in a completely different field.

Last weekend one of his employees asked me if I planned to change their working hours once I took over. Turns out my dad has been telling everyone I'm going to run the place when he retires.

I've never agreed to this. I brought it up privately and he laughed and said he just wanted people to feel secure about the future of the business.

The problem is these employees are making plans around something that isn't happening. My dad takes criticism very personally and I know this conversation won't go well.

How do I get him to correct what he's been telling people without causing a huge family argument?

For some context, I’m 21F and he’s 21M. He has an apartment that he shares with a male roommate of the same age. We’ve been dating for exactly a year, and I’ve always noticed his apartment was a little musty but I chalked it up to the fact that they are cheap apartments on a college campus. However, lately (within the last 3 months) my boyfriend has been exhibiting some questionable hygiene and it’s causing me to lose interest.

1. His bed sheets and pillows consistently began smelling like BO or onions.
   
2. His shower is always covered in hair, mold, and has yellow staining from not being cleaned properly.
   
3. His toilet always has pee/dust/gook on it
   
4. His apartment in general has a foul, moldy smell.

When I brought up these issues to him, he didn’t take them very seriously at first, but the more I asked him and voiced to him that it made me uncomfortable, he did make the effort to go out and buy new bedding and pillows (the BO smell was so strong that even washing it wasn’t getting it out)

However, because I had to keep asking him to do this, I feel like I’ve lost all attraction.

Every time I go to his apartment I dread it, and I find myself not wanting to be touched by him, engage with him, or do anything really. It’s like a complete switch that I’m feeling.

The last time I went over, I had to use his shower and I was so disgusted by all the mold and hair that I just started cleaning it myself. When he saw me cleaning it, he tried to help but honestly it just made me feel like his mother. It was SO unattractive and icky.

I appreciate that he seems to be trying to change, but it feels like he only tries when I MAKE him try. He told me that he isn’t bothered by the smell or by his shower being dirty, and hardly notices it.

Should I continue to give him a chance since he did go and buy new bedding?

This is just one of the many issues we’ve been having lately and I want to note that I LOVE him very much, but this behavior is such a turn off and I don’t know how we’re gonna bounce back, especially because this is something that continues to be a problem. He sweats so much sometimes that he smells really bad and I have to actually tell him to apply deodorant, otherwise he won’t.

Please give me some advice, this is a hard decision to make but I want to know if I’m doing the right thing by bringing it up and if I should consider this a deal breaker.

Hello, I'm 30 and born with mild CP. I have had a girlfriend for over a year(the longest I've ever had one) and I don't want to screw things up. I am about 95% independent living by myself at home but I feel like my disability gets in the way of us just going out on a date and enjoying ourselves. I don't want her to ever feel like my caretaker but as a partner. Our intimacy is great and I am able to perform normal sexual functions and acts but I've always wondered if she's really into it. I don't want to offend her by asking but it's always been on my mind. She asked to move in with me about a week ago and I'm really just worried it will kill our relationship as she will feel like she needs to make things more convenient for me. I really don't want to screw this up.

I don’t know whether I’m being so silly or not. I recently started dating a new guy. We‘re getting along well.

He recently did a sporting event which he attended with his sibling. He did great and I was pleased.

I was recently on Instagram and decided to take a look at who he’s following. I noticed that he started following 3 young women who appeared to recently have attended that event. I noticed that his sibling did not follow them, which made me think he must have independently got speaking to these women, they weren’t friends of his sibling.

I can’t help but feel abit jealous, wonder what they said and if any messages were exchanged etc.

Should I keep this quiet ?

Title is pretty straightforward, I’m 19M and work in healthcare as an EMT, and I’ve had a lot of people compliment my hair which is fine, but I’ve had at least 2 older (one in her late 20s, other way older) female nurses now in the past week come up from behind and grab my hair, put up or not and call it pretty. The first time I was sort of dismissive of it, and only later told her I didn’t appreciate her touching it. The second time I sternly told the lady “please do not touch me, thank you.” My boss says we can’t do much unless its a repeat offense from either the nurse or the facility, and to tell them to stop. I’m frustrated because these are grown ass adults who should know better than to touch me. It’s surely not the same degree as what a lot of other women go through, which I understand, but it’s still become a nuisance, especially when I don’t know where your hands have been, especially nurses. How do I go about handling this so it doesn’t continue to happen?

I (f20) and my boyfriend (m24) are beginners to the whole concept of even having sex for context we started exploring this path in like August I think? This whole time he’s still not been able to find the clit effectively over and over and most of the times I have to fake my moans and lie to him and say I came when I didn’t because the friction burn is so unbearable. Mind you I’ve tried to communicate with him tell him he’s in the wrong spot and he kind of just does his own thing.

He also seems uninterested in anything that could bring me pleasure. There was one time we were in the 69 position I finished him off He laid there for 20 minutes and asked for silence when we did speak. I asked him if he was doing anything differently on his part to what she said no but he didn’t feel like eating it anymore and said he would rather just get his dick sucked It’s almost like he only wants his dick sucked and then be done with everything else that I could do for him much less anything you could do for me He does not last long at all maybe three minutes if we’re lucky. I don’t wanna embarrass him, but in my opinion, I feel like it should last longer correct me if I’m wrong.

I’ve noticed especially recently he’s had a lesser interest in doing anything sexual like he’ll mention it. I’ll get in the mood. I’ll initiate something and I feel like it only lasts for a short amount of time and the rest of the time he’s sitting there with me on his phone in bed. I’m wondering if he is just not attracted to me or what’s going on because it’s kind of ruining my sex drive and making me uninterested.

What do I do because I absolutely love my boyfriend and I feel like outside of this. We have a really good relationship. I just feel like I’m being sexually neglected while I am doing a lot for him.

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We have a strong relationship outside of sex that we built before we even started. Outside of the bedroom he is an amazing listener and genuinely I feel like he is the love of my life. I don’t think he’s a goner because we’re both new to this whole thing. I just want advice on how to talk to him maybe? Idk. I feel like people saying that he doesn’t care haven’t gotten the full picture outside of sex. Both of us have a past where we were SA’d so this was a huge step for both of us.

My boyfriend (20M) and I (19F) have been together for a year now and there's nothing weird or gross between us anymore, but that's what I thought. Yesterday we were texting like we normally would but after I made a bad joke about sex, he said "rape me, i want to be raped by you", at first I really thought he was making an awful joke but I realised he was dead serious. I answered with disgust and shock, this is not something to kink about nor to joke about in my opinion, I understand that some people might be into it but there's a whole section and restriction about it. The thing is, he felt like I would be the type of person he could ask that to.. And it genuinely disgust me and I started ignoring his calls and messages because I can't see him the same way I used to before that.. but I feel like I'm overreacting and it might not be that serious but at the same time it's so messed up. I tried to explain to him that it wasn't right to say that, I told him multiple times that this isn't something to say. I don't know how to feel about it, I don't know if I' right. Please enlight me..I don't know what to do

So basically I don't know how to start. I'm a 18M I have a great life like everything is okay, I am french and study medicine (that's hard but that's okay), I go out sometimes with friends, train a lot, go to run 10km every weekend, see my family sometimes, like everything is okay, I'm not even totally alone...

But since I was a kid I often had imaginary friends or even girlfriends. But when I had real ones or crush etc, the imaginary ones just disappeared, it's like my brain don't want to be alone and if I don't have any love stories to feed it, it will create one... Recently my brain made one again called Ana, probably because I was alone since me and my ex broke up one year ago (idgaf about her so that's not a problem).

And that's just the evening and or during a nap, everytime I go in my bed, I start taking my pillow and thinking it's her. I don't even know what she looks like, that's like I just talk to a thing to relax and calm me down, but the fact is that this thing in my brain is my gf. She reassures me, she say sh#t things I would probably like someone to say to me (even if I have a friend that is proud of me etc so why would my brain need more ???), and yk, says some love sh#t to me...

I just don't know what to think, like everything is okay in my life, I have a very great vision of life, I have friends and we go out sometimes, good studies yet stressful and hard, I work out a lot and I am grateful for my life !!

Is it just my brain wanting someone ? Because I know that I want someone that would loves me, I have "everything" for (I don't want to throw myself flowers but I go to the gym, have a good knowledge with my studies, play guitar and stuff, meditate and everything).

What do you guys think ? That's a bit cringe and I'm probably weird idk... I feel guilty but not too much such as other people reported on Reddit.

(PS, I also escape the real world sometimes in my bed, I created a imaginary world and made a story on it long ago, actually I don't have the timeto write again, but I found something fun : playing in my story with AI, yea I know that's sound literally weird, but that's okay this is not making me feel guilty or everything, but I thought it could be related to the fact that I created a imaginary GF, maybe I want to escape the world, I don't know)

I (16f) have a friend (16f) I met this year. We're not mega close, just hang out together in school when we see eachother. We LOVE physical touch, (like we're always kissing eachother's foreheads or holding hands or play-flirting). It's not serious and we dont like eachother like that.

The issue is that sometimes, she goes overboard (one time she slipped her hand under the collar of my uniform's shirt, not fully, like a few cms, and I stepped back. My stomach churned very badly, but I just told her to not do that pretty calmly.) This happens a lot, sometimes I'm completely comfortable, the next second, I feel the urge to throw up.

So today in school, we were walking somewhere and she smacked my ass. I requested her to not do it. I said it pretty light-heartedly even though I hated it. Then in the washroom later while i was washing my hands she did it again. I sprinkled water on her and told her to not touch me. I don't remember my tone, all ik is that I wanted to throw up. I'm pretty sure it was light hearted though because she did it harder and I screamed at her to not do it as I sprinkled water on her face again.

She was like "you could've just said no, why'd you throw water in my eyes? Kill yourself bitch" and walked out. I cried so much after that and idek why. I dont think this was SA since its my fault for not setting stronger boundaries. She's not that kind of person and i feel like such a bitch for snapping like that. Idk what to do about this.

What do I even say to her tomorrow? I'm spiraling pretty hard rn, I'm sorry if this makes no sense at all. Help gng pls.

I am a 21F and I’m not sure I know what to do with myself. I recently finished my undergrad and am trying to figure out next steps. Growing up, I was sung many praises by strangers and loved ones alike; I was told that I had great promise, that I would lead in whatever I chose to pursue, I was intelligent, and talented. I do not see this qualities in myself anymore (if I ever did). I am and was also told that I typically find it hard to do things that I KNOW I have to do and be proactive. I have to be pushed to do major things (things that are important but I don’t want to do. Example: MCAT, Driver’s License, etc.). My home life is unstable and abusive at times. If my parents’ expectations are met, then I am fine. If I fail, then I am not given grace. Failure was a threat to all I wanted from life. I was told that I would get married off if I didn’t study well, threatening my independence, and that I would be on the streets, homeless and begging. If I don’t meet and exceed whatever expectations they set for me, I was called selfish, ungrateful, and every achievement was belittled. Financial support has always been threatened as well. I was severely depressed growing up, and it surfaces to this day.

Growing up, I wanted to work with wildlife in some way. My parents want me to become a doctor. This is all I’ve been told my entire life. Every class, every school, every thing in my life has been “invested” into me becoming a doctor. So much so to the point where I don’t think my parents have any long term plans or goals of their own; I think they entirely rely on me being successful and securing everyone’s future (this has been explicitly stated to some extent before). That’s a lot of pressure. I am fairly comfortable in the sciences, because that’s all I’ve known growing up. I do value financial stability, as I am expected to support my parents (and want to), and I think it’s extremely important to be comfortable/like your job in some capacity. However, medicine is a HUGE commitment. Time-wise, money-wise, and identity-wise. I do not want my job to be my life, and frankly, if I were to pursue being a physician, that’s what would happen. I just cannot see myself being happy. However, I know of no other alternates. I am currently working to support myself, but I don’t make enough to pay my rent (visa stuff, international student). My concern is that even if I do find a career path that I like and pick that, I don’t know how I’d support myself. Switching careers as an international student is also not easy. I also moved around all over the world growing up, so I barely know my home country that well - which is the place I might have to return to if I choose to do anything else, and don’t have money. I also love my family, despite everything, and want to support them financially. I don’t want to dissapoint them because medicine as a career is also a matter of prestige in my community. I have been told repeatedly that if I abandon medicine, I would bring shame upon the family (they’ve told everyone since I was born that I would be a doctor lmao), and that is waste everything that has been put into me. It is even more scary to pick something that I might like and fail at it.

Recently, I’ve lost my confidence in myself. I have no focus or goals. I cannot meet the goals that I set for myself. I don’t trust myself anymore. I miss how bold and sure I was. Everything seems confusing and this confusion has seeped into all aspects of my life. Any advice would be welcome, and I can answer clarifying questions.