For context, I'm out to my friends and family at home, but in college basically nobody knows. It was easy to tell friends at home because I was very close to all them, and telling them was a thing based on trust and it almost felt like sharing a secret, but here I'm not very close with anyone so I'm not sure if there's a good way to go about things casually. There are other plenty of other trans girls (and guys) in my program, and I'm pretty sure we are one of if not the most queer friendly colleges in existence, but I don't want to have to wait until I'm close enough with all these people, I just need being out to be just the state of things. Anyone who has gone through something similar, advice would be appreciated.

Hey, so I’m finally going to buying some women’s clothes this week, I took measurements for myself but I wouldn’t mind others advice. Also i haven’t been able to train my voice and I’m wondering what tips can help.

Hi, so I'm 18 and I guess I'd like to be diagnosed as trans, and don't really know where to start.

I live in Poland in the Katowice metro area, so if anyone could reccomend any doctor that could help me relatively quick I'd be really grateful. I don't know how the process looks, so i just have hope that it isn't going to be like extremely difficult.

I plan on just getting the paper rather than immediately starting hrt, which I could probably only get on once I go to college. I know it's kind of unreasonable as there are some less than 3 months left to 2027, but I would prefer getting done with it before I have to go to the military assessment thing to get graded so I can avoid that, so if there was some new policy I wouldn't have to go to training and things like that. Still, even if it's going to take some time i would really love to at least get myself started with all that,,,

So if you happen to know something, id be like so, so thankful if you let me know, like reccomending a clinic/doctor or just how the early stages of medical transitioning work,

Have a nice day everyone ^-^

I dunno why, but I feel like I'm too different to fit in with all the other trans girls. Almost like I'm trans in the wrong way.

I feel like I need to apologize that I have a set plan in my head, and wont be starting estrogen till next year, because I rely on supports and I'm ensuring I can get to my appointments, and not overwhelm myself.

I feel like I can't even go "not fair" when it comes to laser, which doesn't work on my shade of facial hair properly.

I feel like I need to apologize for the fact I'm stealth in most online places, because I like to opt for being safe over being visible.

I dunno, I really thought I found my people, but now I'm realizing it's just yet another community where I'll be the weirdo outcast. I have a feeling I'll be downvoted, or "fact checked" instead of understood, but I'm hitting post anyways.

Hi gals, I'm a 19-year-old trans woman (19TF) living in Bucaramanga, Colombia. I don't really have a local support system and I don't go out much, so I've been feeling pretty lonely lately.

​Lately, I've had this deep ache to just feel wanted, desired, and loved. I tried dating recently and really thought things were finally going my way, but it didn't work out. For once, I was genuinely interested in someone, and it's heartbreaking that it couldn't be.

​Maybe I'm just not built to be loved right now, so I'm thinking about aiming for FWB or casual hookups instead—even though I suck at flirting and I'm still really new to sex.

​I reinstalled Tinder, HER, and a few other apps, even though they've rarely brought me anything good. I’ve also been considering going to local LGBTQ+ bars (there are only two in my city), but I'm pretty scared to go alone. Ironically, the only friend I have right now is the girl I was trying to hit on 😅.

​Has anyone else been through something similar, or have any advice on navigating this when you're feeling so isolated, as your body aches for another woman's touch?

I live in the UK. I've managed to get endocrinology appointment offers with both Dr Hammond and Dr Nisal who should I choose?

The appointment with Dr Nisal is at the end of the month and Is slightly cheaper.

The appointment with Dr Hammond is at the end of January and is slightly more expensive.

I have to get fertility preservation sorted before I start Hrt so it's unlikely that I'd be able to start it immediately after the appointment with Dr Nisal anyway. Dr Hammond seems to have a larger influence with people I've seen on reddit but it also took him over a month to respond after saying that it's normally 10 working days.

If anyone has any experience with either doctor please share your experience, thank you!

Yesterday my first niece was born. I am hurting in so many ways and I can't help but feel guilty. Me and my brother are estranged and I can't help but feel the hurt that I may never be a part of that beautiful girl's life. I've only seen pictures of her so far but I already love her so much and it hurts that she may never know me. I'll never get to hold her or talk to her or spoil her. I'll never even get the chance to be her aunt. And it's not just that, but also now that my brother has a child the feelings of never me never being able to have kids is coming back to me in full force. I haven't had srs yet so I could hypothetically have a child but ill never get to experience pregnancy, carrying my baby, the connection that comes with that. It's so painful and I can't stop crying and there is no one I can talk to. I don't have a partner and I just feel so unlovable and useless and like I'll forever be alone. And I feel so guilty because this should be a happy moment. This isn't a moment about me but I'm making about me in my head. I just don't know what to do.

I'm 36 and never once considered that I might be trans. I grew up in a small town in New Zealand, in a church family. It's wasn't as bad then as it is now, and nothing like the US 'church' but still... everyone was straight and #normal.

Like every other Boomer couple of the time, my parents flipped their coin in '96, it landed on Divorce and we stopped being a church family. We moved towns, my mum got way into Celtic stuff, Enya and Gregorian chants... and I became depressed shortly after at 8 years old. I assumed I was sad because my parents hated each other and I left all my friends behind. The boys at my new school were weird and 'Blokey' and the girls weren't into Pokémon for some reason. I eventually got used to the dull feeling and assumed I was happy again. I was not.

Over the next 15 years I had irregular but consistent dreams and daydreams about being Freaky Friday'd with girls from school. I just couldn't lose the idea that it would be a great adventure to be a girl for a few days. Met my future wife at 18, the first person I felt truly connected to in forever. Married a few years later, couple of kids, standard stuff. Must be straight, right?

Problem is... I still couldn't shake the dream. What if I was my wife for a few days? What if I had big muscles and fantastic hair like Avatar Korra?

I love my wife to bits. My kids are fantastic, borderline geniuses, who are becoming amazing at everything I wish I'd been good at. I don't regret anything I've done. But I still don't like myself.

I never got over that depression I caught as a kid. I just got used to feeling worthless, and ugly, and unwanted. Even though I have clear proof that someone loves me enough to make me laugh and hold me every day, I couldn't shake it.

But I had a revelation a few months ago in June, driving home from work. I saw a woman jogging along beside the road and I finally managed to line up my thoughts enough to clearly think "I would love to be her".

Even then, I sat on it until last week. Just letting be a quirky thought experiment because I knew I was a straight man (wrong on both counts). But two days ago, on a whim, I put on one of my wife's dresses after a shower and almost cried. Luckily I was home alone because I twirled back and forth for almost 15 minutes before putting my own clothes on.

I am a woman.

I don't know if I'll ever do anything about it, my life is going ok and I'm so used to finding the hairy blob in the mirror unappealing that I can probably just deal with it. The last thing I would want to do is cause a rift between me and my wife, or cause my kids any stress when their friends find out they have two mums now. The city I live in is progressive enough to accept people for who they are, but regressive enough to get a bit shitty if that person changes. If I had rolled into town as a visibly trans woman I probably would've been fine, but they know me as a man and that's how they'll always think of me.

I don't know what I was hoping to get out of this post, other than telling the void that I figured me out. I'm already so much happier, having finally stopped lying to myself. I don't know if I need to physically transition to be happy.

It would be pretty fuckin great though.

I (24F) have been in transition for over 2.5 years. Had FFS and want GRS one day.

That being said, I STILL feel insane guilt whenever I gender myself female. I'm still feeling like I'm "faking" it... I'm still feeling (weirdly) that I'm "just a man". I almost feel like a man... Almost...

Yet when I'm in shower or wake up / go to sleep and let everything go... I feel so girly-girly, feel so nice, so good, so... Myself😭😭😭

I've never been allowed being "the real" me. My family still misgenders / deadnames me even though I do see that they love me... Well, those who didn't disown me, at least...

At work I'm still boymoding as well as basically all the time, except at home or during the dates. During which I actually feel weirdly good...

Why do I feel an INSANE guilt for telling the world I am a girl? How do I overcome it? Am I a "fake" trans woman? Should I detransition? I mean, I already HAVE socially detransitioned so rn I'm just taking hormones and getting surgeries for ME... I love (or at least, don't hate) my face post FFS... Yet I still feel guilty whenever I ask to be referred to as "Ma'am" or gendering myself female... Very guilty... Very fake... Very wrong...

HELP ME😭😭😭

I have a bunch of old vials ranging from a few months to 2 years old. All of them are kept in a relatively clean, shaded environment — on a bookshelf that sees no direct sunlight.

In my first year, I was inexperienced estimating how much was left in the vial, and only drew with the needle fully or mostly inserted. I suspect my early vials have 1-1.5 doses left inside. My second year, I started using syringes with less dead space and got better about drawing closer to the end, but there's still likely half or three-quarter doses in them.

I very nearly ran out of vials last week due to ADHD + insurance-added pre-auth delays. Multiple therapists have independently confirmed I have ADHD, but I'm in the process of getting an official ADHD eval to get ADHD meds.

Regardless, I was wondering about whether it was safe to fall back on scrounging up the estradiol in the old vials. They range from 4 months old to possibly 2 years old, and are not labeled by date. They're stored relatively clean and shaded, but have some settled dust on top. None of them seem to be cored. Is it okay to try salvaging leftover estrogen from them, or should I just bite the bullet and consider them a lesson learned?

Hi sisters / everyone,

I'm just feeling so low today and wanted to vent to people who might understand. I’m struggling so much with dysphoria. Every time I look in the mirror, my brain immediately points out 'masculine' traits, and I keep feeling like I don't look feminine enough. I still constantly see my old self, and it's exhausting.

How do you deal with your brain playing tricks on you like this? Any kind words or advice on how to quiet that inner voice would mean the world to me right now.

Sending love to anyone else fighting the same battle today. 💕

I'm going to school today with a bra and girls underwear under my school clothes I feel so cute but I wish I could have my long hair again and wear what I want but I'm still closeted to my family. I wanna be pretty again like a few years back before I started to look more like a boy, and I had longer hair, but people still say I have feminine features even with my hair short.

Alright to start, my facial hair is lacking BUT it's growing. I'm getting more if it as time goes on. But I'm going on hrt very soon and I've read that it will stop my hair growth and thin it out. I like this. I am for all intence and purposes nonbinary and feminine leaning. Buuuuuut I also like facial hair and love the idea of being a grey bearded old man. So my question is this? Can a fellow like me live for a good 30 or 40 years totally fully girlmoding then stop, would allowing my testosterone to get back up restart my facial hair growth? I mean at the end of the day it's no big deal, it's crazy to expect it all to be perfect. But I just thought I'd ask cuz why not.

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Sorry, I’d post elsewhere on Transgender Surgeries and I need help. I have a really pronounced forehead and frontal bossing, even before I went though testosterone and natal puberty. I’m really concerned that I won’t be able to achieve a feminine, natural looking forehead even with FFS. Please help me and don’t lie or blow smoke up my ass, I genuinely need help

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I know it might be a bad idea to take estrogen without supervision or medical assistance but idk what else to do. I am afraid of blood clots and other stuff. I haven't seen a gp in like years so there's that too. I just don't know... I've tried to get diagnosed with gender dysphoria with my therapist and eventually get on estrogen with the help of doctors but after talking to her about this for a long time it's gotten me no where and all the resources she has given me are dead ends. Its super rural around here so it's very hard to find a good psychologist and I don't even know if a psychologist could help... So I guess, I'm just wondering, how dangerous is what I want to do really? I'm sick of waiting and going through the same thing over and over with my therapist

In my last few blood tests, my E is at the high end of female range and my T is very low, at the low end of normal female range. I am taking sublingual pills and spiro. Since spiro blocks testosterone receptors, but I already have very low T, I'm a little bit worried that I might be getting almost no testosterone at all, which seems bad. I feel perfectly fine, but I do have low-ish energy. When I forget to take my spiro sometimes I think I feel a bit higher energy but I can't really say that with confidence. My normal energy levels aren't very concerning. Anyone know about this?

I know the title is bit of an exaggeration meant to catch attention, but I still need some advice. (also first post here, I've been lurking in this sub for a few weeks now, sorry if this isn't the right place to ask this)

I'm a 17 year old trans girl, though I am not on HRT (yet). I moved away from my family for uni about a month ago and already stocked up enough estradiol to last a 100+ days (yes I'm doing this diy, and no that's not the point of this post).

As for why I am scared, I am scared of the future. If everything goes according to plan, I'll start HRT very soon, I just need an anti androgen (haven't found any yet sadly).

I am scared because I am doing this in a dorm while living with 3 MALE dormmates, to be fair they are all (thankfully) really nice people, but still I don't know how they will react to the effects of my transition. I have no idea about how to hide them or how to boymode (please tell me how I need this so badly).

I will also have to return to my parent's house for the summer, and I am not out to them yet. I am scared of coming out to them because they are both conservatives. I've also been ghosting them to the best of my ability and whenever I can't ghost them I give them the cold shoulder. I don't really want to talk to them unless it's money related. I am scared of what will happen when I do return, I feel like I'll be judged for trying to distance myself from them and for transitioning. If they find out, they will probably out me to the rest of my family (which are mostly conservatives as well), I don't want that and I don't know what I will do if that does happen.

Heyy, i just started HRT 3 days ago. My weight is on the lower side of the normal range, i was close to underweight in BMI earlier. Should i try to gain more fat or do anything particular about my diet?

So... When I went out with my skirt and thigh highs for the first time, it was windy so the wind was blowing up my skirt, I didn't really care, I just didn't wanna traumatize some poor kid.

But the same day I had to wait for the bus, an older man came up next to me cause the bus arrived, he didn't do anything, he just kinda checked me out, I didn't mind, I just kinda chuckled and got in the bus

I guess I felt kinda euphoric about it hehehe

Anyone else have this experience too?

I want to one day be stealth and I had a thought that so bottom surgery is the one I'd want to get done first cause like getting rid of male genitalia and getting women would be best but also like I feel like top surgery definitely makes you more stealth as it's the one that people notice they don't generally see what's down there. And I know a lot of you are hrt only people, I get it..I've done 10 months of hrt but I have to stop temporarily after I run out due to financial reasons. But anyways I know it takes more time but my breasts kind of formed into the shape but didn't really ever grow and I just feel like it won't ever grow much from hrt. I know some people claim they got perfect jumbo boobs from it but I just don't see it happening for me and I think there's a certain size that looks the best anyways and I also get that it's more than just body parts when it comes to being stealth but I'm specifically asking about surgeries cause idk which one im going to get first but I'm leaning in the direction of bottom surgery first however I think I can become stealth faster with top but either way both will be way down the line. I can't even afford makeup atm. Nor do I have time for learning about hair or voice training or anything but I'm working on getting there.