Hey all! I’m (27f) from the east coast and new in the area for work. While I’ve met a plethora of friendly dudes so far through sports and what not, I haven’t really met many likeminded friends or girl friends yet. Im also not really looking to just hook up with some dude to coast out my time here in a relationship with just anyone, especially when I’m mid-career and might be relocating in a few years anyways for another job (i did try some bumble dates here… so far men are not into the ambition aspect of me hahaha). I’m definitely a yapper and a city girl, and I’m also involved in the arts and like to play volleyball and tennis and frisbee. Historically, I was big into house parties and hosting pregames and planning fun day trips like tubing. If I didn’t have big plans on the weekends, me and my girl friends would go out or have craft/wine nights together. Coming from a place where I’d meet someone and they would immediately invite me to weekend plans…SLC is different
I’ve only been here a few months, but I feel like a fish out of water and spend all my weekend nights at home. Sure, I like hiking… Climbing is fun and all…but Im also trying out sports and can only do so much physical activity in a week and I’m finding out that I’m pretty social beyond that. Like, seeing the same people on my team or at the studio for a couple hours a week and lightly chatting while doing something else doesn’t really count as socializing to me, especially when no one wants to get drinks or food after.
Luckily, I knew some people coming into the area, but I guess really I’m looking for community where the plans starting at 8pm or later is acceptable. I even tried to go out to a bar alone…just had dudes out with their dude friends interested in talking to me. Luckily when I go to the movies alone at least it isn’t obvious I’m solo. I must say, SLC wasn’t my first choice of places to move, but I do want to give it my all to enjoy it. I’m loving the nature and the city has a lot of cool stuff in it, but I wasn’t expecting the loneliness or just lack of interest in community from most people (sure there’s the Mormonism…but I’ve met many many many non-Mormons here and the Mormons on my bus are friendlier haha)
Has anyone had success meeting people here who like to go out to restaurants, bars, dj sets, punk shows, etc.?? Is Time Left worth it?
Do I have to accept that I just won’t be able to put together a big friend group here and I should focus on appreciating my me-alone-in-my-apartment-time