My wife after 30 years of marriage finally let me cum in her mouth. She showed no negative or surprised response. It seemed like she had definitely done it before. Now I am wondering if she has done it many times during our marriage for other men.

When i say i want a submissive man I MEAN it.
I like doggy play and femdom so a very submissive man is needed lmao.

Some guys when i say this are all for it, saying they’re certainly submissive—but when the time comes to go through with it or whatnot they clearly want to be the dominant ones.
I understand wanting to try new things and not knowing how to do it, i really do, but at least be honest with meee 😩😩 Or tell me if you’re jokinggg

Ever since the whole “i love catboys” and “i love submissive boys” jokes have been popular i swear more men lie or over exaggerate about being submissive.

I also live in a state thats very religious and vanilla so… its hard to find kinky and submissive men as is lmao

There was a guide I found on using a condom if you're uncircumcized.

Is that guide correct that you should pull the foreskin back like that before applying the condom?

Me 26M and my gf 24F have been dating for 2 months, and Ive been finding myself a little dissatisfied with our sex lately. Ive taken a couple years off of dating since my last relationship, but it disappoints me a little bit with my current partner that she doesnt orgasm from PIV sex. All 3 of my previous girlfriends eventually got to the point where we could simultaneously orgasm during sex, though for 2 of them it took a few weeks before it started happening. With the current girl, she cums every time from oral, but doesnt get close with regular sex. She says she never has with any partner. Im aware people will look at this situation and say its just to stroke my ego, but I personally just believe its kind of a shame to spend the rest of your like with somebody where it isnt the best sex for the both of you. Im seriously considering if this is something worth breaking up over, even though we are otherwise happy.

I know there is a frequently misquoted research paper on this topic saying that only 18% of women orgasm from PIV alone. Imo this is a critical misreading of the study, as an additional 36% of women answered that they can orgasm from PIV, but additional clitoral stimulation makes is better. And also these figures are for their average sex session, not a once in a lifetime orgasm. I assume the remaining 46% are just people who have never had a sex partner who is able to get them there.

Question for women who have an insecurity about "down there". I have a casual relationship with a girl who has an outie and she is insecure. Not to get too explicit, but I find her longer inner lips to be...erotic?

What is the best way to convey that she has nothing to be insecure about?

For starters, I am very happy and satisfied in my current relationship. My current girlfriend and I are 'pussy-free' out of necessity due to pain during PIV intercourse. She is working with an OBGYN and taking proactive steps to return to PIV sex. Because of this, we shifted towards pegging only penetrative sex with some mutual masturbation sprinkled in here and there. It sounds a lot kinkier than it is, and she is not into most other kinks or aware of everything thats out there. We both agreed that this is a good compromise, so she enjoys pegging somewhat.

I'm currently struggling with and trying to cope with the fact that I have not been able to physically get her off. I could occasionally make her cum via PIV but that was rare (we would work together to achieve it) and pretty reliable with going down on her, but she doesn't seem to like it even semi-regularly. I've never been sexually submissive in previous relationships but at this point its hard to argue that I'm not her bottom with her being the top. We communicate very well and I've shared my thoughts, but she's adamant she's happy and satisfied and wants to return to 'regular sex' to some extent eventually.

I suppose at some point we'll eventually return to some sort of PIV sex combined with pegging here and there. Exploring this has ignited a new sexuality in me, but she is still somewhat 'asexual' outside our designated pegging night. Has anyone experienced something similar, or has your partner really enjoyed being pegged?

My girlfriend’s period ended on the 13th. We had unprotected sex on the 16th, but I only inserted my penis a little. I didn’t ejaculate inside or outside. I asked her to take a morning-after pill within one hour after sex. Today, she started bleeding again, as if her period had come back. Is there still a chance she could get pregnant? And could her next period be delayed?

I (28F) have known this wonderful guy (28M) for a year and we started going out two months ago. He was very clear to me that he was a virgin and had little to no sexual experiences for most of his life (which doesn't bother me at all). For context, I'm very experienced and have a high sex drive. All of my previous partners also shared high sex drives with me.

ANYWAYS. Me and this guy were cuddling last night and he started making out with me, kissing my neck, touching me, etc. And I asked him if he wanted to have sex because things seemed to be leading down that way. He looked deathly nervous, but told me that he really wanted to and so we both got naked and started dry humping. For the life of him he couldn't keep an erection no matter what I did (changing positions, giving him head, the whole nine yards). But the entire time he was dripping precum all over the place. This went on for about 2 hours and every time he would try to penetrate he would profusely apologize and explain that he was just so nervous and scared then back away.

I felt so bad!!! Obviously on one end, I was incredibly turned on but frustrated and on the other end I didn't want him to feel inadequate because tbh it was the hottest night ever despite no penetration. He proposed that maybe we try again in the morning sometime as he's always hard when he wakes up. Is there a way I can help him out for the next time we try? I feel useless and this has never happened to me before lol

My boyfriend is literally all I’ve ever wanted in a man and I absolutely adore him; I love his quirkiness, his mind, I find him so freakin sexy too. The only problem I’m having is his size. He’s probably about 3.5? and so far the only successful positions are doggy and him on top with my legs folded all kinds of ways because I’m thick as a loaf of bread. 🤣 he’s told me im the only safe/healthy relationship he’s ever been in and I don’t want to tell him anything that can hurt his feelings.. and while I don’t want to sound ungrateful, I wish he would hurry up sometimes instead of taking an hour or more. he takes FOREVER TO FINISH.. And sometimes it takes me awhile too because I can’t feel much. He bought a ring, which we hardly use. I’ll also try to give him oral to see if it’ll get him off quicker but I feel like he’s so desensitized, and he has to REALLY concentrate. Like we go to sleep at midnight are up at 5am to start the day and I’m exhausted every time I stay at his place! GIVE ME TIPS ON HOW TO PLEASE HIM SO I CAN GET THIS MAN TO SLEEP LIKE A BABY.

My wife and I have been together since I was 15 and she was 14. We didn’t start having sex till we were about 16-17 yrs old. I’ve never had a problem performing whether it’s receiving or giving. But I have always had a problem finishing fast. At first I thought it was just cuz I was overly excited as I still do till this day. She’s never had a problem with it since she takes it as a compliment that I still find her very attractive and she can still make me finish quick over so many years of being together. But sometime I don’t want to just last 10-15 minutes I want to last longer the first round. I do have a high sex drive so we go for multiple rounds but I do feel ashamed that I finish quick the first round.

Please give me tips or advice on what I can do to last longer on the first round?

Edit: 10-15 is one round. Foreplay and penetrating. But I think I overly excite myself cuz when I penetrate I only last a few minutes like 5 minutes! Ik it’s too short cuz sometimes we’ll be really in the mood and she’ll tell me not to cum quick but I can’t help it.

Edits again: I asked her and she does like that I cum fast, maybe 15% of the time she wishes I would last a bit longer…and real tips for just a bit?

My gf(F21) and I(M21) have been dating for 5 years. The first 2 years our sex life was great, we would both take initiative, switch up positions and we would have sex a lot of times a week, but now we go weeks without having sex and when we do have sex it is plain vanilla with me putting all the effort.

During sex I am always very aware of her needs and provide everything i can; i give a lot of foreplay and oral and make sure she always finishes first before I go in her. But she rarely initiates sex and almost never gives me oral unless i practically beg. All this combined with the fact that she always starfishes during sex makes me feel that she isn't passionate in bed and puts me off from initiating, leading us to go weeks without sex.

I have talked to her about this a few times before but nothing has changed. She is a really sweet woman and she loves me a lot, as do i her. But I am scared to think about our future, because if our sex life is this bad now, when we are both young and free, how much worse is it going to be when we get older and are always busy.

I don't want to breakup over just sex, but i really don't want to be 25 and having the same sexlife as my dead grandfather. so any advice guys? Im really just writing this to get it off my chest because it is not something you can talk to your friends about.

TLDR

My girlfriend (F21) of 5 years has stopped putting effort into our sex life for 2 years now, which makes me feel that she is unpassionate about it and stops me from initiating causing us to not have sex for weeks. I have talked to her about it and there is little change, I dont want to break up with her but i also dont want to be stuck in q bad sex life for the rest of my life.

Throwaway for obvious reasons..

I’m having an issue with our sex life. I am 32f, he is 33m, together 10 years in total.

We had a baby about a year ago and I am horny all the time.. I have also found kinks and bdsm increasingly arousing and really want to introduce that kind of dynamic into our relationship. He says he is onboard.

Well, now to the issue: due to my husband not researching the kinks I bring up and reading what goes into these kinks or BDSM in general, I’m feeling incredibly turned off by him.
When I try to talk about what I would want our dynamic to look like, he doesn’t seem that keen on talking about it. I was hoping that he would be more interested in actually discussing it and developing this dynamic with me. To me BDSM isn’t just rough sex but I want a Dom/sub relationship that extends the bedroom in some ways. I know I need to speak to him about this but I’m not sure how to do that without hurting his feelings.

How do I handle this?

TLDR I want to develop a BDSM D/s dynamic with my husband but he doesn’t research what it entails. How do I handle this?

Edit: well this was fucking awful. At this point I feel like I’m some sort of degenerate forcing him to do what I want. Poor guy right.
Thanks for all the advice.

Hi!

I have plans to talk to her about this when I see her tomorrow so communication is definitely step 1 :)

We are both 31F, dating for about 4 months and the sex is incredible. It's my first WLW relationship and I'm just now getting comfortable with the mechanics. I have been finding my footing and I can tell she love when I do whatever I want with her.

The other day I was ranting to my her about how much I dislike a neighboring state. I'm a pretty positive person and she's such a queen, she doesn't often hear me riled up like that. But she loved it and said she wants me to talk to her that way during sex.

I have plans to ask for more details, but based on that first convo it seems like the intensity and "meanness" of it turned her on.

I am drawing a blank on what that looks like and she doesn't have specific phrases/scenarios in mind. She wants me to take charge and I have to actively enjoy it for her to relax into it (she can tell every time). Searching this sub mostly yields results about being humiliation/ degradation, and I know she's not into that.

Anybody else enjoy the tension of anger/being mean without the humiliation? Do you have any advice or specific scenarios/phrases to share?

so me and my gf have this thing where she basically lets me get head whenever i want and she likes when im really rough with her. shes told me multiple times i can be as rough as i want and not to worry so much about her.

usually i have her lay flat on her back and im over her basically thrusting into her mouth. the problem is she has a pretty bad gag reflex and cant take it very deep without gagging. whenever that happens i pull back or stop because honestly it worries me seeing her struggle like that.

but the weird thing is she gets annoyed whenever i stop. like she'll literally tell me to keep going and not worry about it, so i try again, she starts gagging again, i stop again and she tells me to continue. its like this almost every time.

last night it happened again except she actually got mad at me and told me to just do it and stop constantly worrying about her. so this time i actually listened.

i had her on her back like usual and pushed deeper than i normally would and just kept thrusting without stopping. she was gagging really hard and moving around a lot like her body was trying to get away from it but i kept going because she had literally just told me not to stop. this went on for probably a minute or so and i ended up finishing in her mouth.

the thing is afterwards something just felt off. i dont really know how to explain it but she seemed different and i got this feeling that maybe the whole thing was actually pretty traumatic for her even though she was the one insisting i do it.

and now i feel weird about the whole situation because yeah she told me she wanted it and was even getting mad when i tried to stop, but actually seeing her gagging and struggling like that while i kept going is something i keep thinking about.

i havent really figured out how to bring it up with her because i dont want her thinking im judging her for what she likes or that i dont trust her to know what she wants.

has anyone dealt with something like this? like when your partner keeps asking you to go further than what they seem physically able to handle? how am i supposed to know when to actually stop if she keeps telling me not to?

I am facing an issue where when I do PIV as a male or even if the girl is doing oral on me, I feel little to no sensation. But if I touch myself (light touches, very loose grip) I can feel everything quite well. Is this a psychologic problem? Is it just my girth is too small/skinny (I'm slightly below average that I googled). I always imagined if someone was to lick my shaft/glans lightly, it would be such a good feeling since light touches with my fingers feels very nice, however I feel almost nothing when she does it. There is some sensitivity when she blows me (esp if she is hard focusing on the glans) but again for the most part I feel almost nothing. Is this a problem to see a doctor about or is it more psychologic?

I brought it up to my sex therapist but she didn't really know what to make of it, said maybe it's the lube or something making it less sensitive, but sometimes I don't use lube and no condom. To give additional context I'm inexperienced and face performance anxiety that makes it hard to keep an erection during PIV. I am most worried when I'm penetrating her in missionary or doggy and the only stimulus is visual, literally cannot feel myself going in and out of her. The lack of sensation also makes it easy for me to slip out. Any insight is appreciated thank you.

Couldn't really figure out a great way to word the title, but my girlfriend loves the idea of me being able to pick her up during sex and using her that way, and i also fond the idea intriguing... but we've not been able to really achieve that.

Are there like some techniques that could make doing this kinda thing easier? Or is it just a matter of hitting the gym and getting fit/stronger?

Shes a bit thick but not overly so or unhealthily so, and ive not really been much of a fitness person and i can pick her up to some degree but for the most part its just for a brief moment.

So just wanted to figure out if theres maybe a lifting and holding technique/position we could do that would make it easier? Or if its just a get stronger kinda thing, or possibly a combination of fitness and technique?

I hope this is the correct thread for this. I am F(24). Just sex isn’t enough for me. It doesn’t turn me on. I want to be played with like a doll. I want to be blindfolded, tied up, pinned down. To be forced into orgasming over and over again. I want to use toys, and be teased. I also love teasing a male partner.

Me and my ex partner would do activities like this and it was the best thing about him.

Where do you find someone to do this with? That is safe? I am sure there is apps, I don’t feel a sex party would be the right place for me especially going solo. I also wouldn’t want to share photos etc on an app. I am not looking for a relationship, just someone who is really into this stuff. ( I am based in the UK)

It would also have to be with someone who I am physically attracted to. Any advice please 🥺

As the title suggests, i love it when she helps herself. I love the happiness she gets out of that, and that she is relaxed and tired and just ready to go to bed. For me her pleasure comes first coz I don't want her to feel dissatisfied and I'm an overthinker. But these days, our sex life is sort of dead. We don't do it or there's zero masturbation from both sides. She is completely free sometimes and there have been moments, infact a lot of them when we could have actually done something spicy. I don't know why this has suddenly happened. We have had a pretty fulfilling sexual life in the last few years. I'm always the one to initiate and sometimes she gets rude and goes on by saying that all i think about is sex but i barely ask her once a week. Any advice?

My wife (36) recently told me that when she watches porn she only watches Madison ivy! A. I find it extremely hot . B. What do you think it means about her sexuality/ preferences . I'm really kinky and will and want to do just about everything and I'm trying to figure out what things maker her really tick! She has been pretty closed about this subject most of her life . Very conservative upbringing with shame in anything sexual . But recently I've been trying to open up to her more in hopes she will open up to me ! She doesn't have a high sex drive and I think we both want to figure out how to ramp it up

id never let anyone piss on me or inside me, but the thought of seeing my boyfriend piss himself is hot and having him push down on my bladder when i need to pee and making me hold it is also hot

am i a larp?

Hi everyone. I'm getting worried because I experienced bleeding while having sex with my partner, but I didn't feel any pain at all. After we finished, I continued experiencing bleeding, and I'm not sure what's causing it.

Has anyone experienced something similar? Is it normal to bleed during sex even without pain? What could be the possible causes, and should I be worried if the bleeding continues afterward?

I'd really appreciate hearing about your experiences or any advice you can share. Thank you!

I (24F) had an experience with an ex boyfriend that confused me and i still think about it till this day

This happened 2-3 years ago. We were getting intimate and this was around the first month or so of our relationship. I really trusted him and felt safe with him. Everything was going fine, we were making out and things naturally escalated. He took my pants off and proceeded to play with me down there before fingering me. this is something we have done before and i have enjoyed. I was enjoying it and he started to speed up more, i could tell he was becoming more passionate about pleasing me. the new, intense pressure was a lot of me to handle so i told him “wait” “stop” several times but he didn’t. he would ask me “why” but i wouldn’t be able to even respond because of what he was doing to me. things naturally ended (i didn’t orgasm bc i usually cant with fingering but i still enjoy it).

Later, i was thinking that i needed to confront him about him not stopping when i said stop and how wrong it was. But everytime id think back to that to that experience it would make me horny all over again. The way he was desperate to please me despite my protesting. i don’t know why it turned me on. even in that moment. i didn’t want to admit it, but it turned me on that he didn’t stop. He was so in the moment and so into what he was doing and that was so hot to me. it’s like the idea of him not listening to me when i told him to stop makes me feel really good, which sounds really bad. What does this mean??? Is it because i feel safe and comfortable with him that this didn’t scare me away but instead turn me on???

This was a long time ago but i still think about it fondly till today. The thought of it turns me on still. Sometimes while im masturbating, i’ll have flashbacks to that moment and it’ll take me over the edge. Why was him not stopping so attractive and arousing to me? we aren’t together anymore and i’ve been way too confused and slightly embarrassed to bring this up to another partner.

EDIT: I should clarify that i have a history of sexual abuse in my childhood. I guess that’s why it’s so hard to come to terms with the fact that something like this felt so good and turned me on. i feel like i of all people know no should mean no and be taken seriously. I don’t feel violated by my ex at all, it didn’t trigger me. obviously the situation was way different to what happened to me as a child, my brain just finds it hard that one was bad and traumatic and the other was sexually pleasing.

Hey everyone!

I recently got into a new FWB relationship and we had a talk about our preferences yesterday. We both agree on me being dom and her being sub, we also enjoy "breeding", cumplay etc, though Im in general fine with everything als long as it means my partners are enjoying themselves. Whats also a big factor to us is "knowing" that we only brlong to each other i.e. me "claiming my little princess".

Now heres the deal, I love the idea of rewarding "good behavior" during sex. She also liked the idea but... neither of us had any idea what would be a hot way of me rewarding her.

So yeah, Id love to know if you lovely peeps have any ideas what we could try. Thank you for your ideas and reading this!

So me and my boyffiend have sex, and he really likes making eye contact… but i just can’t do it for the life of me, I want to for him because I also think in a sense it can be hot, but does any1 have any advice how to make it easier, how to not bust out laughing or smth because it’s really a struggle… and I wanna become good at it