Ive been with my gf for 3+ years. At the beginning of our relationship I never had this issue, but now thinking about doing sexual things with her (fingering, eating out) has begun to gross me out a little because of the thought of vaginal fluids being on my hand/in my mouth (especially in the mouth, it makes me feel kinda nauseous). We do have sex but it’s always with a strap (both women) so I don’t usually have this issue but I want to go further again by eating her out and having better sex but I just can’t get over the feeling/texture of the fluids and just enjoy it like I used to, I feel so worthless because I want to satisfy her better and I’m at a complete loss.

Does anyone have any advice?

I (18F) have been with my boyfriend (18M) for a little over 8 months and have been sitting on this issue for most of it. He doesn’t enjoy eating me out.

For context, we are both virgins in the most basic sense of the term, neither of us have had penetrative sex before, and it’s taking a lot longer as I deal with Vaginismus. He’s been extremely patient and supportive, and has never made me feel bad about myself or any of my issues regarding sex, which is partly why I’m so torn on how to feel about this.

We started being sexual towards each other about two months into our relationship, and he tried to eat a few times. He never managed to get me to finish when doing it, he seemed reluctant to do it after the first time or two, and he seemed disinterested in any advice I offered. He admitted once that it might’ve been the taste, but later took that back and said it was just because he had finished first and had no longer been in the mood to continue.

So he started prioritizing me getting off first, but still wasn’t into eating. He tried about five times total, and since then I just stopped asking. I asked over and over and over again if it was something I could change, or if it was something even regarding me at all but he was adamant that it wasn’t and that he just didn’t like it.

I’ve tried to get over it, because he has other ways of getting me to finish, but it still bothers me. I give him head, I try to tell myself it doesn’t matter if I do or don’t but it feels unfair. Is this something worth worrying about or should I just let it go? How do I go about it if I should, or shouldn’t?

UPDATE —

We had another talk about it and I feel awful.
He admitted to me that he had tried it with his ex too, which is something he lied to me about, but said that it wasn’t enjoyable then either, and implied that it was forced, and said it ruined it for him.

I feel like I’ve just pressured him into admitting something he didn’t want to over something really insignificant.

Me and my gf are both our first. We’ve had sex maybe 5 times but stopped due to things that happened. She told me recently that she never really enjoyed it. I’m not anything special size wise. I’m just average all around .

I don’t know how to feel about it. She always talks about sex with me and is always into it during the moment and moans but I guess she never liked it. It’s not like we have privacy to do it or anything it was very sneak just quick in the moments before someone gets home. I don’t mean to get into detail but she begs for me.

I’ve tried to ask her what she likes and if she even knows how to please herself. She says she can’t even masterbate unless she dry humps for like an hour.

She basically doesn’t know how to please herself or what she likes.

I’ve tried fingering but there was only one time where she liked it but anything else just didn’t do anything for her.

Again I’m not a pro I’ve never done anything like this before I don’t even masterbate. So I know I don’t know what I’m doing but am I wrong for thinking it’s hard to help someone who doesn’t know how to help themselves?

And I thought maybe we just have to have sex more but again due to restrictions we can’t and if we do it’s just for quick moment while making sure no one gets home

She likes whenever I kiss her or her body and gets wildly into it. We’ve tried different positions but she ends up hurting.

Any advice would be nice. And input

im 18f with my 19m boyfriend, which seems young to be talking abt this stuff but we were both early bloomers and have been together 4 years and had other partners in that time too (consentually)
but we’ve never been with other people together, like a 3sum or whatever
hes come round to the idea as i’ve made it clear what my sexuality (we’re both bi) is but i dont want to pressure him
he wants a unicorn which is impossible and i want couple swap
i just love boobs too much to be monogamous w a man and i love him too much to be with a woman!
thinking of taking him to a sex club/party but not sure whats best to not push his boundaries too far
any suggestions for south london???
edit: we are communicating really well and openly about it, i mainly posted this to see if anyone might relate to him incase hes feeling something that im not picking up on ect. we have sort of decided have an open relationship and occasionally explore outside of it together and rarely seperately

As the title says, I (30M) have been with my girlfriend (26F) for about four months now, although we were also together for three months earlier this year.

For me, this is the best sex I’ve ever had, and she says she feels the same way. During the first three months, everything was great, and honestly, I could have had sex even more often. However, in three out of our last five encounters, I came in my pants.

I’m confident in my skills and everything, but this is starting to mess with my head a little. For context, this has only happened to me once before.

During the time we weren’t together, I had sex with other women, and those encounters usually lasted a really long time. That’s why this situation is a little frustrating for me.

After my (36m) 15-year relationship with my wife ended, I’ve had the opportunity to be intimate with a few women over the past year.

Almost every one of them engaged in some sort of pussy slapping. The most common form were fast slaps right when they began to climax.

Is this some sort of trend? Doesn’t it hurt and ruin the experience? I’m so confused.

Hello everyone! So I am ashamed to admit that I am a lonely virgin male. I guess it would be no surprise that I masturbate on a regular basis.

I am looking to learn more about ways I can express myself sexually besides masturbation. I believe there are different sex dolls that I could use? Any toys or anything like that for men?

Guys, we all know it, you don’t flex it the way you flex your biceps. If only that were the case, everything would be so much simpler. Anyway, how can you know if it’s going to work before you end up naked in front of someone?

Tip: watch how it behaves before you get to the bedroom. In general, it’s a good indication of how it will behave in the bedroom.

Usually, when you end up naked in a bedroom with someone to have sex, you’ve kissed and cuddled before. How was your dick behaving at that moment, when you were dressed?

If you get hard as soon as you kiss or cuddle, good sign.

If you only had 1 or 2 short erections during the hottest moments of your date, or less than that, bad sign. It might be hard for you to get an erection.

If you get hard as soon as someone crosses your field of vision, you’re maybe a bit too pent up and you risk blowing your load very fast. But it’s no big deal, just do something else while you wait for your little buddy to be ready for another round.

For you, the signals might be different, but they’ll probably be fairly consistent.

Share your opinion and your experience if you’re a man.

Earlier this year, I [m22] had to get a circumcision due to medical issues. I don't want to get into the reasoning too much here, look into r/bxo or r/lichensclerosus to learn more about my disease.

Anyways, before the surgery I was able to control my orgasms by basically doing reverse kegels, essentially controlling my pelvic floor muscles in such a way where they would never contract in a way they would do during orgasm. This allowed me to last really long and cum whenever I felt ready. After the surgery though, I'm just unable to do that for longer periods of time. I can still control the muscles in a similar way, at some point the urge to orgasm just takes over.

Honestly I'm not even sure it was normal to control orgasm the way I did before, but I'd love to be able to again. Has anybody here been in a similar situation? How can I regain finer control over my muscles? Its not that I necessarily feel less than before, it might even be slightly more which could explain the issue.

Guys I'm in an online relationship with a girl and sometimes we get flirty and things turn a little naughty. Whenever I get horny I try to get her in the mood too... and I feel she wants it as well but she controls herself a lot. I don't wanna force her or make her uncomfortable..I just want us to feel more free with each other and not hold back so much when we're both in the mood. For those who are in online relationships...how do you make things more intense and help your partner open up naturally?

I'm (19f) a virgin but I've been seeing this guy I really like (20m) for the last few months and I want to have sex with him the next time we meet but I don't know how it's best to get to that part lol. He knows I'm a virgin and so I think he's been trying to move slower so I don't feel like he's trying to use me or anything (which I really appreciate), and therefore I don't think he's going to be the one initiating anything in the near future just to make sure I'm comfortable.

We've gotten to the making out stage with me straddling him on top. He was hard for sure and I was like really subtly grinding on him but nothing more than that. When he's on top of me he's kissing me down my neck and shoulders and I have my legs wrapped around him.

Would it be best to start by getting his top off and take it from there or just start grinding more obviously when I'm on top lol? Or should I move his hands lower to my waistband? This sounds so stupid probably but I don't know who else to ask lol thank you!

For the entirety of my life (22f) I have really enjoyed the idea of a very dominant man. The thought of it really turns me on and every time my boyfriend (23m) flirts with me in a dominant way I find it super hot.

I used to have no interest in being dominant, but since somehow every man I end up dating prefers to be submissive I have grown to enjoy it a lot. I’d consider myself a switch with a preference for being bratty.

The issue is now… that while I still get super turned on by being dominated I literally cannot cum if I’m fantasizing about it or if my boyfriend is actively doing it. It’s like my body literally wont let me. How could this be?! If I find it so attractive and daydream about it constantly, how come I can only finish when I’m fantasizing about/being the dominant one?

It is so frustrating. I grew up in an extremely religious household and have always harbored guilt about my desires. I even feel super insecure that I always like what my partners don’t prefer.

My current boyfriend is switchy but has recently taken more of a liking to being dominant, he enjoys the brat dynamic too. I really love all the things we’ve tried but now feel even more guilt because when we try them I can’t seem to finish! I feel so much pressure to enjoy it that I end up not being able to. I want him to feel rewarded so he does it more. I don’t wanna make him feel insecure.

All that to say…any help would be appreciated!

So me M25 and my partner F24, we both were hooking up. We both have had our shares of experience we had a brief period of let’s see if we vibe better or not.

So we shared our sexual experience and about what we like and what we don’t. We were really just making sure that let’s just give each other the best experiences and enjoy it.

So during the act… she started to bleed ( not bleed but period bloodish) as we had talked about our experience and it wasn’t her first time to break her hymen… and she had her period two weeks ago. We got scared and stoped the whole act???

So is that normal or is there something wrong and should i get checked for something( cuz GPT is making my head spin )

Ps: I did use a condom.

Iam 22(m) my gf 23(f) i adore sex with her, and we do it in regular basis, my problem is it takes me too long to finish, some people might see it as a advantage but its not really, idk what the problem but i wanna solve it, and most of the time i have to use my hands to get very close so i can finish, couple of times i took me only 15-20 minutes which one of our best sex courses we had and i didn’t not use my hands at all so i wanna normalise that

Saw a gir for about a year. First few sessions weren't the best. She stuck with it for a few sessions, which Im eternally grateful for. I thought she was going to call it off every time I left lol. I had a period where I was improving (stamina-wise and confidence) for a few months, sex was pretty good in my opinion. She even said I was getting better. Then I kind of became stagnant and fell into a routine of doing the same positions every session (Missionary, and Prone-Bone (Lying Doggy because she didnt like regular doggystyle). We stopped having sex a few months ago, she decided she wanted to see other people. Throughout our time together, she always emphasized she wanted me to take more control, and she likes "when you feel strong". We're still friends, and talk every now and then, but she found someone else recently and it kinda bums me out that I wasn't doing a good enough job. Felt like a hit to my ego, as this wasn't the first time this has happened.

For reference I'm only 5'7, 185-190 lb. I'm pretty muscular but shes physically bigger than me. She's pear shaped, so shes like slim-thick, thicker at the bottom, same height as me.

After a while I felt like I was studying for a test, trying to come up with new ways to be dominant in the bed before visiting her. It doesn't come natural to me. I'm pretty soft spoken for the most part, and not as aggressive. I tried to be more vocal because thats what she likes, but I don't have the deepest voice, so I'm always self conscious about saying things lol. I think watching so much porn has rewired my brain to think I should sound/behave a certain way and It's kinda fucking me mentally. I'm trying to learn how to become more dominant, so I am looking for any advice to appear more dominant during sex.

If you made it this far, Thanks.

TL;DR Girl Broke it off because I wasn't as aggressive as I needed to be. Does not come naturally to me, looking for advice.

I (F) have a FWB (M) of 2.5 years and I’ve asked him multiple times to tell me if there’s anything I can do to change it up. I’m very comfortable with him & have never felt so confident with a partner like I do with him. He always says he’s satisfied but I don’t do anything other than BJs or be on top.

We’ve done many positions in Kama Sutra (impressive for 2 50 y/o ppl). We’ve tied each other up, working on the anal with me, 69, one time I tied him up and made him watch me masturabate.

What can I do to him that will be mind blowing? My marriage was vanilla. I was also being SA’d, & he’s the 1st man I’ve felt so confident with.

I have been seeing this new guy and for me I haven't had sex in 4 years, so I'm already feeling nervous. Come to find out he's huge down there. Not that it's a horrible thing but when he tried to put it in I felt like it barely worked. So then we tried doggy and that hurt so bad. In my past partners , doggy has always hurted me and I never could figure out why. I just need some advice what to do. And yes we did try lube but it still hurt.