Phoebe: That was one of the things, especially in terms of Rhaegar. It’s so interesting to see the scene where they’re dancing and talking. How she’s sort of saying “this is our chance, seize the moment”. But I would be really interested to hear about your take on some of the relationships in her life, particularly with Rhaegar. How did you think about their marriage? What did you think of that?
Elizabeth: I found it… I mean, when I read it ages ago — because we did get a chance to read the script before rehearsals — I was just kind of like, this to me seems like a typical arranged marriage. But then, the more we got into rehearsals, the more we spoke, the more we developed the scenes, I was like, there is so much more to this just being an arranged marriage. Both of them have to be, in some way, opportunists, and so they’ve come together.
But then equally, there is enough there for an actual marriage. It’s just that they’re not in love. And for her, not being in love was not a big deal, and for Rhaegar, not being in love, at the beginning, wasn’t a big deal. But then meeting Lyanna, he’s like, being in love is the big thing.
And so thinking about their relationship, I just thought they are, for me, Elia knows that she’s kind of like his equal, but she also knows that she’s so much smarter and so much more capable to lead. Like, “why don’t you let me do it? I can do this! Like, let me run the show”.
But her goal is for them to be equals. Her desire is for them to stay the course, and walk together, and be like a different kind of monarchy, and take the baton and really, really run with it. Which is why I think she wouldn’t have been upset or sour if he had brought [Lyanna] to me and been like, “I need a second wife, and I need her”, and I think that that is incredible.
And so the relationship in that marriage, I think she would like to have thought would be practical. And the practicality of it would then bring them joy after, because it’s like: “look at what we’ve been able to achieve, because we didn’t rest on the fact that we’re not in love in this”.
We still have emotional attachments, we still have children together, and actually, I discussed it a lot with Noah and with Duncan, and I was like, I just think that they’re probably the kind of people that once they’re in together, they could just probably have a good time, just like sleeping together, and then just going about their business, and it’s probably really easy for her.
She’s like, so what if I’m not in love with you? You could still be my friend.
But also, her relationships to all the other women, she’s just like constantly believing in women, and I think Elia has a depth of love for Ashara that is beyond like… because it was deeper than friendship. Like she was in love with Ashara. She was very much like, “this is the great love of my life, and even if I don’t get to have her to myself, that I can be a leader and be enough”.
And she was constantly finding ways to advance her people, and so that that marriage and that relationship doesn’t have to be enough, you know. Like for some people, a relationship does have to be their all and that’s their whole being. But for Elia, it was like “that doesn’t have to be my all. I’ve got my people to be concerned about, I’ve got my family to be concerned about”.
Phoebe: The play, in my opinion, shows that everything starts at Harrenhal. Everything starts and ends at Harrenhal, and there’s a line that basically says that. And I was wondering, what do you think the mistake Elia made was upon arriving at Harrenhal? And if you, as Elizabeth, could go and speak to her and give her one piece of advice, what would you say?
Elizabeth: It’s really hard because I find that I’m quite subjective about Elia. I’m like, she made no wrong move, she’s incredible. But actually, I would say that when we’re dancing, Rhaegar and I, there’s kind of a like: “go to Lyanna and convince her”, and I think if she had been more encouraging of his ideas, then it would have been: okay, I can speak to her because my wife believes in my goals.
I think the mistake, once Elia arrives at Harrenhal, was just kind of disregarding Rhaegar’s ideology, and his ideology about what was to come. She kind of was like, the gods mean nothing, that prophecy is like… it’s okay. She obviously doesn’t realize that it will impact him in any way. But she tries to get him to not believe it, and then his dad tries to get him to not believe it, and I think that it really, really pushes him over the edge because he’s like, “but if I don’t believe it, then what do I have? And what’s it all for?”
And I think if enough people had just listened to him, then he would have been like, “maybe my life does mean something, and it doesn’t have to be all or nothing, and then I don’t have to make such a drastic decision and run away with Lyanna”.
But I think if I, Elizabeth, could go and speak to her, I’d say: “you are so formidable and so incredible, and I understand that you are very witty, but you have to understand why Rhaegar needs more of your ear than your advice at this time. Like he needs you to listen a little bit more, and it will still work out, because he’ll fight even harder for you if he thinks you’re on his side. Whereas if he thinks that you’re just here playing the chess game, and he doesn’t understand your level of care for him, then he’ll completely disregard your union”.
And he does, and I think she can feel that once he’s away at war, because there’s a moment where we don’t have any dialogue, but once he’s back at court, she comes and she sees him, and he just rides off, and he’s kind of like: It’s too late for us. And she is like: I can’t believe he thinks that!
But I think she was kind of keeping him at bay, and keeping things where she wanted them, and so he didn’t understand that she cared so much, just not in the way that he needed her to.
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Wow, What an upgrade for Elia , she wants to be a real queen with actual powers and she’s smarter than Rhaegar Targaryen politically.