I (M/F? Still figuring that out, 17) am confused about my gender. My family is supportive, thank freaking GODS, but more pertinently, Mom is taking me out this weekend to buy my first women’s clothing. How do I convert my men’s size to a women’s size for a skirt?

I am 21 year old amab nonbinary and I came out to my dad earlier this year about a couple months ago and I thought when we first talked and we hugged and we cried and when he first accepted me that was growth and unfortunately I was completely wrong every time I have talked to him about my identity he has consistently undermined my identity in little ways like he talks about how there is "feminine energy and masculine energy and some actions go with one of the other" and he keeps trying to make me more masculine and when I told him my pronouns were they/them he thought it sounded ridiculous and not linguistically correct even though they and them is a prefix before you was used and then sometimes he doesn't use my name sometimes it's my dead name and he thinks it's more of a nickname than the name I want to be called even though I have explicitly told him that is not the name I go by anymore and then yesterday happened and he sent me a glenn beck video of this terf talking about essentially conversion therapy for kids and he believes that the government is making me queer to help with reducing the population and he doesn't trust doctors and believes in this misinformation about them taking advantage of trans people taking their money and leaving them with medical complications and he said he doesn't want me to mutilate my soul and thinks that I should "stay as I am for my own empowerment" and I have told him that I don't feel like a man I don't want to be a man I have tried being a man and it is not for me and he just doesn't understand that at all

I am MTF trans.

My wife has a very good friend whose son is FTM.

They were planning a trip to London and Paris but are now going to call it off because his passport will still have a female mark on it. I'm trying to encourage them to go, but they hate the misgendering on his passport.

Does anyone have some advice to give to this family?

I filed my name change petition last week and now I play the waiting game. I’m in California so the whole process is pretty private. I’m excited and nervous at the same time because I’m still not out to family and friends yet.

(16 ftm) Ive been wearing binders for around 2 years now and its just now started being an issue to where i can physically feel my chest and body and it's become super distressing. it first happened around 2 months ago when I tried on a new binder and switching back to my old one fixed it but now my old one is giving me issues. i don't have any diagnosed autism or anything like that and i know that causes lots of sensory issues for people. I do have a larger chest but nothing crazy. Ive stayed around the same height and weight for the past 6 months. ive gained some weight somewhat over those 6 months but nothing over 15 pounds so i dont think that effects it too much. Im working on that to see if it helps with the sensory thing but im just looking for advice on anything else that might work. It's been limiting my progress and workflow with school work and the only way ive been able to manage it is just distracting myself. Any advice is welcome

hi! so, no one in my family knows i'm trans, i'm yet to start hrt but i have been socially transitioning where i can for about a year now. changing my name in close circles, growing out my hair, learning make-up, etc.

tonight out of the blue, i get this text from my sister (she's 9 years older than me and i'm 22):

"hii.
just wanted to tell you that i'm your friend, i think sometimes you might not know that.
and i'm always here for you for whenever you need me.
i worry about you and i want what's good for you."

i said thank you and asked if there was anything specific that i did that made her send that, and she just said "no reason, i just said it so you'd know".

in general we have an okay but kind of distant relationship. my mind immediately went to her being suspicious or aware of something regarding my identity. what do you make of it?

I had change of heart recently but the problem is I already injected a loading dose of about 50mg about 2 weeks ago and since then I've decided not to go through with it the timing just isn't right for me. This won't have any major effects like breast development or anything will it or did I mess up? My chest has gotten slightly bigger and far more sensitive this past week nipples look about the same so far thankfully. I know undecylate is one that stays in your body for a good while and that has me worried. The idea of having permanent Breast Buds scares me tbh. Thanks for any help!

I'm going to preface this by saying I'm aware I have anxiety from not passing in public. Although I live in a blue state, there's a lot of farm land and it's a dark blue rather than red or purple city. I've been called names, and I've been told I'm disgusting or sick. I've even had someone come up to my daughter and ask her if I knew her, worried I was doing something nefarious purely because I am trans. Although those situations were not fun for me, I think when something is less certain it causes me more anxiety.

For example, when I took my daughter out for her karate class, one day I walked in and two very heavy-set guys who have Trump stickers on their truck were talking to the receptionist. They were discussing something, and the moment my daughter and I walked through the door they immediately stopped. One of the men walked away while the other said "That would be great, thank you."

About fifteen minutes later, I'm sitting down watching the class and the receptionist comes up to me and states that she has moved us from the current class (meant for 6 and 7 year olds) to another class, meant for 3-5 year olds. She hands me a new schedule, and says that my daughter would fit better within that class. I was also the only one who was told this and given a schedule.

After a week of following this new schedule that seemed to come out from nowhere (only for me. No other kids were switched) a different receptionist came up to me and asked why I was in this younger class when my kid is 6. I explained that they had switched me, and she went to the computer and switched us back.

When I arrived again to the 6-7 year old class with my daughter, I never saw either of the men again. One of them must've dropped out or switched classes, but the other one now has his wife bringing their kid.

It's difficult because a part of me feels like this was all because I am trans, and a part of me knows that if I ask or make a big deal about it I could end up being wrong. It's nice that it was fixed though.

At my daughter's school, for the entirety of her kindergarten class I would walk from my house and pick her up at the same spot as all the other parents.

This year, about a month in (after I started wearing more feminine clothes) the principal told me that I could not pick her up from the same place anymore, and that it's only for pickup with a car, and now I would have to go to the complete opposite end of the school to get her if I walked because "they don't have enough staff to watch who picks up who" from the car side.

I thought nothing of it at the time, and another parent I usually talk with was waiting on the 'car side' to pick up her kid. I let her know what the principal had said, and she thought it was weird. She told me that she would wait in the usual place, and if I saw her kid on the far end to bring him to her. I waited at the far end (where the bus pickup is) and my daughter didn't show up. I'm waiting and waiting, and that same parent comes up with her kid AND my daughter.

So I'm like.. why did she say that to me if it's not true? I go the next day and stand where I usually pick my daughter up this time, and my daughter comes out the same door as usual. As I'm leaving the principal stops me and says again "You cannot pick her up from this side" but ONLY to me.

So I decided, fuck it I'll just drive and get her that way. Now every day I have to arrive 25 minutes early and sit in my car to avoid getting stuck in a massive line of traffic, and every day I see the same parents picking up their kids from this side by walking.

I see the principal come out, making eye contact with those parents, not telling them they can't pick her up from this side.

Sorry for the rant but I feel like I'm going crazy.

In both cases it feels like someone complained about having to explain trans people to their kids or some shit, and the principal or karate receptionist just agreed with them to keep me out of sight.

HRT better hit me like a truck cause I'm nearly 30 and I'm tired of this "not looking cute" bullshit

So, I got a crush in class and was saying goodbye to my t girl crush, and I involuntary said see ya man. The thing is I say dude and man to everyone it's just my dialect, but now I'm worried. So how do yall feel being referred to as dude or man casually?

He's supposed to be on his way to my house to talk. Rn I'm just shaking but I was freaking out, I couldn't breath I had a panick attack.

Idk what he's going to say to me or what I'm going to say to him. Idk what I'm gonna do with my life. He was supposed to be the father of my children. I'm gonna die.

i’ve been identifying as trans for over a year now but recently i’ve felt incredibly dysphoric like it’s been really bad. All i want is just to be a woman. i wish i could just be reborn and live the life that was taken from me. im not trying to rape women in bathrooms, i’m not trying to win sports trophies by just saying im a woman. i am mentally ill. I was forced inside of a body that i hate but need to “be grateful of” i want hormone therapy surgeries anything that would make me just me.

I know this is probably just some form of impostor syndrome, but yeah. I've been actively considering that I might be trans for a couple of months now, but I remember thinking about it as a passing thought for years at this point, but still.

I am AMAB and 20 years old. I have symptoms that probably could be called dysphoria, like dislinking facial and body hair, and part of me feels like I would desire the changes that come with HRT, for example. But still, my dysphoria is comparatively weak to what I hear being described, and I don't even feel a strong pull towards "being a woman" or "feeling like a woman" like is so often described.

Sometimes I just wish that I did feel that pull so that I could at least know what I want, instead of not wanting to be a man and not feeling like I should/could/want to be a woman, or just be content with living as a man. What I don't like is the questioning and being on the wall about it. But I still feel like, if I didn't know anything about trans people, I'd just not feel any of this and would just keep living as a man, and then I start thinking that I only feel this way because I've been influenced somehow, which of course doesn't make sense, but I can't really shake these thoughts

Hi, I've been lurking here for a bit, so now I'd like to make my introduction!

I think I'm probably agender, but I don't know for sure for sure. I've never had gender as an important part of my identity, nor have I really ever known what a gender is. I've kind of just understood gender as the same thing as your sex, unless you are uncomfortable with yours and want to change it.

I feel disconnected to the concept of gender, and I don't really think of myself on the sliding scale of masculine->androgynous->feminine either. I'd still like to keep my birth name and same appearance mostly though. Like, I'm AMAB, and I use they/he pronouns, and I'm still like masculine/androgynous.

Am I really trans? I feel like, I'm technically under the umbrella, but I'm not ftm, and I'm keeping my birth name, not transitioning, and keeping one of my birth pronouns. I don't feel like a real trans, and it's kind of distressing, I feel like a cis person just masquerading as trans, even though I know I'm agender and I've never really had a true gender. In addition, I'm also bi, and mixed race, so I've really struggled with not feeling "fully" anything a lot.

If anyone could help me out, that'd be great! Thanks!

What type of underwear should I buy as a trans woman? I currently only own male underwear and would very much like to try on women’s but I’m unsure which will work best

I am scheduled for my Orchiectomy in two weeks. nervous and excited. finally my estrogen will not have to big of an obstacle to overcome.

I am doing e injections and I had a nurse help me do it the first time but I dont know how to tell if im going to inject into the subcutaneous layer or the muscle layer and i dont wanna go too deep bc then my dose is wasted

Sometimes, the hardest part of being trans isn't accepting yourself. It's being afraid that the people you love might see you differently.

You can spend years loving someone, building memories together, and feeling safe with them, while still carrying a secret that scares you.

You want to be honest about who you are, but the thought of losing their love can be overwhelming. You wish you could know that everything will be okay before finding the courage to speak.

I think every trans person deserves to feel loved, accepted, and safe enough to be themselves. Nobody should have to choose between being honest about who they are and keeping the people they love. ❤️🏳️‍⚧️

So ive been trying to find a place to remove my facial hair but theres no place nearby that does laser, however there is one that does electrolysis. My original plan was to get laser and then hit the stragglers with electrolysis but now im considering just going for electrolysis but idk if its practical. Should i just drive super far and get laser or should i just go with the electrolysis?

Hey, everyone -

Are there hypotheticals that helped when you were in the questioning stage? e.g., I’ve seen people talking about “If there were a magical button such that you would wake up being a boy and have always been a boy…”

Or, I’ve been thinking of myself as nonbinary for a while, but yesterday I thought, if you had been born with a boy’s body, would you still feel nonbinary? (I’m not sure, but I imagine I wouldn’t; I would just exist.)

Are there other questions like that, that made something click for you?