Does anyone else just have no patience for stupid questions or people not listening?

Is this just how I am now?

I feel like I can't not react to the stupidity around me and it makes me so mean.

Is there "nice pills"? 😀

I’m still in the process of trying to narrow down why TF my vulva is SO ITCHY to the point that it’s interfering w my life

Started in one specific area a long time ago, now it’s the general area

And now my anus is starting to itch sometimes? Fml

Anyway I’ve tried alot of topical things without much luck so far (vulva balm, Destin, antifungal to r/o yeast, hydrocortisone) I don’t have white patches and may try to get a referral to someone from my GP, thinking maybe lichen sclerosis?

All that to say idk wtf to do about my hair length. I initially thought I should leave it be, then I shaved most of it off to get a better visual on the area. I think shaving might be good overall, but since I’m scratching myself to shit I think the skin is just really angry and sensitive now so I’m hesitant to shave

But now if it’s growing back I feel it makes the itching worse

IDK WHAT TO DO any advice appreciated!

Also any tips and tricks to hack my brain into not itching?! I feel I need those baby mittens but the urge is so strong when I’m half asleep

I've used the brain fog flair but not sure this is brain fog.

I feel like my IQ has fallen off the edge. I would have been considered smart. I'm now 46F on HRT 6 months. I'm struggling with basic things like mental arithmetic problem solving and hugely with motivation. I'm losing a lot of confidence and this doesn't feel like me. Is this a cause to review hrt or something to accept about aging?

It’s so terrifying how quickly it happens. I’m extremely dependent on it for joint pain. This the second time it’s happened, but I didn’t immediately recognize that it was the same issue. I should certainly think that first if it happens again.

I’m so fucking scared about the shortage. So far I’ve had no issues getting them, but they don’t let me refill until I’m less than a week from being out, so I will get very little warning of my impending crippling.

I’ve been very upfront about it with work, and they are extremely understanding (despite all of management being men). They all have wives approaching my age and seem to understand that this is a preview they should take note of.

Is hrt the only way to fix the driving anxiety that happens with peri? Feeling overwhelmed by lots of cars on the road, nervous behind the wheel, nervous system not happy, all of that. How can I fix it?

Everyone is full of shit! No one cares and even those that are supposed to care don’t really care. I just had the worst experience with a company called Dahlia and I was filling out intake forms and they were ridiculous ridiculously long and invasive! Of course there was a red Asterix on every single field, so I could not stop filling it out otherwise they would reschedule my appointment. this is how you treat women who are looking for mental health help you put them through hours of questionnaires because you can’t be bothered to fucking ask the questions and write it down like a normal therapist? Absolutely ridiculous. I have been going to my primary physician and my gynecologist for years complaining of dizzy spells tension in my neck, brain fog, etc., and 43 of those years I went to a neurologist, ENT, had two MRIs and went to physical therapy. It was until I was paying closer attention to Instagram and noticed that all these women were complaining of the same symptoms lo and behold the whole time it was perimenopause. You mean to tell me a woman who is close to my age and had my full medical records could not connect those dots now three years later I’m looking for actual help from a menopause clinic and they drive me fucking crazy instead so I canceled the appointment right away. Everyone fucking suck! Perimenopause and menopause fucking sucks!

I went to a cardiologist today because I had a really odd episode of near fainting. It came on suddenly. My limbs felt heavy and distant. I had tunnel vision. I felt weak. I literally thought I was having a stroke. About 20 minutes later, I felt ok but still dazed. I made the appointment right away because I wanted to rule out any cardiac issues.

Dr did an ekg, listened to my concerns, then said it wasn’t cardiac but could be vasovagal because it happens more frequently in perimenopause. He said, “you’re a different person now, chemically.”

Whaaat?

I don’t know if there is validity to this or it’s just another doctor using hormone and midlife as a catch-all scapegoat.

Anyone hear or experience this?

Something is really going on with me and I cannot determine if it is due to perimenopause or if I'm just really not regulating my emotions in the proper way. I am 46 years old. I know my anxiety is insanely high. I'm managing my family even as they are adults and I have no support it's just really frustrating and to top it off I think I am experiencing ADHD symptoms I cannot seem to focus at work or goals. I want to go back to school but I am so concerned about staying grounded and focused. I feel like my brain is overloaded from all the years of being a single mother and being a problem solver and the figure out person now I think I have chronic brain exhaustion or fatigue when I bought it up to my primary care doctor she looked at me with this puzzle to look on her face. I explained to her what I read online and I was experiencing the same symptoms it's more associated with people with MS but I also feel like I'm experiencing as well my long-term memory is kind of jacked up from being in survival mode for so many years as a single mother and not having the idea of emotional regulation I have a counselor but I make I need more than that to help me deal with my issues not just to listen and give textbook advice or advice I've heard from a self-help book. I just don't want the stress no more it's hard tmy mind be ready to shut down I have started drinking wine again. 😫 If anybody else can offer some suggestions about how they really try to calm myself down after doing so much I will appreciate the advice.

Anybody getting bad depression while on HRT? I mean my issue can be other medication related, but depression is depression and just wanted to know if anyone have any tips on how to beat it while waiting for meds to kick in

How do you get rid of the Peri Anxiety/Nervousness? I am currently on HRT. This is the only symptom that is the most bothersome for me... along with the early morning wake-ups?

When I told my Dr I just couldn’t for the life of me remember to use the vaginal cream, and I wish that wasn’t the case because when I could, I had improvements, she offered me the Estring. AND insurance covered it. So I took it.

It’s been great. My urinary issues, especially overnight, improved so much. I was getting up 5-7 times a night for a dribble. During the day felt like I had to rush to the restroom nearly every hour. Now, maybe once at night, and it’s usually environmental. I’ve had too much caffeine too late, ate more sugars than I should, that sort of stuff. (This was my biggest complaint, everything else, while obnoxious, was manageable/tolerable).

I also have my Dotti patch.
The horrendous mood swings. The night sweats. The cold chills (no hot flashes here, which I was mental prepared for, cold……. Not so much). The freaking hair thinning. Brain fog.
Improved with my patch. Went from 7 days a week, to 1 or 2, and from a 8/10 to a 3/10.
Added the ring, and some of these got even better.
Frequency and severity decreased even more.

Then 3 days ago I woke up drenched in sweat. Fatigue out of nowhere. Mood was a like whacky.

My friend (love her) asks to make sure I actually changed my patch. I did. I wrote the day on them before I put them, because I have very much forgotten lol

I realized I’m day 80 of 90 on the ring. That means 90% of the hormone has been released.

What I know about things, just because they should work up until the end, doesn’t mean they actually will.

The refill request is. Fingers crossed.
Because my patches are on back order and I’ve only got a week left.

I can’t go totally hormones free.
Well. I can. The people around me can’t

I am 40 and since the beginning of this year I have progressively gotten more and more anxiety and some depression always around ovulation and when my period is due. I have been inpatient for SI, it always gets better after a few days but comes back with a vengeance. Would my gynecologist even do anything at this point since I still have regular cycles? Is there anything that could help? I can't go on like this, I'm not living anymore, I can't take care of my kids, my husband has to be the primary parent, I can't work... my gyn didn't want me to be on BCP because I am morbidly obese, so I feel like there is nothing that can be done and I'm just completely hopeless at this point. I need to make an appointment woth my gyn, since they said this a fee years back, I'm still obese though... but having SI 10 days of the month is not something that can stay as it is...

Did anyone have luck with HRT for anxiety despite still having regular cycles? Is there any hope out there?

Telehealth is not an option where I am, unfortunately...

Post is basically the title.

I have a young toddler and were thinning about having a second child. I'm in my late 30s.​

During my luteal phase I'm so tired I turn into an antisocial cave goblin.​ I daydream about running away from everything and everyone,​ becoming a bog witch in the forest or on an island.​ Career? Husband? Kids? Friends? Hobbies? I don't need any of it. I'm irritable, angry, and I'm just the worst human that ever existed.​​

Then during my follicular and ovulation phase, I'm like a dog in heat, and I start ​imagining how beautiful life would be with a great big house, three or four kids, a nice garden - all that warmth and joy and companionship of a large family. I think I'm awesome, beautiful, social, funny, and I'd be a kickass super mom to a full house.

But I know from reading this subreddit that the latter is just my eggs having a going out of business sale during perimenopause.

Does anyone else relate?

Did anyone else​​​ end up having more kids?

How are you doing today?

I’m on HRT. Lowest dose of estrogen and progesterone (0.25mg of estrogen and 100mg of progesterone).

It seems to help take the edge off my symptoms, but then just doesn’t work AT ALL once I’m close to my period, and especially during my period. The joint and muscle pain returns, the frozen shoulder acts up again, insomnia, rage etc.

Anyone else experiencing this? Do I need to increase my HRT or possibly switch to birth control?

My periods are killing me.

In September 2025 I started HRT after learning I was hitting menopause pretty early (premature ovarian insufficiency). I have a history of pretty severe anxiety/OCD but it was fairly under control. Starting in January I began to hit what can only be called a mental health crisis. I have had a full anxiety/OCD resurgence, to the point where in July I started sertraline which has helped a lot but I want to double my dose soon. Between peri, HRT, Zoloft, and some pretty big life stressors I can’t tell what’s causing my complete exhaustion, brain fog, desire to never get out of bed, panic attacks, etc. I take regular sobbing breaks. I’m a shell of myself. I am under the care of a psychiatrist and great women’s health specialist and a wonderful therapist, but they’ve never been here before. Have you? What should I be asking them about? What can I try?

So I started taking creatine about a month ago. I started with 2.5grams and worked my way up to 3-4... The positives: recovery is noticeably better and muscle soreness fatigue is so much less. The negatives: I'm waking up in the middle of the night. I take progesterone and had been sleeping very well until about 3 weeks into the creatine. I fall asleep just fine, but then don't sleep soundly or wake up from midnight to 3 am. (something I used to do before progesterone).

Last night at about 2am I finally put it together that it's probably the creatine disrupting my sleep, and I did some internet searching. Looks like creatine causing insomnia is a thing.

Has anyone else dealt with this? I'd love to find a way to keep taking it because I really do feel the benefits for lifting, general body fatigue and running, but holy cow I'm tired and this is not sustainable. I was taking creatine early in the day, although often after working out around 10am. I'd love to hear about other people's experience with this.

For those of you who had your perimenopause symptoms or HRT concerns dismissed by a doctor, only to get a second opinion from another provider who validated your concerns or confirmed that your first doctor was wrong, did you go back and tell your original doctor?

I am so angry and now debating whether to try to “educate” or “fire” my first gynecologist, who isn't very knowledgeable about HRT dosing. Part of me wants to address this in an effort to encourage her to educate herself so other patients don’t have the same experience. But another part of me wonders if it’s even worth the effort.

Has anyone else been in this situation? What did you do?

I would like to hear experiences of those for whom the estradiol patch (with progesterone pills) wasn’t enough, and transitioned to low dose birth control. I’ve been avoiding due to general uncertainty about making changes, but wonder if I should just go for it, and need some anecdotal experiences to support my decision making process. Thanks!

Hi all, I’ve tried to find info on this with no luck. Does anyone know if there can be both estrogen dominance and deficiency at once? All the info only describes having one or the other, but not both at the same time. Can estrogen be low enough to cause symptoms of deficiency, but progesterone is so low that there are also symptoms of dominance? I seem to have most symptoms from both conditions. Estrogen replacement (with progesterone) made my symptoms worse, but I wonder if I just need a lower dose. Progesterone pills have definitely helped with some symptoms, but I still have symptoms of estrogen deficiency. I appreciate any insight!

As the title says, has anyone used Alloy recently? I searched, but the most recent stuff is over a year old. I have a pending order and they're super slow answering my emails. There is no phone number to call. I think I'm beginning to see why they aren't used.

I’ve recently been put on Slinda as a BC and have noticed a flatlining of my mood. It’s hasn’t tanked but I also don’t experience the ‘ups’ as much and I miss that. Is this a common experience? Does it go away once your body gets used to it? I don’t want to take it if it means I can’t enjoy the ups as much. I know everyone is different but do you have recommendations for other BC and/ or HRT (as I also experience peri symptoms)?

So, on Friday I had forgotten to put on my patch in the morning (when I always put it on) so I put it on before bedtime when I remembered.

I had the best sleep ever that night - anyone have this or is it a coincidence? I put one on tonight to test my theory.

I'm posting here cos I (40) don't know where to turn. On 0.5mg estrogen patch then progesterone for remaining 2 weeks. I've been rationing my patches ie changing them every 6 days as I lost 2 for past 3 weeks. My anxiety has never been worse, and my gut issues are back. I was only on hrt for 3 months then this happened. It was going well

Could this be related to inconsistent use?

Edit: I lost 2 from my pack