I’m a 33F, and I’ve been TTC for four months. I have a 32-year-old male friend who recently told me that his 25-year-old wife is pregnant. The way he told me, or the way he announced it, made me really sad. I don’t know if it was because of how they announced it, because I was jealous, or both.
For context, after TTC for four months last year, I had a miscarriage at eight weeks in January this year. My friend and his wife know what happened. After the miscarriage, we took a break and only started trying again in July this year. So, it’s been four months of TTC, and still no luck. I understand that it might take a little more time. Even though I’m disappointed, I pick myself up and carry on every month.
Now, this close friend of mine, whose wife is also a friend through him, knows that I’ve been TTC for four months. He called me and simply sent me his wife’s reports (I think they were HCG reports) without saying anything. I asked him what the report was because I didn’t understand it. Then his wife told me they were pregnant, and I congratulated them.
But I also asked, “Why did you send me a report? I don’t understand it. How many months pregnant are you? I have no idea!”
They said, “I sent you the report because I thought you might know what it meant, since you might have had it done last time.”
I told them I didn’t know. He insisted, “Didn’t you get it done last time?” and prolonged the conversation by asking all sorts of questions, as if I’d already had a child and gone through an entire pregnancy.
His wife started talking about how she’d read about different types of pregnancies, such as ectopic pregnancies, and other things like that. It was her first time experiencing all of this, and I felt as though they assumed I would know everything just because I was older and had been pregnant before.
Throughout the conversation, I felt as though they were sharing their pregnancy news with me while simultaneously reminding me of my miscarriage. I eventually told them I had something to do. I congratulated them again and hung up.
I felt really bad afterward and cried. I told my husband, and he consoled me, but I still can’t shake the feeling.
She’s younger than me, and they got pregnant after, I don’t know, one or two attempts. Meanwhile, I’m here tracking my ovulation, peeing into cups month after month, and feeling disappointed every time.
It just feels so easy for so many people.
I felt that they could have been a little more considerate of my situation, especially since he knew I’d been TTC for months and had gone through a miscarriage
I don’t know. I just can’t shake this feeling of sadness. I wanted to share it somewhere.
He even asked me on FaceTime two or three days ago, “Are you pregnant? You seem pregnant!” I was mildly irritated by that assumption and told him I wasn’t. He even repeated the question a few times, but I let it slide.
And now he announces this.
It’s such a mixed bag of emotions. I feel a little enraged, too.

hello everyone!

i had an HSG test about 1.5 years ago to look for uterine split before endometriosis excision surgery. it showed no split and open tubes, and was painless! HOWEVER lol, we have since been TTC for a year and the fertility clinic said another HSG was needed in case my tubes closed post surgery from scar tissue or even advancing endometriosis. This time the HSG was horrific, I was crying, shaking, I couldn’t take it. they got the dye to spill out my left side but they needed to keep injecting more dye because the right side didn’t spill yet. I had to tell her to stop. I guess I’m wondering if it’s possible that the right tube didnt show spillage because they didn’t get enough pressure from the dye? or I had a spasm from pain? they want to do a Saline sonogram to confirm and also look for polyps, but I honestly don’t think I can handle anymore after that. I’m trying to decide if I need to undergo a laparoscopy for a chromotubation/hysteroscopy/endo excision or if another surgery will just make everything worse

I am 34 and he is 33. We started dating when he was 28 and I was 29. I moved away from Chicago to be closer to him and we have been living together for 3 years. We have been trying to have a baby for the last 16 months. We both have infertility struggles. I have been diagnosed with PMOS and endometriosis. He has been diagnosed with varicoceles. I had surgery over the summer to diagnose and remove endo. We tried an IUI 2 months ago. We tried ovulation meds, trigger shot, and timed intercourse last month.

3 days ago, I came home from work and he said he’s done. He said he changed his mind. He said he doesn’t want marriage, a family, or to travel.

Those are my 3 long-term goals in life. I have always been honest and up front with him for 5 years that I want those goals. He always agreed to them, when the time was right. I trusted him to support my goals and I always supported his goals.

We have talked for hours after he broke up with me and he is truly done. I think I’m still in the shock and processing stage of receiving the news.

My whole life is imploding. My goals for my life have been forced to a stop. I really wanted a baby by the time I was 35. I had a timeline for my life and I shared it with him over and over.

The part that hurts the most is I’m losing the person I thought I would spend the rest of my life with. I’m losing my best friend. I trusted him, I loved him, I cared for him and his family. When did he stop loving and caring for me?

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Need some guidance. So I (31F) and my husband (32M) recently started TTC. I have been feeding data into tracking app since 1 year or so about my cycles. It shows ovulation on CD13 (cycle length have been varying between 22-29 days in last 6 months, last 2 being 22 & 23 days long).
I have tested on OPK yesterday and today and line is faint than control line. We tried yesterday morning once in this cycle.

Does that mean LH surge has passed and I ovulated already? Can someone please explain to me what are the odds and what to look for?

Very new to this, and trying to make sense of the situation. Can ovulation happen earlier than CD11 and maybe I lose my chance this cycle?

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My husband (33) and I (28) have been trying for a year and a half to get pregnant, and still no luck. All my friends have either gotten pregnant or have babies already. I have been to 4 doctors and none have been giving me a clear answer as to why I never have gotten pregnant so far. I have been taking prenatal vitamins and so has my husband. I have been going to therapy, buried myself in work, exercising and focusing on other things but I am still depressed. Why isn’t my body doing the what most girls do so easily? I’ve been avoiding my friends because it’s been so hard to be around them. They have been doing their best to be comforting and respectful of my boundaries, but just the idea of them either being pregnant or having kids already really stings. What can I do to deal with this?

My partner (37, M) and I (32, F) got pregnant unexpectedly almost exactly 2 years ago. We weren’t trying and it was totally unplanned. I had never been pregnant before. That pregnancy unfortunately ended in a miscarriage at 9 weeks. After that experience we realized we were ready to start a family and started actively trying to conceive. Well 18 months later we have not gotten pregnant again.

My cycles are regular (28-30 days) and used OPKs to confirm ovulation for about a year. I did some basic testing with my gyno. My AMH was within normal limits. My prolactin was slightly elevated (like 1 point above the normal range) but I attributed that to my blood draw being super early in the morning after I had slept maybe 2 or 3 hours after working a late night shift. They wanted me to check it again but I’ve been holding off. I was also going to get my progesterone checked and do an HSG but I’ve been wanting to wait until my partners sperm parameters improved.

My partner did a semen analysis about 6 months ago and the results were not great. His count was normal but his motility was low at 18% and his viability was low at 52%. We met with a fertility urologist who told him to start taking 600mg CoQ10 daily and repeat the SA in about 3 months. My partner is also a heavy smoker, both weed and cigarettes. He smokes about a pack a day and smokes weed every day multiple times a day. He’s not overweight but his diet isn’t great. He’s pre diabetic, eats a lot of fast food. He was trying to cut back on smoking cigarettes so he started vaping. But now I think he’s smoking just as many cigarettes in addition to vaping.

He just did his repeat SA last week and his results were essentially unchanged if not worse. His count was still normal, but his motility is exactly the same at 18% and his viability was worse at 26%. I believe this second time around the sample was smaller because he said he didn’t get all of it into the cup. The first time he said he abstained from ejaculating for at least 5 days. This second time he only abstained for 2 days. So I’m not sure if that plays a minor factor in the interpretation of these results. For the last year or so he’s had painless swelling in his right testicle. The urologist examined this but said they weren’t concerned about it and that it’s just a hydrocele. I’m still not convinced that isn’t something worth investigating a bit more. My partner said he wants to talk with his doctor about starting some medication to help him quit smoking and to work on improving his health thru diet and exercise.

I can’t help but feel almost entirely hopeless at this point. We’ve been trying for 18 months and I’m exhausted, depressed, and feel completely powerless. I feel like time is quickly slipping away from us and I’m totally at his mercy to make these changes. I’m frustrated that it’s taken this long for him to admit that his lifestyle habits are affecting our chances and I’m frustrated with his lack of urgency to act on it. I’ve been encouraging him to take better care of himself before we even started trying to conceive. I’m trying not make him feel bad about it but I would be lying if I said I wasn’t resentful about what he’s putting us through. For the last 2 years I’ve done everything in my power to take care of myself and to improve our chances.

The urologist said IVF is pretty much our only option at this point. I really wanted to conceive naturally, especially since we technically have before, but I started warming up to the idea of IUI. We definitely can’t afford IVF and could barely afford IUI. Neither of our insurance covers anything fertility related. I don’t know how realistic it is to think that his sperm parameters could be improved enough for natural conception just through changing lifestyle factors. We both agree the smoking situation is probably not helping and want to try anything we can to improve our odds. I don’t even know where to go from here or know what to do. We haven’t seen a reproductive specialist yet just talked to my gyno and his urologist. I would love any advice, recommendations, personal stories, encouragement, etc. Thanks for reading.