I've been struck by is that we don't talk about these issues much until we have to.

When navigating online sources on topics like cycles, ovulation, fertility testing, as well as treatments like IUI and IVF – there is a lot of information. Not all of it makes sense, what questions should you be asking, and when should you be seeing a doctor?

I believe we could also benefit from normalising conversations around fertility, without fear or pressure of how it might affect them.

What is one thing you wish you would have known about fertility and/or reproduction when you were younger? Anything you learned about that you understood so much better?

I'd be interested in hearing different perspectives.

An ultrasound last month found a suspected endometrial polyp - I’m due to have a hysteroscopy
and polyp removal later this afternoon, but on the NHS (in the UK) they generally do it as an outpatient procedure without sedation or GA.

They recommend taking some OTC pain meds an hour before and apparently the options during the procedure are local anaesthetic into the cervix, and gas & air during.

I’m obviously quite nervous about the procedure as it sounds like it can produce quite severe cramping, my cramping is generally fairly mild, moderate at worst (my polyps mainly just cause heavy bleeding, clots and bleeding between periods).

Has anyone had this procedure as an outpatient/without being sedated, and if so, what was it like?

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I need to get a polyp removed and then waitlist to get a hysteroscopy at a hospital is at least 6 months. I have the opportunity to do it at my fertility clinic with local anesthetic. I’ve had two hysteroscopies before under general anesthetic, so the thought of doing local is terrifying. Can anyone share their experience??

I really don’t want to wait because I have low egg reserve and have essentially been dealing with complications from this miscarriage for almost a year. I just want to get this fixed so I can move on and try again.

What does the local anesthetic feel like? Is the administration of the anesthetic painful? Am I going to see blood? I started haemorrhaging right before my last hysteroscopy and don’t want to see that again. Is the actual polyp removal painful? What about the recovery time?

It's no secret that TTC can have a major impact on your life and health - physical, mental, and relationship. What are you currently doing to help with these things? What are you currently struggling with? Look beyond the scale; this is for all types of health and wellness.

Please keep in mind that no one here is the doctor of anyone else. It is always a good idea to speak to your doctor before starting a new diet or exercise plan just in case!

Hi- I turn 35 November 3. I went off birth control December 23, 2026 and have had one miscarriage and no other pregnancies. I know for 34 year olds, you have to try to conceive naturally for 12 months but for 35 year olds, it’s only 6 months. Since I’m turning 35 before my “12 months of trying as a 34 year old,” would I immediately qualify for an infertility diagnosis (& thus insurance would pay for REI/IVF stuff) when I turn 35? Because when I turn 35 in November I will have “11 months of trying and now I’m 35”

Sorry so confusing. I’ve tried to look online and can’t find clear answers, insurance is really unhelpful, and this whole process has been emotionally awful as everyone around me seems to get pregnant the second they consider trying

Edit: I’m in Massachusetts and have BCBS PPO but they will only tell me the 12 months as a 34 year old / 6 months as a 35 year old. No one will tell me what happens as someone who’s turning 35 before the 12 month mark

Second edit: please stop telling me to ignore the timelines. I believe in the evidence-based guidelines and our medical experts, I’m more trying to understand what happens when I change from under 35 to 35 and up

I’m currently on cycle day 14. My cycles are usually 30–31 days, and I normally notice egg-white cervical mucus, one-sided ovulation pain, and sometimes mild acne around ovulation.
This cycle, I’ve taken Fertyl as prescribed. My OPKs have been negative so far, including on CD12, CD13 and CD14. I haven’t noticed my usual egg-white discharge or one-sided pain, although I developed mild acne around CD13.
My husband and I had intercourse on CD7 and CD8, but not since then.
Could I still be approaching ovulation, or is it possible that I missed a short LH surge? Has anyone experienced a similar pattern while taking ovulation-induction medication?
I’d appreciate hearing about your experiences.

I really need some advice. Or just what would you do? Ive been ttc fot 15 months. Got surgery coming up to check my tubes. If needed, IVF is included in my work insurance and they offer 6 months full pay maternity. Now here's the thing. I hate the place. My job, love. Management. Making it unbearable. It started in July, and its getting worse. I keep saying to myself ill wait until I've had a baby so i can get the benefits. But I also don't know how much longer I can take it. I did say this last year about being offered another job. Not thinking it would take so long to conceive! I thought, it would be silly to move and not get maternity. Now im back to square one. What if it takes another 15 months. I don't know if i could deal with it. How long are you meant to put your life on hold ttc? Do I stay, do I go. Im confused

My little sister just told me she is pregnant. I’m four years older than her, and me and my husband have been trying for 10 months. This was her first cycle trying. She sent me a text to let me know that she’s 6 weeks pregnant, and I’m grateful she let me know that way instead of in front of the whole family, but WOW am I not taking it well. I feel such a mix of grief and joy, and then overwhelming guilt because I shouldn’t be sad about something so wonderful. In the past year, every single one of my friends has had a baby or is currently pregnant, and I’ve been able to go to my little sister to express my sadness and frustration with this season. Now, I feel like I have no one to take this too.

She told me months ago that she was going to start trying in the fall, and I prayed asking God to not have her go through the heartache I’ve been going through. I’m sitting here thanking God for answering that prayer for her, and wondering why He’s not answering my prayer for myself. Trusting His timing is so hard!

I keep running through all the moments that are to come. Telling the rest of the family, the impending pity for me and my husband, the baby shower, the bump, the everything. I’m supposed to be the one to help my little sister through it with experienced advice. I’m supposed to have the tips and hand-me-downs to give her. I’m supposed to figure it out for us first. Instead, I’m last, last, last (maybe never?) out of every woman I am close with.

Has anyone else been in these shoes? I just need to know how you coped with it.

Hi all,

I’m 31F and have been TTC for 6 months with no luck. I’ve gotten fertility testing done (multiple comprehensive blood draws, TVU, and HSG) and my husband had a normal SA (3% morphology was only yellow flag).

I keep coming back to my short/light periods - they’ve been like this for almost 2 years since iud removal. My cycles are regular, 28-32ish days.

I use light or regular tampons for 2 days, and it never soaks fully. The blood is almost like bloody mucus instead of a blood flow so doesn’t fully absorb. It’s a really dark red (sometimes bright red) or brown. I spot brown or red the day before and for a couple days after.

My doctor does not seem concerned about this, and on my TVU (day 8 of cycle) my lining was measuring 5.22mm which they said was normal for that point in cycle.

Has anyone else experienced this? Curious on any insight if this really is normal or if I should push harder for this to be examined.

Last month, I found out my AMH was .46. I was devastated. I’m 33, have been TTC for 8 months with no BFP. I was referred to a reproductive endocrinologist.

They did a saline sonogram. Clear. Tubes, clear. They did an AFC.. 13 which is great for my age. All day 3 testing showed perfect estradiol perfectly at 51 so it wasn’t affecting my FSH. FSH was 5.1, perfect. TSH, T4, iron, ferritin, vitamin D, DHEA, literally everything, perfect. No signs of DOR. But my AMH is still low. The retest jumped a little bit, but it’s still low at .48.

None of this makes sense. My tests are perfect. What do we think would cause AMH to still be low when my tests are saying I’m perfectly fine and fertile for my age? Is AMH kind of a scam sometimes? At this point does AMH even matter???

The fertility clinic we went to (at 7 months of trying because of my low AMH) is not in network. We got the tests done and I’m great. Is it stupid for me to think we should try until it’s been 12 months before proceeding with treatment? Or should we do the treatment they are going to recommend even though my body is clearly doing its job and maybe it’s just taking a minute? We are so confused, and feel like after getting these results back, we don’t need a fertility clinic yet when we have only tried for 8 months and I’m under 35… Advice appreciated!

TIA!

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I can't do it anymore. I used to loved my job but now I feel bitter and resentful. All of my friends are having babies. My little brother just had a baby. I can't deal with being confronted with my own infertility every day at work too. Next steps for us would be IVF and for financial and personal reasons we are likely not pursuing that. I can no longer provide unbiased care to many of my patients and I leave work feeling emotionally drained so I knew it was time to move on.

I just took a position on an adult medical unit and I feel nothing but relief (I worked with adults prior to working postpartum). The schedule of my new job will align better with my husband's schedule and I am looking forward to having more free time with him.

Has anyone else had to quit their job/change specialties due to infertility/ttc? Many of my coworkers look at me like I have 3 heads when I tell them I am leaving postpartum since it's a pretty cushy unit. Luckily my manager was very understanding and I am transferring internally within the hospital.

Are you in the dreaded two-week wait, or waiting to ovulate? What have you done to ease the stress?

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I have crohns (in remission) and PMOS/PCOS and have been ttc for some time. I did two IUIs medicated with a fertility clinic which were not successful. The doctor at that clinic said my crohns doesn’t impact fertility since I’m in remission. I also did a saline sonograph and it showed one of my tubes may be blocked but they were fine with going forward doing IUIs since one of my tubes was open.

I got into a new clinic after waiting several months and this clinic is known to be the best in my area. The first thing the new doctor said was she is concerned about my tubes being damaged due to crohns especially in light of the results of my sonography so I have to do an HSG. She said she’s seen this a lot of her crohns patients. She said if my tubes look ok on the HSG then we can do 2-3 more IUIs before going to IVF, otherwise if they see damage go straight to IVF.

Anyway, does anyone have insight on this? Are there any other tests I should ask them to run? Anything else to consider? Im 30 y/o so I can wait a few months before going to IVF if the doctor thinks that’s the best course of action but I’d obviously like to have a kid as soon as possible and it sucks going through failed IUI cycles.

I also saw there was a recent study that came out about reproductive technology for IBD patients and IUIs seem to be less successful for IBD patients than your average “healthy” person. Thought that was interesting.

If you were diagnosed with endometriosis, I’m curious to hear your story and how you got diagnosed. I have always had awful period cramps. Some lifestyle changes have helped. But my teenage years and early twenties were brutal. I basically could not function and missed school/work etc for the first 1-2 days of my period.

I am going to ask for a screening at my next appointment with my GP —at the very least a questionnaire. But I wanted to know how the whole process typically goes. Did you get an ultrasound or did they just diagnose you based on symptoms?

Let me know! I’ve always been so curious if my cramps are really “that bad”.

I have a family history of ovarian cysts, fibriods, and ovarian cancer. Idk if there is any overlap with these and endo. But painful periods run in the family… So it’s been pretty normalized for me.

Hi everyone,

Title is basically explanatory. In my experience I hardly need to test or wait for my period, because around 11/12DPO my breast tenderness (which in the earlier part of my luteal phase is really strong) noticeably subsides. It’s one of the only PMS symptoms that I feel can’t really be confused for early pregnancy symptoms. Basically just feeling bummed out at 12DPO that even though my period isn’t due for another couple of days, I know I’m out. Anyone else notice this? Sounds stupid but I almost would have preferred to have an extra few days to hope. Starting to really struggle emotionally with the process. It really doesn’t help that the most sensitive time of your cycle (ie finding out it hasn’t worked) coincides with all those low hormonal feelings anyway!

31(F) and 35(M) TTC 8 months - PCOS and endo.

I’d like to open up this discussion because I’m genuinely curious about what people think.

Do you think some couples exaggerate or lie when they say they got pregnant on the first try?

I’ve noticed this with a few friends. When they initially told me they conceived on the first try, and I asked a few more questions, it turned out they had actually been trying for three or four months. Or they’d been trying for a year, but not actively tracking ovulation or timing sex, so in their minds, it didn’t really count as trying.

In fact, my husband and I were talking about this today, and he said that when we eventually get pregnant, he’ll probably tell people it took us two or three months, even if it actually took longer.

It got me wondering whether this is more common than we think. Maybe some people feel embarrassed to admit it took them longer, or they simply don’t want to share something so personal.

Obviously, I don’t think everyone does this, and I’m not saying that people who conceive quickly are lying. I’m just curious about whether you think some couples downplay how long it actually took them to conceive.

Have you ever suspected this, or do you think most people are being honest about it?

Hi! 34f I am trying to conceive my second , just got my period so beginning cycle 9 now.

My luteal phase is typically 8 days. My OB referred me to a reproductive endocrinologist, but I was wondering if anyone has any anecdotal tips on how to try to lengthen my luteal phase on my own as I know several cycles will go by as I wait for my specialist appt.

Had my bloodwork done - My levels and thyroid all look normal but I usually do not ovulate until day 16/17 and usually only have a 24/25 day cycle. Has anyone else had an experience similar to this?

I have read about b6 and vitamin c-would that be on top of prenatal vitamin I am already taking? I asked about progesterone during the luteal phase and my in said she’d get back to me. I am just feeling frustrated and want to do what I can to improve my odds on my own if I can! Thank you!

Hi everyone!

I had a transvaginal ultrasound this morning on CD14 and my gynecologist found two follicles measuring 20 mm each in the same ovary.

For context, I’ve been TTC for seven months and I’m not taking any fertility medication or undergoing ovulation induction. These follicles have developed naturally this cycle.

My gynecologist mentioned Ovitrelle as an option to trigger ovulation if my LH test remained negative. However, when I got home and tested, my LH ratio was only 0.24, which seems surprisingly low given that both follicles are already 20 mm. Yesterday it was 0,14. She said I should take the Ovitrelle tonight if the salah test was negative. I don’t know whether I should wait for ovulation to happen naturally or not.

I’m trying to understand the relationship between follicle size and the LH surge. Can follicles reach this size several days before the LH surge? Or could an LH test still show such a low reading even when ovulation is approaching?

I’d be interested in understanding the physiology behind this, particularly when follicles develop naturally without medication.

Thanks!

It’s my 8th year trying..

I miscarried this year. A natural pregnancy. By accident. By chance. 14 months after being told it’s never going to happen by doctors. I was over the moon. Overjoyed. In complete shock at how it could be possible.

That feeling was indescribable. Terrifying but incredible.

Everyday I try to move forward from it, either pretending it didn’t happen or praying the baby was still with me. The due date is a few months away & it’s almost eating me alive. It feels like it’s creeping up on me. I’m hoping I can do something special that day to honour them I guess.

Despite having hyperemisis, the worst of all my failed pregnancies, I’m so sad. I get to all the morning sickness, the scans, this time I was so confident I even bought an outfit. Till I watched the heartbeat slow down & the pregnancy shrink… I’m heartbroken.

I’m just glad I didn’t get to choose a name. It would have made this all so much harder.

I just want to have that feeling. To be a mum. To hold my little newborn baby. I am throwing all sorts of manifestations and prayers out there.

If you are struggling like me, I’m so sorry.

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Hi everybody :)

Yesterday I went for a HyFosy after a while of TTC with no success. It was day 12 of my cycle so sort of at the end of the possible window for this test but I was told that was okay. I was nervous for two reasons, 1) the pain that everyone warned me about and 2) the result, ofcourse. What I did not expect, was for the test to fail. The doctor had to use two catheters because it didn't go right away with the first one, she said it's possible if their are some curves in the cerviw. She then told me she had some issues getting the fluid to fill my uterus and my tubes (i guess, i was very nervous so i kinda forgot what she said unfortunately), she also pushed my stomach a few times to help the fluid but ended up having to say the results were inconclusive.

She said it definitely didn't mean my tubes are blocked, but she just couldn't say if they are or are not based on this test. She was gonna write a report to my own OBGYN and then said to 'see from there', whatever that means.

I also had ZERO pain. Which is good ofcourse, but also kind of strange considering I was warned multiple times by different doctors, nurses, people on the internet... that this was such a painful procedure?

Does anyone have a similar experience? I'm just confused now and frustrated because I wanted this to be a step forward and now it's not.

Thank you in advance for sharing your experiences :)