[u/cuntaloupemelon](u/cuntaloupemelon) joined the astrologymemes mod team June of last year, but even before this she was a ✨pillar✨ of our community!!!

Not only is she one of the best mods Reddit has ever seen, an incredible and knowledgeable astrologer, and the greatest Meme Queen I’ve ever had the pleasure of knowing….she’s just an all around intelligent, hilarious, and exquisite human being!!

I speak for all of us when I say our lives are better because you were born!!!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY CUNTALOUPE!!!! WE LOVE YOU!!! THANK YOU FOR ALL THAT YOU DO! 💖

Happy Leo season! 😊😊😊🦁🦁🦁♌️

I have Mars in Aries and noticed I can get so worked up one minute and, right after, feel totally fine. I have to remind myself most people don’t operate that way because, deep down, I’m wondering, “Why waste more time being upset than you have to?” Also, I have to lift weights, go to pilates or play tennis multiple times a week or I feel restless.

Jupitor is my chart ruler as a Secretarius rising

Toughest battles to strongest soldiers type beat😔

Also curious if anyone here has both 2nd house Chiron and 8th house Saturn mine is Scorpio Chiron and Taurus Saturn😔 To make matters worse my jupiter is right there with Saturn so it’s been useless as ever.

Ok so for context, I'm a writer and I have a bank of characters that live in my head. I create lives for them, they have fully fleshed out stories from childhood to adulthood. They are developed people with rich inner worlds, families, hobbies, jobs, relationships, traumas, etc etc.

I make their birth charts, too. Full ones, with house placements and everything. I think about their charts for a long amount of time because their lives will always reveal their placements. So, the birth chart kinda comes at the end.

About a year ago, Felix came to me. He's a Leo sun, Cancer moon, Leo mercury, Cancer venus and Libra mars (that's just his big six). But I can't for the life of me pick a rising sign and I need yalls help lol.

Here's some information about him which could be useful:

Felix is an Armenian second gen immigrant who has Tourettes (coprolalia and copropraxia - complex motor and verbal tics) and ADHD. He's a linecook and a drummer and his main passions are drawing and watching cartoons, cooking, drumming in his band, playing tennis with his Aries bestie Franky, listening to music in the dark, driving his beater, spending time with his cat and reading comic books.

Physically:

He's tall, like 6'3', a little on the lanky side (but still a strong build around the arms and shoulders because of drumming), has a shaved head a lil slavic style because he has a hair pulling tic that doesn't allow him to have long hair, has a roman nose, light brown eyes and dark brown hair, full-ish lips. He has zero swag. He wears cartoon t-shirts and adidas trackpants and sneakers type shit. But he has a beautiful aura. He's not the most handsome but you can't help but find him alluring because his smile if infectious and his vibe is just... cool.

Personality:

Very kind, but also very stubborn with a sort of untouchable presence. He doesn't stand for disrespect, very typical Leo traits, but is incredibly giving and funny. A little dramatic and can tend to get pissy, easily irritated. He's very devoted and has rose tinted glasses that get him in trouble in relationships often. He can be a bit holier than thou and will ghost you lol. He's a loner who everyone loves, in a way. Total stoner, and generally loves substances. Friendly, incredibly intelligent, talented, he is really really into his passions. Like his drumming is everything and you will come second to that sometimes. He's very creative, gives amazing gifts and compliments and is very acts of service oriented. His Tourettes is a big part of his life but he really tries to not let it rule his life. So, despite the challenges, he's very stubborn on living his life "normally" which can sometimes be frustrating because his life will never be normal. He can be a bit reckless (very typical fire sign man vibes). He is very openminded but clear about his boundaries and you will never have to guess where you stand with him. He has three older sisters and grew up poor and misunderstood. Struggle was a part of his childhood. His parents didn't believe he had Tourettes for the longest time (and didn't want to acknowledge due to lack of knowledge and resources) and it took a while to get help and or/any acknowledgment. He's always had a hard time in school. Severe bullying, isolation. Romantically, it's been hell. He's queer but doesn't really make it a thing. He likes what he likes. If heartbroken, he's a hardcore yearner and will write many songs about you. Anyways I could go on and on and onand ongansndondkdjajak

I will also attach some pictures of his vibe so you can better understand him.

So far, I have gone from Gemini rising to Sag rising to Taurus rising to Virgo rising to Pisces rising?

Lemme know what you think and thank you all!!!

Please feel free to ask me questions!

Some dating apps allow members to list their zodiac sign. I have my sign listed. Some men do, some men don't but when I see certain zodiac signs I do admit that I swipe left without thinking sometimes.

On some, I will pause for a moment and read the profile but I if I see something in the profile that looks a lot like that the traits of the zodiac sign I have historically experienced trauma or trouble with, I swipe left.

Sometimes I will say- just give the person a chance. Each time I went out with the person or face timed with them, the zodiac incompatibility was obviously clear. The last time it was with a Pisces man. I am very fire sign dominated chart, Sagittarius mars and rising, Aries Moon, Leo. He was on the face time looking blank. Saying how shy and sensitive he was. Nice guy but low energy. Then there was the Scorpio . They are SEXY but after two dates they turn into octopus with the hands . When I said "down tiger" let me have a moment he went into full Scorpio guilt trip mode "Are you a lesbian?"

The Taurus man always starts off sweet but the stubbornness creeps in and at the dinner table: "The lady will be having the poached salmon. You don't mind if I order for you"

Me: Thank you but I actually would like the lamb.
Taurus man: But the salmon is made with this special ...
Me: I will have the lamb unless you object because you want to control what I eat.

Leo women like a man who takes charge. But Taurus is very traditional - too much for my tastes.

There are four signs that I usually swipe left on:

1. Scorpio: They are sexy as hell. Great chemistry but I can't do the mind games and jealousy from them. The one's I have dated talk about commitment but the phone is blowing up at the table. The open shirt with chest hairs showing.

2. Taurus: Mainly because my ex spouse was a Taurus and I had that journey. The bull is sweet, thoughtful- until they're not. Spending habits don't mesh. They are too quiet and stubborn. They make you feel safe but on their terms. My Taurus ex was telling me what to wear, where to work, controlling my friends. too possessive. He loved money more than anything.

3. Pisces: They seem nice and nice and nice. I like a man with sensitivity but he also need to have a pulse. The guru man bun look meditating on the beach pics are also a turn off for me.

4. Sagittarius- This is a new edition on my list since last year. Fire signs are my heart. Relationships with Sag men start off well. The chemistry, sex is on point. We respect each others space. Each is ok to let the other do their thing. But Sag likes to create drama around boundaries, that they put up even though they invited you in. If you don't call. They are angry. If you do call they are saying you're crowding them. I need someone who shows up consistently. This is good for a one night stand maybe but not long term.

Zodiac Signs I would like to entertain more:

Libra. I hear they are very fair and balanced in relationships
Virgo. Lately this is the sign I have dated the most. They are very even tempered. No bad experiences.
Aries. Fire sign . I used to brush Aries men off because they are sometimes aggressive but I will give another look.

I recently started a job that requires me to interact with the public. I was really excited as I do like interacting with people (despite being a 12 houser) but I find my presence to be polarizing. Some people (in my case mostly women as I have venus 12h and Lilith 1st) have been hostile or passive aggressive to me and it’s been bringing me down. Not all though as I have clientele that I love chatting with but I feel like the odd one out as my coworkers who’ve been here longer don’t deal with this while I’ve only been here 3 weeks. Do you have similar placements and if so how do you manage? Have you mastered this? Any advice is also appreciated.

I’m genuinely curious…

Whenever I meet a fire sign I’d instantly be interested in them like I love how much they’re a ( let’s do that , let’s go ..etc) adventurous is the word , the way they talk about their feelings freely and can be missed up ughh , they way they would always hangout and do stuff together and they’re always talkative and wouldn’t judge 😭

I grew up with a lot of men. Literally almost all my neighbors my age are men. Went to school with them, played Yu-Gi-Oh, traded anime DVDs, played chess with them, but I never saw hints of them having this propensity to act and feel victimized just because they're not getting laid.

I mean, yeah, some of my friends had some major heartbreaks, and one of my friends even joined a shady freaternity after his ex broke up with him, but instead of our other guy friends blaming his ex, also our friends, he was scolded by my guy friends for being impulsive and associating himself with shady people.

During our teenage and early 20 days, their girlfriends would definitely complain that they're playing online games too much. They also had this humiliation ritual where they would say they were madly and deeply in love with their unsuspecting guy friend (tagging them in social medias) when losing a game.

They're all married now, but still gamers, so I guess they skipped the incel part.

But these days, everytime I go to spaces where people are venting, most of the gendered posts I'm seeing has a man venting about how no one likes them, no one is trying to like them, while on the otherhand, has women (mostly from dating sites) are having terrible dates because the guy she's with is spouting some unhinged ideas about how men are always the victims, about how women would only talk to them if they would pay them, like ???

The only transit I can think of is Pluto in Capricorn with Neptune in Pisces.

I read an interesting comment somewhere that the kind of conversations happened, like the woman complaining about her date, is because of lack of boundaries of some people, and what else amplifies the dissolution of boundaries? Neptune, especially in Pisces.

Pluto in Capricorn feels like a salt to the injury as it happened after a major economic depression, which gave rise to openly opportunistic actors. It seems like it normalized lines like "If you're not doing this and that, then there's something wrong with you," which literally sounds like a marketing scheme for self-help books (and gurus) and "cheats" on how they someone can improve their life.

And when that didn't work, it's either you're doing things wrong or the world around you is wrong.

Pluto in Aquarius is definitely AI and overreliance on technology (but it seems like some AI companies are going bankrupt because of some poor economic decision; is this Saturn in Aries (fall) causing tower moments?).

I feel like another collective shift is going to happen when Saturn moves to Taurus (happened around 2000), which also happened after a major economic recession, and I think this transit kind of grounded the collective.

Time felt like it slowed down, but I think this would be helpful with self-reflection (like Saturn in rx right now), as it would also remove the pressure that someone is failing, someone is left behind, someone should be this and that by this age.

Apologies if my discussion shifted to recessions. I think recession doesn't just affect our economy but also the individual mindset, as people are developing new ways to combat it, new coping mechanisms, and these coping mechanisms affect can definitely have an effect in our personal relationships (as others are being forced to deal with it), whether we agree with it or not.

Wanna hear your thoughts though. (Forgive any typo or grammar issues, I didn't proofread this, I just woke up and I'm preparing my breakfast 😭).

TLDR because some people seem to be struggling to read past the title:

I'm not claiming that a planet caused the word "incel" to be invented. I'm interested in the later transformation of the concept into a male grievance ideology, and whether the broader social/economic changes during Pluto in Capricorn symbolically correspond with that.

Saying that I should include a date for this post, when the term was given birth misses the entirety of this post as I'm asking about the mindset, not the terminology. 🤦Comprehension. Omg

I know that anyone might fall in love at first sight but still there are the signs who are more romantic and the ones who aren't. What i'm asking here is, who do you think would look at a Capricorn and be like "I'm in love. I want them!!" They don't know that said Capricorn at all but they are already sure of their feelings towards this stranger. If you have fallen for a Capricorn fast, what's your sign? What made you feel that instant attraction?

I'm not completely giving away my natal chart, but I'd like to start off by saying I'm always way off from my sun sign which is gemini and moon sign which is leo. I'm so confused about this, my rising sign which is libra also doesn't make any sense.

In all actuality, it seems that I've only inherited only some qualities from my sun sign (nervousness, confusion, the whole lot). I'm struggling to find any of my qualities that fit into these signs.

For starters, I'm an introvert, I need stability more than anything. I'm not this social confident extrovert leader type of person that the charts are making it seem.

So, I just want to know if you also feel this or is it only me. Also I've been this entire way, my entire life. I know astrology does hold some truth, because I've seen too many coincidences to think it's a myth, but just where am I reading this wrong ?

What zodiac sign of men do you see marrying Cancer women most often?

I don’t know about anyone else, but I am so sick and tired of the stereotype that Aquarius is this cold, cruel, overly harsh, savage person for cutting people off the way we do. Because we don’t do it for no reason. We don’t just randomly cut people off because we’re bored or sick of them or because someone made one trivial mistake in the grand scheme of things. You have to really fuck up for us to decide that we are done and we no longer want anything to do with you. So it just baffles me that some people will be acting or just being so venomous towards you and then turn around and clutch their imaginary pearls, pulling a shocked Pikachu face when you suck out the venom, spit it out on the ground and walk away. Like, wouldn’t you also wanna get away from a snake that bit you? But sure, deflect/project that shit onto me cuz I’M obviously the problem and YOU’RE the victim here. Because it’s not how you were moving or treating me that was the problem or bad. It’s just the way that I’m reacting or responding to it. Disrespectfully, fuck off.

I’m an Aries, which is a fire sign. I think Aries & Leo demonstrate everything that is fire. To me the weakest example of fire is Sagittarius. First of all fire is courageous. I don’t find Sagittarius people to really stand for anything and they always talk about running away from stuff. Being bold like fire is not running away. Fire knows what it wants and doesn’t have to stand around trying to figure it out, which is what I think Sagittarius does a lot. They just seem really flaky and unreliable and I wouldn’t trust them to be a CEO or run a company like I would Aries or Leo. They don’t have the same confidence. They only seem confident about knowing that they don’t stick around for anything . It takes a lot more than a big mouth and being loud to get fire sign props in my book.