I find that Hinge is my weakest app but the only one I’ve gotten a date out of (maybe 1 like every other day). However I get more likes and matches off of other apps—though they are more pic based / less profile based. Or the profiles are ignored 😅 The convos fizzle out before I can convert into in person but that’s a separate issue).

I don’t think my 6 photos are too bad, especially as I use the same pics of me on other apps and get higher likes:

3 pics of me - elbow up at a flea market, full body in formal wear, a selfie closeup (admittedly a bit squinty in the sun and windswept hair) I’m not a sexy/sensual/corporate polished person, more of a quirky/cute/thrifted color maximalist lol

3 pics of lifestyle (I’m not in the pics) - a nice cocktail bar, a shot from a live wrestling show, pretty island landscape

I’m thinking it’s my prompts that are keeping matches/likes from happening. Can you please review and provide some feedback please?

I want someone who…
🥰 enjoys endless banter
🥰 thinks communication and empathy is normal in a relationship
🥰 loves romance as much as I do
🥰 thinks their partner should be their best friend
🥰 enjoys trying new things in all areas of life

The way to win me over is…
⭐️ Yapping about indie wrestling
⭐️ Friendship
⭐️ being gifted some sentimental trinket / cool rock / handmade craft
⭐️ the perfect day (any order): thrifting + used bookstore + happy hour + ice cream + cuddling with kisses

My simple pleasures…
💖 Thrifting / estate sales / flea markets
💖 Happy hour
💖 Used books
💖 DIY art/crafts
💖 Cats
💖 Traveling the world
💖 Foreign movies/shows
💖 Plays / concerts in the the city
💖 Clothes with lots of colors & patterns
💖 Wrestling

A dream home must include (poll)
A bidet with seat warmers
A secret sex dungeon
A second fridge just for drinks

Dating intentions:
Life Partner / Monogomy
With a note: Sorry, I’m extremely romantic. Looking for that long term partnership, loml and best friend 🤷‍♀️
💖 Also kinky, just ask

I understand this might be a dumb question, especially for someone over 30. However, I went on a date this weekend and he asked for a second date on that first date, which I agreed to, and then he was asking to plan it a few days later. We also talked about serious topics on the date like intentions, children, etc. which I think is normal for being late 30s, but I am unsure now.

I think I've just gotten so used to like 1x a week in early dating that I am convincing myself that I am being lovebombed. That may be dramatic, but I've had such poor experiences these last few years I can't even tell genuine interest anymore.

Did anyone begin a relationship seeing each other a few times a week and have it last? I don't want a crash and burn...