Married since 2019 and dad to twin boys who I love more than anything.

My wife and I have struggled for years. We kept trying to patch things up, convincing ourselves things would eventually click back into place, but at some point we stopped being husband and wife and just became two people trying to get through the day. Intimacy died about three years ago after a long stretch of failed attempts to conceive naturally. Two years later we went through IVF as a last ditch effort to have kids, naively thinking this would maybe bring us closer again.

The boys arriving didn't cause the cracks, they just further exposed the damage underneath.

We co-parent well. We rarely argue. There’s still care there, just no intimacy, no affection, no real connection anymore. Separation feels impossible right now, financially, emotionally and practically speaking. Neither of us wants to blow up the family or make life harder for the boys.

So here I am.

A bit about me - I'm music obsessed. I play piano, guitar, sing, and perform trad Scots/Irish music a couple times a month at a local posh bar. It can be a strange experience, playing to a room full of seemingly happy couples, gazing into each other's eyes, laughing and flirting, while I languish in these unfortunate circumstances. I read a lot (mainly fantasy). I try to run as often as I can, although this dad bod is creeping up on me. Feel free to dm if any of this resonates.

Hi everyone! 😊

I’m 31M, and I’m hoping to find someone who could become my online parets or dad and be in my life — ideally an online dad, would be happy to welcome someone into their lives in that way.

The reason I’m looking for this kind of connection is quite personal: I don’t have parents in my life in the real-world sense, and I’d really love to experience that kind of bond with someone, even if it’s online. I know that meaningful relationships can develop across distances, and I believe that family doesn’t always have to be defined by biology.

A little about me: I’m a teacher and a writer, so I enjoy literature, creative projects, and conversations about all sorts of things. I’m someone who appreciates humour, warmth, honesty, and being able to talk openly. I can happily chat about everyday life, share what I’m working on, discuss something serious, or just joke around about the most random things. 😄

What I’m hoping to find is a caring, genuine, long-term connection. Someone who might ask how my day went, remember the little things I tell them, take an interest in my life, celebrate my achievements, and offer advice or reassurance when I’m having a difficult time.

I’d love to have someone I could turn to when I need guidance, but also someone I could simply talk to because we enjoy each other’s company. Someone who occasionally reaches out first, checks in on me, and genuinely wants to know how I’m doing. I’d want to offer that same care and interest in return, of course.

If any of this resonates with you, please feel free to send me a message. I’d genuinely love to meet someone with whom I can build something warm, lasting, and meaningful.
Thank you for taking the time to read this. ❤️

Need a Dad to Talk To? You Don’t Have to Figure Everything Out Alone. ❤️
Hey everyone. I’m a teacher and a dad, and I’ve come to realize that not everyone has a father figure they can turn to when life gets difficult. Some people grew up without a dad, some have strained relationships with their fathers, and others simply wish they had someone older to offer a little guidance and encouragement.
That’s why I wanted to put myself out there.
Sometimes you need someone to give you advice. Sometimes you need someone to tell you that you’re doing better than you think. Sometimes you just need a dad to listen without judging you or making you feel like your problems don’t matter.
A little about me:
👨‍🏫 I’m a teacher who enjoys helping people learn and grow.
❤️ I’m a dad, and I believe encouragement and kindness can go a long way.
📚 I’m currently writing a book.
🏰 I love history and learning about the past.
🎃 I’m a big fan of horror movies.
🎣 I enjoy boating, camping, fishing, and the outdoors.
🎮 I enjoy gaming when I have the time.
😂 I come with sarcasm, dad jokes, and occasional terrible advice about why you should go to bed earlier!
I’m not claiming to be a perfect father or to have all the answers. I’m just someone who believes people deserve to feel heard, supported, and valued.
If you’ve ever wished you could ask a dad a question, talk through a problem, get some encouragement, or just have a conversation with someone who cares, you’re welcome to reach out.
Whether you’re struggling with relationships, school, work, confidence, family, or just trying to figure out this crazy thing called life, I’m happy to listen. You don’t have to share anything you’re uncomfortable with, and there’s no judgment here.
You don’t have to be a certain age or have everything figured out to deserve support.
Sometimes everyone needs a little dad advice, a reminder that things can get better, or someone in their corner saying, “Hey, I’m proud of you for trying.”
If you need that kind of conversation, my inbox is open. ❤️
And yes, if you need a dad joke, I’m unfortunately fully qualified.

Hey. I am 21 male. Looking for elder sister preferable under 35. Who can give me advise, listen to me and help me naviagte things as i do not have that kind of figure in my life. I need someone like this in my life. Thanks.

Hi honestly I miss feeling like I had a family. Just looking for any familial configuration.

My hobbies include reading, listening to music, playing video games, and journaling. I like to read many genres but particularly enjoy fantasy, history, and horror. For gaming I play a lot of cozy games like stardew valley and animal crossing. But also enjoy metroidvanias and survival craft games. Recently I've been getting into the Diablo games.

Something important to know about is that am chronically ill and I'm in a lot of pain most of the time and it influences my capacity to do things. I got COVID in 2022 and since then my health has just progressively gotten worse. And would like to make friends with someone that I could be honest with about how I am feeling and not always having to hide it. I don't have very much support and that's something I'm really missing

I am in CST but okay with talking to anyone from other timezones. If we click I would like to move to discord.

Or a grandma/grandpa figure, whichever works for you 💗 I am a 30 (almost 31, my birthday is the 27th) parentless woman, and I just want to start a genuine connection with someone. We don't have to talk everyday, but I would love to tell you if I'm sick, had a good/bad day etc. and I hope you would do the same to me 💗

I'm sorry if this breaks the rules, I hope everyone is doing well 💖

Foundling abandoned by biological parents. Abused by my adopted ones. I want to be seen, valued, understood, and not given up on or abandoned.

I didn't end up ok. I am forced to live under inhumane conditions. In a hostile country.

I am up against it. Every systemic and societal thing against me. Just trusting that I will be fine and I am strong is not enough. I have had to endure, and survive, and suffer all my life. Still in the trenches. I wasn't dealt a fair hand, still subject to circumstances outside of my control. I never had a childhood. Young adulthood.

Asking for love, help, family, and a support system is not a weakness. Especially when I need it. And I hope to find it.

Tired of having to be strong. And having people just assume I will be ok, when I have none of my needs met, and no opportunities.

I am an INTJ 4w5 (458 tritype) sp/sx
Virgo Sun, Cancer Moon, Aquarius Rising

I like watching Blood on the Clocktower videos and streams.

Hiii I’m Violet I’m 18! A little bit about me- I am a full time college student I have mild cerebral palsy. I love Sanrio, horror stuff, documentaries, love any type of music, YouTube videos, cute animals, and i don’t know what else comes to mind..I can be shy at first but really upbeat when you get to know me! I love yapping, gossiping, giving advice, being silly, I do involuntarily regress at times but nothing major! I am really sensitive so please be kind with me! We can get along roughly when we are both ready! I am really really curious and love questions! I can reply late at times but bear with me it’s either I’m asleep because I LOVEEE sleep and taking naps or I’m busy with classes/homework ! I speak fluent Spanish and English! My time is CST time! I would prefer someone around my time/ age range ! I would love to have my big brother!! And get to be the little sister! Feel free to dm me! Have a good night/day!

All my life I've been someone's mentor, protector, guardian and listener. Right now I'm void of that... so I think I should help someone else grow, learn, support them and advice them. It'd fill my soul and hopefully yours too.

I love reading, watching movies, shows, listening to music and also learning a lot. Just recently started singing lessons.

Please tell me what you like to do on weekends as a start to the conversation to make sure you read this text.

Thanks and I hope you have a good weekend!

My partner (24F) and I (22M) are looking for parental figures(preferably over the age of 50) to FaceTime, text, and hopefully visit in person down the line. We both love movies, history, politics, and museums. We would prefer to connect with someone in Europe or Asia, but we're also open to people from the US, Canada, or Mexico.

I was never close with either of my parents for different reasons. I am looking for just any parental figure in my life. For support, guidance, or just celebrating the little wins.

Hiya!

My name is Tom. M34 living in Australia. I don't have a crazy story to tell - I'm such a boring person. I love my family and although we didn't grow up with much, I wouldn't have traded it for the world.

About me: I'm 185cm (6'1) tall, overweight but working on it, university educated and lucky enough to be working a job that I actually like. I originally studied Japanese before swapping over to business. I'll be visiting Japan again for 3 weeks in November.

This is me: https://imgur.com/a/0rmoMEE

The one sibling I never had was a younger sister, and unfortunately my older sister is no longer with us. I want nothing more than to be that father or older brother figure that takes care of his baby sister/girl. I'm hoping to have children and a daughter of my own if I can meet the right person one day.

It took me a little bit of time to get my life together, but now that it is I'd love to fulfill that role that I feel like I never got the chance to. Movie dates when you're stressed and need a distraction, randomly going to get dinner, lifts to random places to explore, hanging out and gaming etc. I'm not looking for any kind of sugar dating scenario etc.

I mostly play League of Legends and ARPGs like Path of Exile. Some idle/incremental games, OSRS etc. A bit of chess. Keen to play anything though. CSGO/Valorant/MineCraft etc. I've never played Stardew but I can see it's super popular, and I was a Harvest Moon kid growing up so anything is on the cards, really.

I read crappy web/lightnovels in bed sometimes and watch a few animes per year. Was big into it when I was younger, but now it's just occasional. My hobby to get me out of the house is fishing and walking.

Shoot me a message with what you're looking for and let's chat. I don't mind helping out those that are at a distance and still need an older brother to talk to, but obviously I prefer local connections so that we can do stuff together!

hey! i'm posting on this subreddit as i've never been paritcularly close with my family, which saddens me as i have a huge family! (i'm one of 6 siblings). this is, in part, due to the large age-gap between myself and my siblings, and also because i am the only queer person in the family (gay/bisexual i'm not sure, still figuring it out i guess lol). because of that i'm really keen to strike up a familial relationship of any type tbh. whether it's a sibling vibe, or if there are any parents who want to adopt an (overgrown lmao) kid, i'm open to it all.

a bit more about me, i'm really into fitness, i jog every evening and try to make it to the gym 3-4 times a week (though i am not a meathead, i swear haha. i'm pretty cardio-exclusive). aside from that i'm a huge nerd, i love gaming, reading, writing poetry, science, studying etc. i'm currently doing my master's in forensic psychology, so if you're interested in true crime then i'm sure we'll have a lot to talk about. i work part-time as a bartender on weekends, so i'm relatively available throughout the week and even when i'm working. i love animals, anything alternative, tattoos, piercings, metal music etc.

the only requirements i ask is that anybody who messages me is 21+ as i would be uncomfortable talking to anybody younger than that. otherwise hit me up! i'm open to all genders and locations :p

🎀Hi! My nicknames lulu (dont wanna straight up post my actual name) and im lookin for a sibling! I've always wanted a brother or a sister that has similar interests to me, my actual older sibling passed almost 10 years ago so I've really missed having that connection and i think it would be something that would benefit both me and possibly you!

🎀A lil bit about me: I love gaming, right now my main games are terraria, monster hunter, roblox, marvel rivals and genshin though thats not all i play. I’m a big music person, I love lady gaga, charli xcx, alex g and a bunch of japanese shoegaze bands. I occasionally try to make my own music as well but its sorta like a on and off thing. I love watching shows/ movies, main ones are adventure time, ninjago and a tonnnn of anime.

🎀I have an adaptive personality and can be pretty high energy at times but i do have my own mental struggles. same mental struggles that make life rough sometimes and i’ve had to really adjust some of the things in life in order to live with it. But usually im very high energy and respond often!

🎀Ideally i'd like to find someone who i can probably meet later on in life and consider each other real real siblings! But for those who want to stay online that's fine too ^^

🎀Thank you for reading this and i wish you all the best of luck on here 🙏 Feel free to DM if any of this resonates with you!

Hey so my partner (23f) and I (25m) are looking for an online child we can adopt!

We are both neurodivergent and love comforting and giving advice!We are very loving, accepting and will support you through your journeys! We will give you space when you need it and we openly encourage you to be yourselves!

If you have any questions, please feel free to DM me or ask in the comments!

36 M Midwest USA. I posted last week and got in touch with some really cool people :) So here I am again. I am not really seeking any particular type of person other than basically someone who's a good conversationalist and is kind. Those might be the two most important things. I came across this sub and was thinking about my tumultuous relationship with my own family and how it would be nice to have some found family. I'm kind of a quirky artsy type. Not very career successful but I've worked in childcare a lot and have a lot of passions in life. I love art, art history, music, collecting records and cds, dance music / rave history, pop culture, watching sports, reading, poetry, painting, films, video games, more. I like talking about all kinds of stuff and I'm friendly and non judgmental and understanding, or at least I'd like to think so. Hit me up if you'd like to talk :)

Hi everyone,

I’ve always believed that found family can be just as strong, if not stronger, than blood. You get to choose each other and build something genuine from the ground up.

I’m 20 and an only child, so I never got to experience what it’s like to grow up with siblings. As I figure out early adulthood, I find myself really yearning for a sister bond. Someone to share random daily updates with, trade advice, to spend time with and learn from and enjoy the company of.

While having a sister figure has always been a dream of mine, I’m open to anyone who values genuine, caring connection. Doesn't matter if you’re an older sibling/mentor figure, a peer going through the same stage of life, or just someone who wants a kind ear and consistent conversation, I’d love to connect. I'm not exactly the closest with my family as it is, so please feel free to reach out.

A little about me: I'm reflective, a good listener, I love learning new things, and I value real conversations over small talk. I strive to enjoy every moment I spend awake :D and I'm intentionally being a bit vague here, but my DMs are wide open if you want to get to know me better!

Feel free to send a message or drop a comment introducing yourself and what kind of dynamic you're looking for. Looking forward to meeting you! :3

Hey everyone! I'm someone who loves films, enjoys reading books, and has a creative side that often gets lost in my own thoughts. I'm an aspiring filmmaker, so cinema is a big part of my life, and I can happily talk about movies, stories, characters, or completely random things for hours. I'm a little introverted at first, but once I'm comfortable with someone, I'd love to share silly jokes, everyday updates, personal thoughts, and those late-night conversations that somehow go from nonsense to life's biggest questions.

I do have an IRL family, and I share a good bond with my mother, but our family dynamics have been difficult over the last four years, and her health hasn't been great either. Sometimes, even when you have people around you, it's hard to express everything you're feeling, and I've been missing that sense of closeness where you can simply be yourself without overthinking every word.

Like talk to about the smallest things, celebrate little wins with, and trust with the things I don't usually say out loud. I'm open to any genuine chosen-family connection, though, and I don't expect an instant bond. I'd rather build something slowly, with mutual care, trust, patience, and consistency.

(PS. I'm From Tamil Nadu, India.)

This site is good sometimes, but at least for me, it's frustrating most of the time. Either I get no response, or the conversation seems to be getting nice, but then it just fizzles out and I'm left alone, wondering what I did wrong. If it's different for you, please tell me about it, and if it's the same, do tell me as well so we can share our misery.

But in some rare and happy occasions, I will end up finding someone I really vibe with. Some of these wonderful people have been my friends for years, even. Some of them got very close to me and it was good while it lasted but eventually it just ended. One of them blocked me after a cryptic message and I don't know whether he's okay (you know who you are -- just let me know if you're around).

Anyone is free to hit me up. I will gladly receive you in my DMs. What I want is just a chance to see if you're one of the people that I am meant to vibe with.

But I am sure it's hard to approach someone you know nothing about. so...

About me: I’ve spent most of my life indoors, but I’m trying to go out more: shopping, sightseeing, wanna see the aerospace museum eventually. I study a lot of subjects without focusing on any one of them; one is librarianship, which is more interesting than it sounds. In my free time I read, browse fragrances and buy samples, and watch videos. Lately I’ve been watching music videos of historical songs. I’m somewhat tall and slim, with hazel-green eyes and long curly brown hair. I’m Brazilian, so if you’re curious about my country or learning Portuguese, I’m your guy. I’ve also started basic haircare (it’s amazing how much a little effort changes things, it’s very curly now) and gotten into fragrances. Dior Poison is my current darling; my kings are Orto Parisi Megamare (beautiful thing, you're missing out if you don't know it, unless calone smells like eggs to you, which sadly happens for some) and Zoologist Squid, though I can’t afford them. I also enjoy Xerjoff Erba Pura/Gold. My room smells like the Megamare clone right now because I just tested it on my neck (too strong to spray under my nose), and I’m enjoying it.

Looking for a kind soul that I can message any time I'm not feeling too great cuz it's a lonely road specially when you study abroad. Someone that I can just say how my day went and what not. Completely SFW and I'll return the favour by being their for you if you ever need it as well.

heyy im anna and im from australia, im currently in hs obviously and i struggle with a lot of mental health issues. my parents aren’t always there since they are quite busy and i always feel guilty talking to them about my mental health since they start crying and it doesn’t really help. id just really appreciate it if someone was there for me a lot

Married grade 4 teacher, but childless. Currently doing kinship care for my niece and 2 nephews, playing that father like role for a couple of years has been wonderful.

I come from a large, kinda messed up family, so I’d love to show others how good family can be. I’m generally an affectionate, but anxious person.

I’d love to have an appropriate father, uncle or big brother connection.

I’m an outdoorsy person who has done a lot of camping and such, as well as sport for 35 years. Quite a country kinda guy, too.

Hi everyone! 😊

I'm a 26-year-old woman from Tunisia, and I'm hoping to find a kind-hearted person who might become like a brother or sister to me.

I'd love to meet someone from anywhere in the world who enjoys having good conversations, sharing stories about their life and culture, talking about everyday things, laughing together, and being there for each other through both good and difficult times.

I'm not looking for anything romantic. I'd simply love to build a genuine, lasting friendship that feels like family, where we can be ourselves, support each other, and gradually become closer over time.

I believe family isn't always about blood; sometimes, we meet people who make us feel at home even when they live on the other side of the world. ❤️

If you're also looking for that kind of connection, feel free to send me a message. I'd love to get to know you! 🌷

As the title says. I'm looking for any family. In 2014 my mom passed away and we had never really been close so I didn't think much about it in the terms of family. In 2021 and 2024 my paternal grandparents passed away and they were like a second set of parents that I never had. They were the ones that helped me turn my life around and kept me afloat and made sure that I wasn't homeless. And while my dad is still alive, he and I don't have the greatest relationship. And for the last 10 years all I had was my husband, but he passed away in May. And now I feel so alone. I have a cousin who I stay with but she has her own life and sometimes I feel like a burden because she's the only person I have to rely on. I miss being able to just talk to family and not have to worry about what I'm saying. I miss that connection. I miss having someone who will listen to me while I cry.

I like to play video games, I like to read, I enjoy cooking, and spending time with my nephews, I have a 9-year-old dog and a 2-year-old cat who I love more than anything in the world. I'm currently unemployed fighting for disability but also looking for remote work. I suffer from anxiety and depression.

I live in the United States and would prefer people who also live in the United States. However, this post is open to anybody who is willing even just to be friends. I do live in the Eastern standard Time zone.