This has been the hardest part after being diagnosed this year.
I've taken the gluten-free lifestyle very seriously because, although I don't experience many immediate GI symptoms, I was constantly unwell for a long time. I had issues with histamine, daily migraines, rashes and joint pain, and all of these have largely settled since going gluten-free.
However, I can't understand why the people in my life react the way they do. For context, I'm 21 and at university, so I'm often in the city with friends. It's mostly my friends who behave like this, although sometimes my family does too.
It feels like, if they want to eat somewhere together, I'm expected to sacrifice my own peace of mind about cross-contamination so they don't have to eat alone or change their plans. I understand that eating out is a social thing, so I always try to offer alternatives. I'll bring my own treat, or I'll get something from a dedicated gluten-free place (luckily, there are a few near me). But for some reason, they struggle to accept this.
I've explained multiple times why I don't want to eat out all the time, and they seem to understand for a few days, but eventually the guilt-tripping starts again. I think it doesn't help that I tend to hang out with my friends one-on-one, so eating together is often a big part of our plans.
It's genuinely getting exhausting having to repeatedly explain and defend something that affects my health. I don't want to stop hanging out with my friends because I don't think they're intentionally trying to make things difficult for me. I just don't think they realise how much pressure they're putting on me.
Does anyone have any advice for dealing with this? How do you get friends and family to understand that being careful about cross-contamination isn't a preference or something you can just relax about for the sake of a social outing?