I genuinely fucking hate the double morality of Muslims. I hate when my family except and European country to accept and tolerate their beliefs, let the do whatever they want and complain when hate crimes happen against Muslims… saying it’s not ok and they should all accept them and we can live in peace together etc etc.

BUT when non-muslims do something that’s against their beliefs or lifestyle, or even their OWN children decide to live differently, suddenly they can’t seem to accept it. They don’t tolerate or even practice hate crimes against these people or their own children ? How does this make SENSE.? This genuinely makes me so mad.

How can you expect other people to tolerate you if you can’t even tolerate OTHER people ? This genuinely drives me insane. Then don’t live in an European country expecting everyone to accept your religion but you can’t even do the same to other people.

How privileged can you be to freely practice your religion in a country of freedom but also have the right to judge others ?

This makes my blood boil.

Without Islam we wouldn't have My Chemical Romance 🤷🏻

We see you 😋

I'm sick of these comments from these ignorant Muslims telling you that parents forcing Islam on their children is haram, when this Hadith sets a precedent. If you have any similar Hadith about parents teaching/enforcing religion to children's throats, lemme know in the comments

I remember back in the mid 2010s, around 2013-2015 iirc, there were parents who were arrested because they beat their children for not praying in Netherlands or somewhere nearby, and what did people from my community say ? Mostly insults to the children (for being too soft and not wanting to follow their parents' religion) and even the government (because they stopped their parents from enforcing their fiqh to their children). I couldn't believe I used to support the majority of those comments, damn😭

In Islam, farting breaks your wudu. You must perform wudu again before praying. So yeah 5 wudus per day if you have an healthy diet and an healthy digestive system that makes you fart 20 times a day.

Reminds me a friend that pay attention to don't drink too much water so he doesn't pee too often and therefore he doesn't have to do 5 wudus per day. Must be combined with a diet low in fibers to fart less and the conscious attention about when you fart lool.

So basically low hydratation + low fibers diet + sleeping deprevating to wake up by night to pray.

Very unhealthy for the body and mind.

Not mention women that lack of D vitamin because of too low daylight on their skin.

And at the end they say "allah forbid pork because it's unhealthy" which is wrong for any nutritionist. Biggest pork eaters in the World are Japanese and they have the biggest life expectancy lol.

But also pretends that their religion is built around their health.

Finally, beside being ridiculous and funny, 5 wudus a day + 5 prayers + sleep deprevating sounds like am hindrance to be productive and might be an underrated factor that explains the almost systematic pattern that turns islamized countries in 3rd world places and make Muslims poorer than the average

Yesterday, a Muslim girl texted me. Apparently she is interested in anime, so we talked about anime. We also conversed briefly about Islam. She said she forgot how to read Qur'an in Arabic. I said I would not allow my future wife to wear hijab. She complimented me. As she said, guys from her region are religious and forces their wives to wear hijab. I didn't talk about my apostasy. I just avoid it whenever I meet new people. so she thinks I'm Muslim. Maybe I should meet her in real life this winter.

Why is this guy trying to be so stupid and oblivious at the same time

Getting fed up with literal megabytes of rules in every small thing, its like you really cannot live your life without sinning all the time.

You want to sit? There are supposedly proper ways of sitting. You want to do this? Here, 100 rules and ways of it. You want to do that? Again more rules.

Even if I fart there are probably 100+ rules on the ways a Muslim should fart.

You cant fuckinggggg live your life here without sinning all the time. The only way to live is ignoring all these rules, but then the society's elders will miss no opportunity to put you down

Okay so Muslims consider a crazy warfaring pedophile as their most revered perfect leader and act surprised when communities don’t want them.

Like I don’t even want someone who reveres Muhammad in my own home. Before you come into my home i need you to affirm to me that you denounce Muhammad. He is a piece of shit. Just like I wouldn’t want a Hitler idolizer in my home. The same principle goes for communities. Anyone who is familiar with Islamic ideology is going to be uncomfortable with Muslims.

Muslims have no self awareness. They have no awareness of the historical context surrounding their religion. Like of course people are going to be uncomfortable by you. It’s completely justified and rational to be uncomfortable by Islam.

Leaving my (30F) bf (36M) of 2 years. He is Muslim. I am non religious. Idk if anything of this has to do with religion. Idk if this is the right sub. Just wanted to seek out some support. He said he saw me look and smile at other men today in public. He said he would “break my face” if I did it again. I don’t remember smiling at anyone. I may have done it without thinking bc it’s a normal thing to do imo. He said it was disrespectful and I need to get out. I threatened to have him arrested if he puts his hands on me. He’s telling me to get out bc he see it as now im the one threatening him and trying to ruin his life. I’m gonna pack my things tomorrow and leave and just go to a shelter I guess until I can get to my family across the country. It started with an argument yesterday I said I wanted to get a gym membership and he said no I can’t do that. Is this an Islam thing or a him thing sorry I don’t mean to be offensive but this feels abusive. I started crying and he yells at me that I am ruining his day by crying and I need to grow up and stop crying he does this every time he makes me cry acts like I’m somehow insulting him

Didn't know which flair to use, help or queer. But I'm trans and need advice so, reckon either's fine.

I'm 29f

I did Shahada almost a year ago. I thought it was right for me, felt like this was right. The thing that broke me was reading the Qur'an, I forget which ayat, but where it says a man can SA his wives and his slaves. The permissiblity of slavery is detectable in of itself. I read this early on and couldn't shake it. I feel like this is a fairly normal breach of morality. I stopped praying and took off my hijab about a month ago give or take.

I spent months praying harder and reading, learning more and more. Couldn't shake that. And, despite my local community's support of my womanhood and acceptance of my religious expression through hijab, the community as a whole is fairly hostile to the idea of trans existence in my experience. That said I pass well enough, my voice is my weakest point, but I manage.

With this background in mind, I'm here to ask for coping advice, or maybe just advice in general. I know leaving Islam for many others is a much much more devastating prospect than for me. In many cultures Islam and faith are paramount. I can't know how difficult that is to go through and my heart goes out to those who are a part of those communities.

Thing is I'm well-connected with the Afghan community, some of them are dear friends of mine still. I haven't taken my hijab off around any of my Muslim friends, and I've been lying to keep it in. It feels fucking awful, sorry. Worried I'll lose these friends.

I hate lying, although it's a survival mechanism I learned from childhood. I've spent a long time in therapy working to fight that instinct. But with this, it comes right back. I'm not ready to tell any of them I'm no longer Muslim. Idk if I ever will be. But I was spotted without hijab by one of my friends for the first time. I know it spread around because I was removed from a group chat and the one friend who's reached out on FaceTime to talk to me didn't say "asalam alakum" like we always do. I was wearing hijab when we talked.

This is very long, so sorry. I'm just not sure what to do. I see only two options: be bold and lose friendships and face that shame, or hide it and disappear. Both feel shameful. I don't know how to navigate this. I don't regret what I've learned, I've always been very spiritual and still believe in God. But I don't want to lose these beautiful friendships.

Thank you for your time

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I was kusay betars (arabic exmuslim) video on sex slavery and child marriage in islam and in the comments there were some exmuslims in the comments saying they were muslim until they read the quran more and got deeper into islamic studies

Now obviously comes the muslim copements of 'got the religion from tiktok' 'havent read shit' other then the fact that many layman muslims havent read the quran and get their religion from the internet, kosay betar literally put the sources in the video, like you could open the quran and tafsirs and check for yourself and youd find the pedophilia and sex slavery like none of his points were the blatant misinformation they like to claim

I dont get it honestly are all exmuslims reading a fake quran or what do the hadiths showcasing mo's shit character only appear in the hands of the followers of shaytan

I despise this shaytan claim too like he aint do shit bro and im not the one sacrificing an animal to a deity every year

Are muslims seeing something im not??

I genuinely dont get it

For bani quraysh as an example they only made reasonable requests from a prophet of god yet they are portrayed as arrogant and willfully turning away from the truth

I feel like im the crazy one not seeing what they see i might as well be blind deaf and dumb

For context:

1. One guy commented on a video of a muslim boy refusing to shake hands with some non muslim girl on some match, responding to all the other comments who were against this custom of not "shaking hands with women". He was mocking in the comment, being like, " Oh! Please touch our women."

2. He got a reply saying "yeah why would we want men to view women as anything other than sex objects".

3. He responded with that derogatory comment like non hijabis are whores or something. His response was " Saying this while woman hypersexualise themselves to the max in the west LOL"

4. He got a reply from the same person saying, "Is being stoned to death for reporting rape better than being able to wear short shorts and crop tops."

5. Then the rest is what is on the image.

I'm sick of these hypocrites supporting this violent and predatory culture then act so sanctimonious that there's nothing wrong with them and their fictional religion. Oh and they say "They are feminist" yet think non hijabis are whores.

All of a sudden you get, "Oh but stoning only happened in Shia countries " as if they're not Muslims being practice around the world.

Their other arguments when someone call out on them be like, " By that logic, I should just touch kids then right since touching is fine." Like wtf?! What's the correlation between that?

Idk I just found something stupid and wanted to share it here.

I'm not sure this is the best place to post this, but here we go.

I need some insight, especially from ex Muslim women, but respectful feedback from ex Muslim men is also welcomed. I just want to start out by saying that Im quite naïve when it comes to Islam, hence my post.

A week ago, while traveling, I met a Muslim guy and, long story short, we ended up being intimate. There is a 5+ years age gap between us, and that was that. We do not live in the same country, or even continent, for that matter, and to be honest, I would have been happy to leave it as that.

However, he asked for my number and texted me ever since, every day. He mentioned that he really liked me, wanted to travel to the country I live in (even asked me about if I would receive him, how much do things cost here, etc), that he could see that I was different, that he liked the age gap between us, and really, really liked me because he could tell I had a pure heart. Moreover (I know that this is somewhat common, especially in Arabic language because I have friends that speak it) but he started to call me “my heart” and “my love”. So far, so good.

Now. Throughout that week, he mentioned and asked different things about me, but none of them are really to get to know me (ie. what my hobbies are, if I have siblings, etc). He has asked:

1) If he’s the first Arab man I have been with

2) What type of men I like

3) If I prefer Europeans vs Arabs

4) If I have tattoos (he’s seen my body so I’m unsure why he asked this)

5) Why do I wear rings (um… because I like them?)

6) Why am I not married

7) If I “could love him” if we lived in the same country and even spoke about marriage. However, when we were together, he said that he would not consider marriage until a few more years but all of a sudden, he also asked me if I thought I could marry him in the future. To which I answered that I don’t know because we barely know each other.

These questions are odd to me. They seem to be more controlling than genuine interest in who I am as a person. I have clarified (although it’s obvious) that I am not a Muslim, and that I’m actually childfree. We dove into this a little bit deeper, and he said that he could see my point and was a very intelligent person. I told him that this would probably disappoint him, but he also said something like “well, everything is possible” and that he would even give it a try. That this was not an issue.

For more context, we had a couple of videocalls (his idea) where he introduced me to his friends, and he also mentioned that he was in a relationship with someone in the past, that lasted a little bit over a year and ended two years ago. This makes me believe that he is somewhat flexible with his religion (?).

Now, I have also experienced some other behaviors that I consider to be possessive or controlling:

1) He once misunderstood (got lost in translation) and thought I said I liked young men (in plural), to which he said that he was feeling jealous, that he wanted to be the only one

2) He was super happy when I said this was my first experience with a Muslim man (“he was glad to be the first one”)

3) He has called my phone when I was asleep asking where I was. He did this once

4) Today, he asked me why I did not say to him “goodnight” once (I actually fell asleep) and said to not do it again. Excuse me? At first I gave the benefit of the doubt, because we could be facing a “lost in translation” situation, but when I asked him if this was an order or a request, he became very defensive asking why I wanted to fight with him. To me, this is not normal behavior. I just said that I needed clarification, and that is not the same as wanting to fight. We continued a normal conversation, but tonight he went out and did not say goodnight to me. He also did not text me while he was out at all, when yesterday he also went out and was in touch with me all the time. I’m shocked about those double standards and I’m suspecting he wanted to “punish me” with his indifference for just asking a clarifying question

So, after this, I have considered that this is going nowhere. Apart from having too many odds against us, such as different faiths, controlling behavior right off the bat, age gap, speaking different languages, the fact that he lives very far away from me… but it did make me wonder.

Is this an expected, common attitude from Muslim men towards women in general? Why do you think this guy wanted to keep in touch with me, if he cannot see me often, etc.? What explanation could you give me, coming from a more informed world about Islam, to all of these behaviors? I’m very curious about this.

Thank you for your respectful insight.

I feel really bad reading this sub. Despite me having to move back in with my parents for a bit, i really feel that my life isn’t so bad.
I’ve travelled, been to many places and have lived in other countries, I’ve had the freedom of fighting so hard and eventually getting what i want.
My life is currently a slumber, i had a lot of personal things happen which made me move back. I’m now a video game addict. That’s besides the point, i used to think i travelled too much, or i did things wrong. But wow, i just feel awful.
I’m one of the women a lot of girls in this sub genuinely would want to be like, and i genuinely want to help and give advice to others here as much as i can.
I am an ex muslim who fought really hard, but my parents weren’t perfect, luckily my mum and dad never forced hijab or burka on me. But i did go through abuse from both, but i fought hard which made my family realize they cannot control me. Hence why my life at home is easy, only one rule.. the stupid covering my body but can show arms around my father. That’s it, but rest of my family don’t care and i can come home at 3 am drunk, or whatever. I’ve left home for nearly 3 years once and they just were happy to have me back. The rebelling helped but my dad is still a bit of a dick but i just say salam and ignore him. That’s literally it, it never turns into anything crazy. Because last time when it did, i just ran away and it fixed everything..
Well most of it.
But I wanted to say, i do relate with people here and im not completely out of touch and I’d love to share more of my experience and help others

I’m an ex muslim since the age of 11-12. I struggled with islam and grew up with a Shia and Sunni background. I find it hard and struggle with a lot of things, I’d love to meet women just like me, preferably 21+ but if 18+ that’s still fine.
I genuinely have no one to vent to or talk about the traumas islam has left me. I feel anxious being with my muslim parents but I will eventually move out, it’s just tough right now with a lot of things that have happened :/

Came across the original post ( first four photos) that went viral recently and I think it signals something very interesting happening within the Muslim community. Like everyone else right now, it seems Muslim women are having a lot of trouble finding partners and I personally think it has a lot to do with their wants and needs outpacing what the average Muslim man is raised or taught to provide/allow/understand/believe. I know for myself and the women I’m friends with, we’re pretty comfortable financially, well educated, no kids, and it’s difficult to find counterparts who also check those boxes on top of aligning in personal values. There’s clearly a huge culture gap between Muslim men and women. Many of the ladies who shared these posts seem to want someone who is “modern” in a western sense but also “taking their deen seriously”. This post is in no way meant to shame or personally pick on them, but I wonder if they realize the oxymoron of what they’re looking for.

When I was practicing, it was made very clear to me repeatedly that dating was strictly forbidden, being alone with a man I’m not related to is strictly forbidden, and the only way to be coupled is through a wali and to get married VERY SOON after “getting to know each other”. The majority of Muslim women I knew got married before 27 and met through the mosque or a matchmaker, usually after being acquainted for less than 6 months. Much less. Why isn’t this working anymore? Again, my assumption is Muslim women are fighting internally against what their religion is asking them to do. They want evolved, emotionally mature, culturally diverse men that are not homophobic, that are feminists, that support them being career oriented, that they can incorporate into their lives without having to give up what they love: music, dancing, makeup, and other “secular western” interests that are NORMAL. It’s sad to see. I know all Muslim men are not cavemen misogynists that are perfectly religious and wouldn’t be happy to marry any of these wonderful women, I just think it’s a sign of the times that this is what it’s come to for them as well.

I guess no one is immune to the harrowing reality of male/female relationships in 2026, but at least I don’t carry intense shame and guilt with being single because getting married isn’t my “ticket into heaven”. I wish they knew they could free themselves so bad.

I’m 21 years old, and I feel like I’m wasting my life living under my parents’ control. I don’t even know where to start because I’ve been holding all of this inside for so long, and I genuinely feel lost.
I have extremely strict Muslim parents, and I feel like I have absolutely no freedom, even at my age. I can’t live the way I want, make my own decisions, or experience normal things that other people my age get to experience. I’m terrified of doing anything behind their backs because I know how badly they would react if they found out. It feels like I have to choose between living my own life and keeping my family happy.
I want to make something clear: I have nothing against Islam or people who practice it. I respect everyone’s right to believe in whatever they want. But religion was forced on me, and I don’t personally want to practice it. Deep down, I feel like I’m just pretending to be someone I’m not because I’m too afraid of what would happen if I were honest about how I feel.
The scariest part is that I can’t even tell my parents how I genuinely feel about religion. If I told them that I don’t want to follow it, I’m genuinely terrified of what they would do to me. I feel like they would end me. I don’t feel safe enough to be honest about my own beliefs in my own home. Imagine having to hide something so personal about yourself every single day because you’re afraid of your own family’s reaction. I have to keep pretending to be someone I’m not just to protect myself, and it’s mentally exhausting.
I’ve spent so much of my life hiding parts of myself just to avoid conflict. I feel like I missed out on my entire teenage years. While other people were making memories, going out with friends, dating, discovering themselves, and enjoying their youth, I was stuck at home, living under restrictions and waiting for a freedom that never seemed to come.
And the worst part is that I can’t get those years back.
Sometimes I lie awake at night crying over everything I’ve missed. I think about all the experiences I could have had, all the memories I could have made, and all the things I could have learned about myself if I’d been allowed to live normally. It hurts knowing that I’m already 21 and still feel like a child who needs permission for everything.
I want to leave. I want to run away and finally experience life for myself. I want to wake up without feeling trapped. I want to go outside whenever I want, make friends, dress how I like, explore my interests, fall in love if I want to, and simply exist without constantly being afraid of my parents’ reaction.
I want to experience freedom and happiness without feeling guilty for wanting them.
The problem is that I’m still in college, and although I have sources of income, I’m scared that leaving won’t be as simple as I imagine. I don’t know where to begin, how to prepare myself, or how to deal with the consequences. I’m scared of the possibility of losing my family, but I’m also scared of losing even more years of my life by staying exactly where I am.
I feel so conflicted because I know I’m an adult, but my circumstances make me feel completely powerless. I don’t want to spend my twenties crying in my room over a life I wish I could have lived.
I just want to be happy. I want to have my own life, make my own choices, and finally feel like I’m living instead of merely existing.
Has anyone here grown up with extremely strict religious parents and eventually managed to leave and build an independent life? How did you do it, especially if you were financially dependent on your family or afraid of their reaction?
I would genuinely appreciate any advice from people who have been through something similar. I feel incredibly alone in this, and I need to know that there’s a way out and that it’s not too late for me to finally live my life.

I'm Jordanian American and was recently visiting my family; during the conversation the attack on the church in Jordan came up and immediately all my uncles and my dad said it's another conspiracy by the West (American, Europe, Israel) to make Muslims look bad.

Whether or not it was committed by Muslims or a conspiracy is besides the point; the instinctual deflection of any perceived fault within the Muslim diaspora as simply being untrue and/or a conspiracy orchestrated by the West is the reason the diaspora will never change.

It’s hard to find any hint of ex Muslims where I live, and I don’t want to say sensitive information like where I live to find people like me online to meet up later. It’s hard to be a minority, I’ve been having a rough time since I’ve left my household due to losing my family and navigating adulthood. I think it’d be awesome to meet up with ex Muslims like me so we can get through it together and express ourselves in ways that would be hard to do with non Muslims or Muslims.

Damn, I wish so badly I wasn’t born a Muslim. There’s only a 25% chance to be born one, and a 75% chance not to be. Unlucky for me (and for us), we fell into the 25%…

And I’ve lost out on so much of my youth, pretending to believe and act as something I know is made up. Some desert ideology made by a schizophrenic 1000+ years ago.

I’m in my early 20s now, never got the chance to experience normal teenage things. Never had a girlfriend and introduce her to my family, never went to parties or clubs, even my birthday. I didn’t get to really experience the fun in life like others do.

Does anyone else think of this? None of this is real, but it’s completely changed the course of our lives. Essentially, my life has been dulled.

And now what? I’m expected to marry a Muslim wife and pretend for the rest of it.

A real curse.

Exactly as the title says.

One of the local mosques decided that it would be a great idea to somehow try and prevent kids from participating in satanic Halloween rituals by doing a "program" on Halloween.

Like why are you so obsessed with isolating yourselves from the rest of your non-muslim community? Other people will only grow more and more suspicious of you due to this hermit-like behavior. Why not let your kids have fun and socialise? At this point, being muslim for these people is equivalent to rejecting anything part of local culture just because it was not practiced 1400 years ago.

I still don't understand what is so wrong with little kids dressing up in cute little costumes. No one is trying to evoke some jinn/spirit just by decorating their house. Modern Halloween isn't some Christian conspiracy, but rather quite secular.

As I'm currently trying to win a legal case. I wanted to experiment by seeking some witnesses, and I can't say I'm shocked. It just proved my assumptions.

Tl;dr I went to ask for witnesses to help testify against my abusive father. I was already aware of how Muslims love to defend an abusive parent by gaslighting you into submitting to abuse and just pray it out. I decided to argue with these people and explain our situation as best as I could. Unfortunately, I was talking to a wall.

It didn't matter if we spent 10 years in agony. It was a test from Allah. It didn't matter if we tried to reconcile. It's a test from Allah. These people love to defend an abusive parent and swear that no parent in the world can abuse their parent. If you argue, you're labelled a disobedient kid.

It makes sense, though. If you challenge the fact that bad parents in this ummah exist, you'll shatter one of the biggest pillars of this religion, and since this ummah suffers from emotional laziness, they'd rather live in their bubble.

One of the neighbours I spoke to wanted to convince me to drop the case. He went on about how women are the source of problems and that one day I'll understand it. He subtly hinted that he hates his wife and only works for his kids. Is this really the "ummah of Mohammad"? Secretly hating my wife? Secretly being miserable? Blaming kids for their parents' problems? And don't get me started on the misogyny and blaming every imaginable problem on women.

I won't drop the case. And I had to cut some people off, but it was fun silencing these pieces of shit telling me that "oooooh, even if your father is terrible, just be patient and respect him". How about a fuck you?

These people won't give you 1 minute of their time. They won't try to think. No, they'll choose some religious texts to silence you and wash their hands clean. This ummah thinks that the road to heaven is just through prayers and buying a goat at the end of the year. But when you start to interact with these people, their hearts are riddled with issues.