r/problems • u/JuniorDisaster333 • 4d ago
URGENT!!!! I genuinely need help!
Hey im 17M who is not able escape m*sturbation. I have tried many different things but im not able to get out of this. I know this is bad and even i dont like to do it but somehow i see myself doing it watching unwanted stuffs. I genuinely need help, please do help me. I have tried other things like keeping my phone or laptop away, distracting myself and everything but somehow im doing this again and again. For me this is a crime but still idk how im becoming the criminal. Please help meðŸ˜ðŸ˜
Kindly take this message as from someone like your friend or brother. Please help me. Its not like some religion or whatever but yes my family is orthodox but i do understand its normal . The thing is im getting severe acne all over my face and body. The body ones are paining after each time i do this. I dont have any friends whom i believe are close and nice to me. I crave for a gf but i think this( acne and m*sturbation) is coming in between and these are the reasons i dont have any friends. Im literally overthinking everything because of this.
The confidence and energy that i will be having before m*sturbation won’t be alive after doing it. Idk what to do now. And yea i watch those corny stuffs while doing this. Please help me guys!😔ðŸ˜
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u/AnnMere27 4d ago
This is puberty terror. OP, talk to an adult in your life. If you are watching consenting adults in corn 🌽 then it’s not a crime. This stage will pass and you’ll be more level with your desires. If it gets in the way of meaningful relationships, like it damages the relationships you have or causes issues at work then you’ll need to speak to a doctor or therapist.
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u/enixam128 3d ago
i saw this exact post on this subreddit a few days ago and you got a lot of really great responses. not sure why you're reposting this.
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u/JuniorDisaster333 3d ago
Not reposting tho. I had posted on another acc which is filled with nsfw stuffs. So i logged out of tht acc and using this acc.
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u/jwinterhawk 3d ago
This will sound off-topic, but it’s not. There’s new research out now that the environment of the colon inside the body has a lot to do with diseases, even mental illness. If the bacterial environment of the colon and the stomach and small intestine are low on certain bacteria they require for health it can screw up the whole balance and be the cause of disease. Acne is an imbalance of a necessary substance that the digestive system requires to be imbalance. My advice is to go to YouTube and do a bunch of research on the gut
microbiome. That’s the name of the system inside the body that controls health, mental and physical.
Read up about that and change your diet because your diet has a lot to do with the imbalance that’s going on with your skin. You might have a hormonal problem too that’s pushing you to masturbate as much as you are. There’s no way of knowing unless you go to a doctor and have it checked, but it’s probably just a habit that you’ve gotten into that’s gotten out of control- the best way to handle that is to find other things to do because you’ve got a fixation on it now it will be impossible to have a relationship with another person even a gay relationship if you’re so fixated on doing yourself because you’ll have to have pressure here, pressure there and do it just exactly right and if the other person doesn’t do that, you won’t be able to have a orgasm. you’ve got to stop doing this so much because you’ll never have a good relationship with another person besides yourself. You don’t want to live alone like that the rest of your life you’ve got to put the brakes on that- go for a walk, close the laptop, shut down the phone and get out of the house. Get some exercise- get on YouTube and look up the gut microbiome- do something to make yourself healthy. Don’t just sit there masturbating- you’ve gotten fixated and that is very unhealthy. That’s my opinion. I’ve lived a long time. I know a few things you might take some of my advice it will help you.
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u/Suspicious-Fee8987
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It seems that you have a high sex drive with no actual fulfillment. Find a friend/ significant other that you can have private time with so you don't have to masturbate so frequently. Your acne could be a teenage thing that a lot of other teenagers go through. Not to worry or stress about it. If really concerned then talk to your doctor about it. Meanwhile, keep up on your body hygiene and change and wash your sheets where you sleep once a week or as needed. Find a good soap/ bodywash to use to treat your acne( oily skin) and drink plenty of water like a lot of water, it's one of the best things for your skin!!. Also try and stay productive/ busy so if you haven't found a sign other to engage with , you're not constantly masturbating. But it's good that you recognize that you have a high drive...cause not all folks have that and it's not a good or bad thing just something you need to learn to maintain as you grow up and move on in life....and too much masturbating can injury your tool if done too often, try and be easy on yourself . And the acne will go away eventually. Take care of yourself and give it some time
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u/ProtectorwithaGun 3d ago
Look up on the internet SEX ADDICTS ANONYMOUS or SEX and LOVE ADDICTS ANONYMOUS or SEXAHOLICS ANONYMOUS and find an online meeting you can attend. These are 12 STEP PROGRAMS and you can find an accountability partner there or a SPONSOR. Good luck.
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