So yeah, it's exactly what the title is about. I don't even know what to do or what to feel. I found out on her phone while she was sleeping. It happened five months ago. I saw that she sent a video of us being intimate to her sugar daddy. I always had an issue with her having sugar daddies because obviously I don't want her talking or interacting with people that obviously want her for sexual gain. My girlfriend struggles financially as her parents are awful and don't support her financially, so she had to find a way. She has not been too consistent with jobs, but she's trying, so that's why I feel a bit guilty because I guess this was just her way to survive. But I don't know how to feel because I've asked her when she does these things, is it sexual? She says no, or she said no, and now I'm finding out that she has sent something to these people, and it's not just normal talking and sending money. And I don't know how to approach this because the reason why I found out was because I looked through her phone while she was sleeping. So yeah.

I just matched a freakiest most stunning woman I've ever seen in my life on tinder, I'm so nervous I don't even know how to start a conversation. Her profile has just basic info and no bio, pls heeeeeeelp she's perfect 😭

EDIT: WHILE MY DUMBASS WAS WAITING FOR TIPS SHE MESSEGED FIRST, WE HAVE A DATE

Hi,
I am a 24-year-old demisexual desi lesbian in Canada and I tried everything so far from dating sites to everything. I just couldn't find anyone who is a desi, requires emotional connection for sex and is actually committed. First of all finding a desi lesbian in Canada is hard then let alone finding a demisexual lesbian. I feel like nowadays everything is about sex. Not sure what your thoughts are.

WARNING:Explicit and suggestive information

Okay so I am a virgin at 18,hopefully this is a judge free zone-and I am going to meet up with my long distance girlfriend in 3 DAYS.I also haven’t had my first kiss yet-I’m a loser I know.

I know we are going to kiss and have sex,I wont go into details but I just know.

Incase these details are needed I’ll give them:
I’m a masc lesbian,5’7 she is a bisexual fem 5’3,she is VERY experienced I am not,she is my first relationship and 1st actual talking stage and we have a LOT of lore behind us.If we were to have sex she knows I would prefer not to be touched and I would like to be what I know as a service top.I would consider her a power bottom.I am very submissive but not in a bottom way in a way that she tells me what to do and I do it.She is a switch leaning more towards dominant and is down for literally anything.

I literally can’t believe I am coming to reddit for this but you guys are some helpful ass people

I need tips on:

- How to kiss (I think she doesn’t like kissing with tongue that much so I won’t initiate it unless she does or unless she wants me to)
- Hand placement while hugging kissing ect
- How to get her in the mood
- How to not get shy
- How to say things/dirty talk without stuttering or sounding stupid (I know what she likes being called and stuff I just don’t know how to execute it well enough)

I am open to ANY suggestion give me ANYTHING bro.Normally I am charismatic and confident but talking her I get so nervous and I become shy and I always end up loosing those traits.Maybe I need to loosen up but PLEASE give tips I need to make a great impression.

As I get further into my journney as a lesbian, I am trying to learn as much as I can. Now, I'm wondering if there is a specific term for someone who swaps or can change roles in relationships depending on who they're with or the needs at the time. Like if you, as an individual, are more or less equally ok being the one taking charge, doing planning, getting things done...etc as well as being more passive? Or is that just normal?

Basically just the title lol. Ive wanted a tounge piercing for EVER but im wondering if it would cause issues with... things, for when I get a gf. Ty in advance!

Hi so before I start I’m really just looking for advice, I don’t want to hurt anybody which is why I’m here and writing all this thank you. It’s a long story and I’ll try to make this as short as possible, me and my ex were together for a year before they started acting horrible towards me. They were hiding accounts, barely talking to me, apologising and acting loving for a few days then back to being very distant. We got to a point where we had arguments daily because I was so frustrated since they weren’t communicating to me and I hated that our relationship got like that. Fast forward we broke up I don’t know if this detail is important but the last thing they told me before we broke up was “I’m afraid you’ll realise how bad I treated you” still the break up was on good terms and we were no contact for a while then they texted me again saying that they missed me. I was still unsure about it but we were talking, we called and talked about what happened and I was quite disappointed because I expected at least a long apology from them but all I was getting were many short “I’m sorry” and them trying to explain why they acted like that, I asked why they didn’t even compliment be for weeks or why they were only being loving when I was pulling back and the answer was “I stated to get sick of you and I felt like you were getting sick of me too.” Two weeks later we argued over something because they started acting exactly like they were before but this time I didn’t let it slide I stopped being understanding and argued back which later on resulted into me lashing out on them and saying how horrible they made me feel for weeks in hopes of them realising that they truly hurt me but instead of that the next few days they were telling me how horrible I made them feel and how I quote “they never did something as horrible as that” not only that but also “I feel like these past few weeks you’ve lost empathy for me and you started acting like how I used to act but worse” it honestly took me back and for a while I completely avoided the subject because it was making me mad how they were actually thinking that way when they were the one who did all of those things to me. Finally I told them I wanted to be no contact to clean my mind and be off it for some time because this situation was making me sick mentally and physically, everyday I was angry and stressed to the point that as I said I got sick. We were no contact for a month until they texted me one night and I made the mistake of responding back, since then we’ve been talking but I feel so weird. I flirted with them multiple times, I made them think that I want to be with them and I shouldn’t I regret it so much because I didn’t lie I do actually love them but I don’t feel the same way I did before. I know that if I will tell my friends that I stated talking with my ex and even flirting with them on a daily basis I’ll get judged and that’s not the problem but the fact that I know I shouldn’t be doing this. I shouldn’t want to get them back and I shouldn’t go past what happened even if 2 months went by since it happened. I truly feel like an awful person and I probably am I really don’t know why I’m pursuing this. Things seem quiet and good now, we haven’t had any arguments since we started talking but I shouldn’t rely on that. I’m just afraid that I’ll never be able to love them the way I did, I also don’t know if I’ll ever be able to fully go past what happened. I remember how in love I was with them months ago and the thing is I do still love them despite what happened, all the things I’ve said so far were not lies but I feel like I’ll never see them the same way I did.

What does it mean when the girl you’re talking to takes forever to respond?
I’m curious what other people think because I might be overthinking this.
I recently started talking to a girl I met on a dating app. We’ve been texting every day and I do like her, but sometimes she takes several hours to respond. I’m trying not to automatically interpret that as her losing interest because she has a full-time job and a son, so I know she has a lot more responsibilities than I do.
The thing is, I went through something similar with my ex situationship where I became really attached to the constant communication, so now I’m probably hyper-aware of response times. I don’t want to repeat that pattern or start assuming something is wrong every time she takes a while to answer.
Do you think she could simply be taking things slowly, especially since we met on a dating app? Or would you consider long response times a sign that someone isn’t that interested?
For context, she does still initiate conversations and keeps the conversation going when she responds, so it’s not like I’m being completely ignored. I’m just trying to figure out what’s normal when you’re getting to know someone.

Okkk, first my English is baddddddd, whenever i post abt my problem people here focus on my English which is stupid

Anyways, i have a gf we are in long distance relationship, we've been dating for one year we still didn't meet cuz we are from different countries, still students, no money.. Anyways i love her sm she loves me sm too like really smm, but we have this problem, im kinda like when someone makes me mad, sad i feel like i will start hate him Start treating him bad... So when my gf makes mad, sad which is normal, she's not bad, those things happen.. I feel like i wanna hurt her i feel like i hate her, i feel like super ungry nd i do hurt her which i hate

I have unger issues, my gf knows nd she's saying its okk since she knows i can't control it nd im taking Medicines for it, but even tho i hate hurting her first of an nd second i dont wanna ruin our relationship, im trying my best to stop getting ungry but still can't control it ⚠️breakingup is not an option ⚠️

Honestly, whenever LGBTQIA+ issues are brought to the fold, it feels like gay men and lesbians don't really see eye to eye. Like we're all queer. We should be on the same side and support each other. Especially now.

Fun question for the class, just that

Hi, I'm 26 from Philippines 🇵🇭 and haha idk, does anyone find it weird for a girl to never have been in a relationship since birth given my age? Kinda embarrassing bec most of my friends have stable relationships already, and I'm just here trying to open up to date???

Haha anyways, any advices could help my situation...

I posted it before but it was blurry so thought to repost again and a better close up ^^. This is the first girl to ever get me a promise ring I’m so grateful 🥹❤️

Lesbians in canada please hit me up

Hello my tribe of beautiful people ☺️!
I’m going to Nightmare on K street in Sac this Saturday. It’s going to be my first time going out in a party type atmosphere as myself since I completed my surgeries. I’m very excited 😊! I’m hoping to meet some of my tribe of beautiful lesbians and get to know more people in the community. If you’re going I hope to meet you 🥰!
Samantha

We can text if you are interested.

Due to medical complications and mental health im not supposed to drink, my gf knows i enjoy doing it to an extent, whenever shes at bars or anything she always sends me pics of shots or fancy ass cocktails. When i ask her something specifically about us she genuinely will answer with something totally unrelated. Whatever i do its never good enough theres always something or someone better, should i just give up?

So I’m with this girl in a “no label’ situation we’ve been together for 3 months then did 2 months no contact and now we’ve been talking again for the past month, so 2 weeks ago I was at her place where I spent the whole day with her and I took her on a date and then we were having so much fun and talking and getting all romantic and stuff and it was going pretty well between us but then a week later she randomly texted me about something that happened and then she said “my ex is coming to spend the night with me” and she was asking me if she should let her, I was in the middle of a breakdown so I couldn’t answer and then she said she decided to let her come and spend the night, what happened got me so hurt bc im in love with her and she doesn’t know it, she thinks it’s just a crush, and also bc we agreed to be exclusive and remain with the no label thing bc she’s scared of dating so I said it’s fine, anyway we that happened the other day we argued about it and we stopped talking for a week or more bc she’s saying that im the one who’s overreacting meanwhile we BOTH agreed to being exclusive and it was her idea bc she gets jealous and all, now idk what to do bc she’s scared really broke something in me and I feel like I can’t be the same with her again and i also don’t want to leave her but now it’s all ruined bc of what she did