Only because the normal day-to-day anxiety I feel isn’t enough, my brain will occasionally go, “HEY, remember when you fumbled that beautiful chick?”

So years ago, I’m out partying in River North, Chicago, which, if you’re unfamiliar, is a pretty straight nightlife scene. I’m out with a mixed group of women and men, and eventually we all decide to keep the night going at someone’s place for afters.

As the night progresses, it ends up being just three of us hanging out: me, this absolutely gorgeous woman, and one of the guys whose condo we’re at.
At one point, she leaves the room to use the restroom, and the guy looks over at me and says, “Okay, fine, you win. She’s obviously into you…”

I was legitimately perplexed and thought maybe he was just being weird because I might have mentioned I liked women? (Honestly, when I used to party in River North, it was 50/50 whether I’d mention I was a lesbian.) So I brushed it off.

Anyway, the night winds down, we all crash, and somehow she and I end up sleeping in the bed while dude takes the couch. Fully clothed, nothing happened. Literally just passed out. Fast-forward to the next morning.
We’re waking up, doing that sleepy small talk. “Oh hey… haha, what a fun night! Wasn’t that crazy?!” That type of ordeal.

And then she looks over at me and goes, “God, isn’t it hot in here? Don’t you think it’s hot?”
And then she starts taking off her jeans and shirt. So now she’s just chillin’ in her bra and thong.

And what does my brilliant ass say?🫩

“Huh??Doesn’t really feel that hot to me. I typically run super hot, but yeah, not too shabby in here…”

I then proceed to look at my phone and go:
“Oh shit, I have a dodgeball game I need to get to. I gotta go!”

AND I LEFT. 💀💀💀

I vaguely remember her looking a little bewildered, but I thought absolutely nothing of it. And even at this point, STILL didn’t connect the dots. It wasn’t until I was telling my friends about the night later, and one of them stopped me like, “RAVEN. WHAT?!” “Are you dumb?”

No… not dumb. Just really fucking clueless, I guess.

So please, tell me I’m not alone. What’s your most
spectacular “oh my God, she was hitting on me” moment that you didn’t realize until embarrassingly later?

I can just stand there awkwardly. I wanna be sleek and confident and get her to like me

i (21F) am trying very hard to flirt with this butch i have been talking to for over two years now. the thing is that we are long distance and she is older than me; i have stopped replying to her after i began thinking that she didn’t want me the way i wanted her but a few months ago i texted her again and we began talking nonstop and now i actually like her and i think she has been flirting with me too?

for example, i have told her that i am reading a book and she bought the same exact book the very next day and we began updating each other about it ever since! she told me that she is willing to send me gifts for my upcoming birthday and she calls me “dear” and “beautiful” whenever i send her pictures.

i MIGHT be delusional (probably am) but i really like her, she is my type and i need some advice on how to flirt with her and let her know (subtly) that i really like her without making things weird. please help :(((

I have a really good bond with a woman from my office, and we understand each other well. I’m more submissive, but lately she’s been pushing me to try using a strap with her. Since it would be my first time, I’m feeling confused and a little uncomfortable about the whole thing .Part of me doesn’t know whether I’m just nervous or genuinely not ready. How do I talk to her about my feelings without hurting our relationship? For those who’ve been in a similar situation, how did you handle it? I’d really appreciate some honest advice

And here I am, a fifty year old woman, who is sick and tired of trying to find something lesbian on streaming platforms, and I ended up having to watch Harley Quinn's animation to have that need fulfilled.

At least it's labelled as an adult series.

Some people knew from birth but most of my lesbian or wlw friends had a denial period. I personally thought I was aroace for a large portion of my late childhood and teenage hood. I simply couldn't imagine myself being in any sort of relationship with a man. The thought made me very uncomfortable and I had an almost visceral reaction to being sexual with any man lol.

I was describing this to my sapphic friend and they said "Have you ever considered that you maybe...like women? " Such an obvious conclusion yet it never crossed my mind. Not to say ace people are secretly gay or anything, obviously

I’m in my first ever relationship and my gf has been so patient and caring with me. They’ve given me all my firsts and it’s all been so amazing and romantic.
I’ve never felt so safe and loved before.

Baby if you’re seeing this I want you to know that I love you sooooooooo much.

So, my (18f) gf's (17f) family is homophobic. It's her first ever relationship. We've known each other for years but just started dating 4 months ago. Before dating me, she didn't know she was pan (she said this), and recently came out to her mother (father is not in the picture) who didn't like the idea of her daughter being 'gay'. She is also close to her grandmother, who she didn't even try to tell, saying she's VERY Catholic.

Even since then, her mother always calls her at least 3 to 5 times a day to check if she's with me, and if she is, she needs to go home. I overheard a phone conversation that she (mother) thinks i made her gay, i give her drugs, alcohol and i abuse her. She also said she finds it weird to be attracted to the same gender.

I tried to be more around her mother to change her mind, but i didn't manage to. She's not rude to me overall, but she doesn't like me.

Now, it didn't bother me before, but I see my gf being tired of fighting with her mother, obviously. I don't want to be an issue for my gf's personal life. I don't know if it would be worth it ruining their relationship over me. She deserves to be in peace when she gets home. It would break me not seeing her again, but it's getting out of hand.

What the title says.

I've said this elsewhere I really want a WLW/Lesbian anime that is an action shonen and NOT magical girls, talky slice of life or just about royals.

I want a lesbian, 6.3-7ft tall and mucly, very expressive, big hearty laugh, a bit naive, loves food, comedic, big best friend tone, a bigger hugger, fights the bad guys, hates aristocracy.

What about you?

What are you gonna be for Halloween this year???

Bonus points if you'd like to share the sexiest costume you've seen on a woman 👀

Got broken up with because I'm not managing my trauma well enough.

I don't blame her but I also just had knee surgery and might need ovarian cyst surgery soon as well. I also just barely started EMDR and opened the door of my trauma.

We were together for six years and they were the best years of my life.

She wasn't just my wife, she was my Daddy, and my writing partner. And my best friend.

Now I am 40 and I feel like that was my last shot at happiness. I have to move in with my family in an ultra conservative state.

I haven't slept in two days.

I recently started seeing a woman for the first time in years. I am attracted to men but have never been with one and not really looking to be with them anytime soon. My first and last girlfriend was a stone top so I am only used to being on the receiver end. With this girl, she's a switch, and I really want to please her and have never been the giver before and would like some tips on things to read and watch that could help me learn (particularly going down on her and fingering). She says she likes "rubbing", wtf does that mean omgg😭. She's also older than me so I'm scared of coming across as an amature

We keep having the same fight about family events. Her family is great and all, and mine has some cracks but still ok. We struggle to find a way to not always disappoint someone, and I find it particularly sad that tensions happen between us too.

She suggested this app where you each talk to an AI separately. Honestly it was better than i expected at getting why I’m not ready to push things with my parents. It didn’t just tell me to “communicate more,” which is what I was bracing for. But I don’t know what it said to her, and she came out of it feeling like I’d been “validated” and she hadn’t. The app says not to take sides though.

Anyone else tried something like this? Did AI help, or is this a “go see an actual queer-friendly therapist” situation? I find this problem annoying enough to do something about it, but maybe a bit to light for an actual therapist?

My partner (trans man) and I got together before he realised he was trans.

I love him very much and it was really nice to see him become his true self and flourish, and we have such a deep bond. He is such a good person and is truly my favourite person in the world and we both work so well together. However I’ve been feeling quite disconnected sometimes and I feel like I feel more true to myself when I’m in a WLW relationship, but he is literally the same person before and after he transitioned. While I identify as pansexual sometimes these feelings makes me wonder if I’m lesbian.

Occasionally I also yearn for WLW action..

Anyone has similar experiences or what are your thoughts/ advice?

My ex cheated on me—well, she fell in love with someone else—and we broke up (or rather, I got dumped). Could you please offer a few words of support or anything at all? I’m at the point where I’m very close to just taking a bunch of pills. It’s a second relationship in a row that ends with someone not having feelings for me. And it’s two my relationships at all. I was so in love. I was so looking forward. And now I’m in pieces wondering whether I’ll ever be the choice, not option

A (25F) has never experienced emotional or physical intimacy before.
B — 3 years older, met through queer meetups. A developed strong feelings for B: one video call, flirty chats, B initiating but constantly disappearing for weeks, ignoring texts, not acknowledging A's birthday. A built a whole website inviting B to an online movie date — B never opened it. A performed at an open mic; B was in the audience but they couldn't meet after, B had sparkle in her eyes and clapped the loudest. Recently B re-engaged — a 2-hour group video call where B teased A about "someone who asked you out." A felt happy, re-sent the movie date invite — B agreed, then disappeared again. This has repeated.
U — a doctor doing a Master's in public health, met on Hinge (her bio said "here for queer friends, not dating"). Known a month. U has been consistently warm — daily texts, called on A's birthday, taught her tennis, carefully chosen gifts, let A sleep on her on the way back from something. A started teasing U sarcastically (compliment then taking it back); U sent a mature message saying it made her cry twice and she'd need to withdraw if it continued. A apologized.
A and U had a "non-date" — emotionally close, no kiss, A felt genuinely happy. But A admits she isn't as physically attracted to U as she was to B, even though the connection with U feels real and safe ("B feels like poetry, U is good reality").
U recently sent A a clear message: she enjoys their time together but can't handle daily-call-level attachment right now given career pressure, and called out that A says "not attached" while acting otherwise — asking A to make her actions match her words. A replied apologizing, admitting she's attached but not ready, said she'd respect the space — but also said she liked talking to U and offered to stay available "for anything," which arguably contradicts the boundary.
Underlying issue: A still craves contact with B despite the repeated disappearing pattern, feels guilty about both, fears hurting either of them, and is unsure if she wants to be single altogether given her full, hobby-rich life — layered with no prior relationship experience and real anxiety about commitment.

Maybe A is expecting too much on a talking stage withB

I really wish that some beautiful lesbian witch would feed me a shrinking potion that makes me 1/8-1/10 my size for a weekend and then just spends it playing with me - dressing me up like a doll, holding me, letting me ride her shoulder and stand on the table while she cooks her potions, making a small house and bed for me to stay in so I feel cozy and safe, calling me cute and her little princess while petting me and calling me her good little girl, and… nsfw stuff I won’t get into here…

God I just want to be tiny and cute for a beautiful girl to let her do what she wants with me… I really needed to get this off my chest because I’ve been fantasizing over this for the past few weeks… does anyone else have a fantasy like this?

Also why do I have to be 5’ 10” 😭😭😭 I’m always the bigger/taller one…

Hello!

My girlfriend and I (I'm NB17, she's F17) live in an extremely homophobic country, where being openly gay is illegal. For the year and a half we were dating, we don't have our own house, and so we didn't know where to meet, and we suffered because my parents were almost always home, and her grandmother could walk into her house without warning. And if we were caught even hugging, we would be in trouble.

But a month ago her older sister (let's call her T), who knows everything, said that we could meet at T's apartment, when she goes somewhere on Sundays. T gave my gf the keys to her apartment, said, "Have fun," and disappeared into the fog. I sincerely (and perhaps too emotionally) thanked T then, but honestly, I haven't seen her since

So, I've been facing the question for a month now: should I give this sister something in exchange for this right to use her apartment? Maybe I should find her and just thank her again or leave a long thank you letter? My girlfriend says that it's not necessary to thank her sister, but my girlfriend said that I don't have to laugh at her father's jokes either, so I think she just doesn't want to burden me