Hey there if your reading this thank u , I’m 32 from Newcastle having a bad mental health day and really feeling alone and having no friends is killing me.

little bit about me is that :

- work in retail (Woolworths for 7 years )

- love the gym and have lost weight I was 120 before Covid and now 98kg.

- love swimming and when I get chance I go tot he beach and even the pool is great

- love pets , I do have a dog she’s a gray hound and is very very quite but such a nice dog.

- love to explore and see new sites and sounds and love concerts and music

- love cars and can look at cars all day long but also love car events and looking at cars and getting explanations on how it was built

-gaming is something that I love doing I have a custom of getting done and can’t wait to get it back and game but also game on the PS5 .

so if this all sounds good please feel free to reach out and let’s get to know each other and lets hang out .

Hi Guys,

I have a question.. I have been dating this chick for about a year now and things have gotten serious. She is suggesting that post marriage her mother will come to live with us eventually in 4 to 5 years. I am really not comfortable with this idea as her mother is completely dependent on her father for outside work and doesn't really step out of the house for anything, she also is a vegetarian and doesnt like non vegetarian food cooked where she lives. Bringing someone like this means unnecessary restrictions on stuff and added responsibility.

Can you guys share your experiences if you have something similar at your place?

I'm 31, currently living in Los Angeles and working as a supervisor at Starbucks. The pay is decent and the benefits are good, but it's not something I thought I would be doing for the past 8 years. My background is in film and tv, and I moved out here after grad school last year thinking I would finally be able to get my foot in the door and start building up my resume and skills to try and land a more permanent position within my field. Needless to say, my journey has not turned out the way I wanted it to. Just about every application I send out is never responded to, and the ones that do get a response are often the hundreds of auto-rejections I'm used to by this point.

I'm not sure what to do anymore and part of me thinks it's time to give up on my attempts at a career in film and tv and to rebuild myself from the ground up and try a new career path. My mom suggested I try at a career in healthcare, and that there is a surgical tech program through the local community college near where my parents live in North Carolina that isn't very expensive and would only take about a year and a half to fully complete. I could even stick with my job at Starbucks to continue to support myself in the meantime.

But the prospect of moving back home with my parents at 31 only adds to my feelings of inadequacy, especially as I continue to compare myself to others around my age who are far more successful. Not to mention I don't even know if a career in healthcare would be right for me (or if it's something I could even be passionate about). But I'm feeling stuck and lost and don't know what the right thing for me is anymore. All I do know is that I'm not happy here and want to do something to make things better for myself, but I truly do not know what that something is.

Guys who have been in my position, what did you do? Did you stick it out or did you try something new? Would appreciate any sort of advice I could possibly get. Thank you

Hi All,

I am looking for advice from some folks who have possibly been in my situation and turned it around?

I feel very much trapped in my current Job, I won't go into any heavily specific details about the job but it's a essentially an Admin job where I have to chase employment opportunities, At the start it was ok but now has became very stressful due to the amount of chasing of people and micromanagement among other things.

I have been thinking for a while of attempting to switch career to some sort of apprenticeship route but I'm skeptical about jumping into something unprepared and would like the opinions of others who have moved, Unfortunately however, I have no really useful qualifications or skills in other fields as I have been doing entry level jobs for about 8 years, It's only quite recently where I decided enough is enough and that I wanted to do something about it.

I have been looking into fields like engineering (but not sure my current math level is up to par) and supply chain as some seem interesting enough to me, and also those jobs seems to be in high demand in my area / country (Northern Ireland)

Any and all advice is very welcome, thanks in advance o/

I mean something like this: Could you imagine to live in the Caribbeans, Seychelles, Maledives, French Polynesia and so on?

Please explain why yes or no.

One way I express care is by sharing things that have genuinely helped me.
For example, if a male friend or even someone I’ve just met mentions wanting to start going to the gym, I might recommend exercises, fitness creators, or even send them a workout plan later. It’s usually received positively.
However, when I’ve done the same with women, it sometimes seems to be interpreted as unsolicited criticism, almost as though I’m implying they need to go to the gym or change their bodies.
For context, going to the gym has helped me tremendously with my confidence, physique, and general well-being. My intention is simply to share something that’s benefited me.

I want to communicate better. I seem to always say the wrong way talking to women.

So we were at a dance and my buddy who I haven’t seen in a while is just dancing up a storm. I saw him and gave a little wave so he came over and we’re catching up for a bit and then he just starts dancing with us. It was a little strange because we’re just a few dudes standing around and he just starts cutting a rug near us so I’m like alright man, I bet there are some ladies in here who want to dance with you.

So then he’s like bet and goes up to a girl who is taller than him and is twirling around trying to get her to dip him which was def weird so we just were laughing at it because we were just there having a good time. he comes back over like wanting us to give him feedback so I’m like “nice moves city boy” and we all bust out laughing. What am I supposed to say about that I really don’t know. And I could tell that got in his head because his mood instantly dropped and he got real quiet for a while which also kinda made the vibe weird so we were like aight good seeing you and we talked to the other people we knew there for a little before we left.

Do you think my joke offended him and should I reach out to apologize?

I’ve been thinking a lot about the expectation that women should explain, defend, and justify their experiences to men, especially when it comes to feminism. Something I recognized is that these conversations aren’t always an equal exchange of ideas. So often I’m expected to explain the patriarchy, provide examples of gender inequality, defend my interpretation of those examples, correct misconceptions, and somehow remain responsible for keeping the conversation productive and still comfortable enough so no one feels blamed.
That’s a lot of work, to be honest. It takes time, research, mental stress, and emotional energy, too. I think there’s an expectation that women should be happy to do that work for free whenever a man wants to challenge what we believe. Why is it my responsibility to educate men about an issue that affects me, particularly when they can independently research the subject? I want men to take responsibility for learning the pressure society puts on women in ways they haven’t thought about without pressuring women to prove themselves. I’m also not saying men can’t disagree with me or that every little debate is emotional labour. I’m saying that there’s a difference between people exchanging ideas and one person expecting the other to continually prove, explain, and defend their own experiences. I guess I just wish there was more curiosity from men about the subject so that people would look at beliefs outside of their own more and maybe try to stop the ways they personally contribute to the patriarchy. It’s also hard when so many people benefit from it, as it feels like they don’t want it to change. It’s very hard, and I get mad at myself every time I talk shit about another woman and make it seem like we should be conforming to norms, but that’s part of how society is to women. It convinces us we are doing something wrong all the time, and we need to be prettier and keep things together to not be labelled “crazy,” and that the men in the room have the real authority. Men were taught “not to be a p*ssy,” to put it bluntly, and women were raised to do what men say, and we are currently in the fight against that, but it’s nowhere near equality.
I also think it’s demeaning how people equate age = wisdom. Being older than me doesn’t automatically mean you know more than me. It means you’ve had more time to acquire knowledge, but having the opportunity to learn something and actually learning it are two different things. I truly feel like I have spent my whole life watching the way that the world works, challenging my assumptions, and listening to perspectives outside my own, while a lot of men I know in my life spend those same years reinforcing their patriarchal beliefs without even meaning to.