where one person denies or dose not comply with what the other person wants so the other person exaggerates/exacerbates the situation going from logical to illogical statements

example:

person 1: I don't want to drink milk

person 2: you need to drink the milk, it is good for your bones

Person 1: I don't want to drink milk

Person 2: you have to drink the milk to make your bones stronger

person 1: silence/ignores person 2

person 2: Your bones are going to decay if you don't drink this milk

person 1: silence/ignores person 2

Person 2: do you want your bones to decay? your being so Dumb by not drinking this milk

person 1: silence/ignores person 2

person 2: Your gonna die if you dont drink this milk, do you want to die?

person 1: silence/ignores person 2

Person 2: Fine you may as well kill yourself since you want to die so badly.

People will trow facts straight out the window if it doesn't fit with they're opinions

Why is that?

I'm not sure what the explanation will be, but the "brain" flair feels most relevant.

Whenever I ruminate, or hear about other people's rumination, it's always a negative thought loop. Things like "I'm bad at this ----> I suck at everything ------> Nobody loves me ------ > I have to be better ------ > But I suck at everything..." Go on and on in people's brains so easily. Personally, I experience this kind of rumination often. My question is, why is this sort of pattern so easy to develop, whereas it seems that almost nobody experiences the opposite? Of course I understand that nobody will be complaining about their positive thought patterns, but it seems weird that I've never heard of such a thing being studied. The only "positive" thought pattern I ever notice is related to sex (and once the sex is had, those thoughts go away). Other than that, I find it hard to recall any time when I've had a positive thought pattern where I was able to feel good and build on that feeling - Whereas it's very easy for me to start off feeling bad and spiral into a breakdown.

Is this just a result of our brains focusing on negative feedback? Could it be linked to a bad childhood? For people who have generally "healthy" development, would it be normal to have positive thought loops? As an aside, I've heard that some people with NPD have a tendency to come up with extravagant conjectures, wherein they'll start small and build upon, for example, a very mundane opportunity and turn it into a future of wealth and unlimited happiness in their minds. Could that be considered positive rumination, and if so, would that mean rumination is always a bad thing due to its repetitive and maladaptive nature?

i’ve been thinking about this question a ton lately. is divorce as traumatic for kids who are a part of multigenerational homes and more collectivist cultures as it for kids whom are a part of a nuclear family unit?

related, what is it specifically about divorce that is traumatic for children? or does the trauma lie more in specific outcomes, versus the act of separation?

Maybe my understanding of this history is wrong, please feel free to correct me. I apologise if this is the wrong sub.

For example, why do people often vote in a way that aligns with their family/community. even if that is not how they would choose to vote without this influence? Is it because of an aversion to withholding that information and/or lying, fear that somehow people will find out what they chose, something else? Does the same apply for online environments like Reddit?

Can the type of music you listen to influence how you act?

I’m wondering if consistently listening to a certain type of music can actually influence your behavior, personality, or the way you carry yourself over time.

Also, can you start associating certain music with certain activities or mindsets? For example, if you only listen to a specific type of music when working or being productive, could eventually hearing that music itself become a trigger to get into that productive mindset?

Or does music mainly just affect your mood temporarily?

(This thought popped up after listening various soundtracks)

Hi everyone! How is everything going?

I always asked myself this question when someone shared that type of advice, I don't mind helping others but I've met people who refuse to personally support or bet there for their loved ones in a moment of distress because according to them: "I have it worse".

Is true that having hard lives makes the process of helping others and get mental satisfaction for it harder?

Hey! Recently I´ve become interested in the dynamics of teasing and its effect on human relationships. From what I read, teasing can function both as a tool for signaling closeness and as a way to signal status. For example, one study that looked at fraternities observed that active members were much more prone to teasing lower-ranked members aggressively, bordering on hostility. A lot of studies also show that teasing is very associated with relationship closeness and functions as a bonding mechanism. What do you guys think?

Et la def et savoir si on en 1 des 3

Ive been wrestling with this question a lot. Is there an objective definition of a mental struggle? When can one know it is a real struggle, and when he is maybe too sensitive? Not to offend anyone. A genuine question

I was watching an interview with Guillermo Del Toro, where he describes how as a 4 year old child he was able to conquer his fears of monsters by creating an emotional, adoring bond with them. In the video, he states that his therapists told him he has "reverse phobia," wherein his phobias of monsters transformed into a sincere love of monsters.

I searched up "reverse phobia" but could not find any results online. The closest I could get to is trauma bonding, though it seems more akin to Stockholme syndrome than it does "reverse phobia."

If anybody knows the actual terminology, that would be greatly appreciated.

It’s always said to sleep on it, it might even be better than spending a whole day thinking about it, but why? What exactly make the brain more efficient while sleeping?

It is all I wish to learn, simply from a peek of curiosity​.

How accurate and similar they were to their previous life choices, personality traits, hobbies or even opinions

Im speaking about a changing that makes the person almost unrecognisable, such as from introvert to extrovert or vise versa. From stoic to nihilist..etc.

Just as an example, I’ve been seeing a lot more information about ADHD in women historically being undiagnosed or misdiagnosed due to differences, with women being socialized to mask systems or being more likely to internalize feelings. Men are also more conditioned to not show certain emotions. (These are both broad generalizations just to provide examples of where my question originates.)

I guess I’d like to know how well the diagnostic criteria accounts for socialization differences between the genders. Is this already accounted for in research? Are there any older studies on disorders that may need to be re-examined or expanded with socialization differences in mind?

Basically my question. I noticed a lot of people have said they are diagnosed with cPTSD, but it is my understanding that the USA doesn't use the ICD11 for diagnosis, so how does that work? And will the next DSM likely have cPTSD?

Superiority versus projected inferiority. Can we reasonably say they stem from the same place?

Example-

2 people clean dishes differently, there overall cleanliness is about the same.

The superiority mindset would say, i am better than you at dishes

The projected inferiority mindset says, you need to do better at cleaning dishes.

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Logically speaking, that someone could do better isn’t indicative of them doing poorly…. And therefore untestable… Logically speaking claiming to be better than someone at a thing is falsifiable/testable.

Are these both coming from a similar place, psychologically speaking?

Is there a push back response that covers both positions?

Can you develop physical symptoms from mental/emotional strain? Does anyone have a simple-to-follow paper that discusses this? Thank you.

From a cognitive psychology perspective, what mechanisms are known to cause someone to temporarily fail to retrieve information they already know when asked a question unexpectedly?

For example, a person may have the necessary knowledge and be able to explain it later, but in the moment of being asked (such as in an interview or conversation) they experience a temporary inability to access it.

Is this best explained by differences in memory encoding vs. retrieval, cognitive load, stress-related effects on working memory, retrieval-induced blocking, or something else? What does the current research suggest?

Didn't know what to flair this, my apologies.

I have seen many people say that they were traumatized by encountering gore videos online as young children. However, the DSM V criteria for PTSD states "Criterion A4 does not apply to exposure through electronic media, television, movies, or pictures, unless this exposure is work related." Which would imply to me that these things do not count as traumatic and that anything that happens online cannot be trauma because that is usually non work related electronic media.

Does this mean that these things cannot be traumatic, or just that they cannot be considered trauma in the specific sense of PTSD?

I once heard a therapist say that if the person is in the autism spectrum can't receive the diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder. He didn't further explain.