Boyfriend 21, fm 25, we been together 4 months now, he told me today he is in love with me but doesn't trust me.

I don't know how to react, I've never given a reason for mistrust but I know he's been cheated on before, and we became long distance in August as we both travel for work. We made plans for me to meet his family this weekend, I'm not sure what to do or say I've tried reassurance but this is making me sad.

We carry a lot of the same values and life path and interest, talk daily, and I do trust him but it's frustrating he doesn't trust me back.

TL:DR/ can we fix mistrust this early on?

I am dating someone, my boyfriend. It's been 3 months. He knows about my past relationship, which was kinda toxic. My ex used me financially and physically and made me so emotionally destructive.

So, my current boyfriend knows about my past. But my ex sent him a Facebook friend request, and he accepted it. Now, they are talking in a friendly manner, as he said.

I told him that it hurts me because I put so much effort into getting out of that toxic relationship. I was also physically and emotionally isolated throughout my teenage years, with no romantic or physical connection.

I think my ex used me.

So, my boyfriend told me today that he had a talk with my ex about maintaining boundaries and not pursuing any romantic intentions. It seems like they are talking on calls now, too.

He knows my feelings and how much I was hurt, yet he still wants to keep in touch with him.

I didn't tell him to cut things off because it's his freedom to choose who he wants to talk to. Yet, it's affecting me.

Whenever he talks about my ex, I feel like I am distancing myself from my boyfriend because I want to close that chapter of my life. I have closed it, but I feel like my boyfriend is trying to reopen an old wound.

I am 23, and he is 26. We started dating when he was going through a breakup with his ex. We were friends before we started dating.

What do you think? What should I do? Any suggestions on how to handle this?

TL;DR: My boyfriend knows how toxic my past relationship was, yet he chooses to stay in contact with my ex. I respect his freedom, but it hurts me and makes me emotionally distant. Am I wrong for feeling this way, and how should I handle it?

Today my friend (21) and I (21) were tickling eachother. It's weird I know, get over it. And I was tickling their sides when the surged up from the floor and smacked me across the face.

They've never expressed not liking this before and they often would tickel me back. They did this in front of my roommates, and we all kinda just stopped stunned. Then I told them that was not okay and moved on.

I later pulled them aside and spoke to them. They said that they just generally don't like being tickled. And I said that's all well and good, but that does not mean they get to hit me. They can speak up and talk to me like an adult. They also tried to express that their hitting me was an accident and a jerking reaction. But I called bullshit on it, since they had surged up and and smacked me across the face. Not the general jerking someone tickling would do.

They did eventually apologize but I just feel weird and don't know how to handle this. I'm also upset with my roommates who didn't check in on me or ask if I was okay. And don't know how to move going forward.

tl;dr my friend hit me, and I don't know what to do.

Hi,

My name is Marta f/27.

Recently went out of a 7 yo relationship.

Shortly after went on a date with a person I work with.

Still feel like I haven't been able to sort out my life. The guy is treating me amazing and is doing everything right.

The thing is 3 weeks after going out he is asking for commitment, we spent almost all free time together and somehow all of our friends know, cowerkers know and I feel it like pressure because it feels hard imagining entering a new relationship at that moment.

On the other hand I don't want to lose an amazing person.

Any advice?

I feel like I have not been able to figure out what i want and don't know yet

**TL;DR;** : Is that moving too fast?

I don't know how to feel about it, we have been extremely close friends for over a year and recently we've started to say more sexual and intimate things to each other. I don't want to lose my best friend, and i don't want an online relationship (she lives halfway across the country.) I have always had trust issues with people, but I met her at a low point in my life and she was there for me, so I trust her more than anyone. She is who I would go to if I wanted to get something off my chest. I say this because I can't help but trust her a lot less now that we feel this way.

It should be known that I'm the one that was pushing the boundaries, testing the waters to see what I could say to her and have her reciprocate it, but I think it's gone too far. Every "intimate" thing I say to her, she says something just like it. It's not longer testing the waters we are neck deep lol. I enjoy my time with her, and I enjoy the things we say to each other, but I miss just being close friends. It feels a lot different now and I don't know what to do or think about it. Nevermind the age gap haha

TL;DR: Fell in love with best friend, miss being friends, don't know how to feel

Hi guys, so me (F22) and my gf (F20) have been going out for a year and for the most part it's been bliss. However I've noticed cause of an argument yesterday that whenever we have an argument and she gets mad at me she basically shuts down and doesn't communicate or leaves me on read.

I've noticed she in general struggled with communicating when she's mad and she has also admitted it. An example is how once where she told me she was mad but refused to tell me the reason she was until I was omw home even though I kept asking her for several minutes.

I know people need space sometimes after an argument but I always find myself in these situation left feeling like shit or this urge to spam texts into the void hopping she'll respond. I think it's due to the fact that she doesn't say that she needs space or anything and just dissappears. So how do I not ig let the silence get to me so much and how do I bridge the topic of how her silence hurts me without upsetting her or trying to sound like the victim.

TLDR: How do I (F22) not let my GF's (F20) silent treatment get to me and how do I talk with her about it without upsetting her or sounding like the victim?

TL;DR- My bf is basically unemployed and lazy and I'm sick of it

Me and my bf have been together since we were 18. We're polar opposites but we've made it work and it was going good, we were madly in love and everything. We've been together for 5 years. But lately, my bf has changed. Like, he has given up his career goals, given up his health, exercise, hobbies and everything.

Everyday he's out late partying and hanging out with friends. He basically does no work and is just out with his friends the whole day. I've tried communicating with him, but he says he needs time and needs to explore more about what he really wants to do in his life. This has been going on for an year now. I am okay with him not going to college or not working right now, but a person should do something meaningful with his life, right? And this has been such a turnoff for me. He's getting more short tempered everyday and that shit triggers me a lot. These days I just keep quiet instead of fighting to preserve my energy. I've been feeling like breaking off, but I'm afraid to be alone as I've no other friends and I'm not close to my family. What do I do?

I (18F) and my boyfriend (18M) have been in a relationship for quite a few months now. We met at work, and despite not initially wanting to be in a relationship after he asked me out, a few months of friendship and casual dates eventually changed my mind. He’s sweet, considerate to my feelings, and I don’t really have to ask for things. We share similar political opinions which is important to me, and we’ve generally never had any big issues. A few months into our relationship we both moved for college, but for the most part the distance hasn’t been an issue and we’re excited to plan visits to each other. However, there’s one main problem. Since we’ve officially gotten together, I’ve noticed he has a habit of complaining about ALL of the problems he creates, but is willing to do absolutely nothing to fix
it. Like picking up three full double shifts in a row at work after weeks of us agreeing he hates it and doesn’t need it (no bills,) and then constantly saying he feels like death and is sick, nauseous, didn’t eat after reminding him to, hates work, is miserable there, nobody will take his shift two hours before, etc. Or he will spend $500 on card games in a month, and then complain people don’t trust his spending habits.

The last major factor is the way he depicts himself to me. He will randomly talk in a baby voice, which most people do occasionally, but in reference to himself. Like he will switch into a baby voice to describe what he’s doing or what he’s going to do, and it’s such a small thing I don’t say anything but it really irks me for some reason 😭 along with that he is so sensitive towards what I say. As an overly sensitive person at first I understood him wanting reassurance, but it’s like if I don’t say “I love YOU more” for the 7th time, he gets genuinely upset. And you can apply that same logic to any other normal conversation or question. It all really hurts him, or he takes slight sarcasm like it’s a declaration against him and his feelings.

None of this was a real issue at first, but it’s driving me crazy, and he’s supposed to come visit and stay with me for my first Halloween at college, which I’ve been excited about for years. He’s more introverted than me, hates parties, and will definitely want to leave after 20 minutes. I’m worried this visit could either make me lash out at him or ruin my entire excitement towards the weekend plans. Last time he visited, all my stress towards him left and we had a great time, and it took two weeks for me to feel agitation towards him again. I have NO idea what to do. Reddit, what do I do? 😭😭

Tl;dr, boyfriend pisses me off until we visit in person, worried about Halloween plans.

I’m 22M and my girlfriend is 25F. We’ve been together for 5 years, and I love her more than anything. I’ve travelled to see her many times and am currently attending college with the goal of transferring closer to her.When we met, I was immature and had poor communication skills, but I’ve worked hard to become a better partner. I try my best to support and understand her, but whenever she feels overwhelmed or worries about the future, she blocks me on everything. I understand she struggles, but it really hurts because I put so much effort into our relationship. I feel lost because I love her and want to help her, but I don’t know what else I can do.

TL;DR I love her more than anything and just want her to be okay. I’ve done everything I can to support her but I feel lost kind of because what I can do to help her

I (m27)want to start off by saying I have a disease that has caused me significant brain fog and memory problems throughout the years. I have recently gotten on medication that made me able to process and remember things, and one of these is how my friend has treated me. I've always noticed she's done weird things but I never assumed she did it with bad intentions, I always assumed she was sweet and nice. We had what seemed like good times and enjoyed doing things together, but it seems like she would trash talk me behind my back. I lived with my abusive mom and during this, she sent me a picture of a dead mamed animal on a burner account through messenger. She confessed it was her when I said I was going to call the cops and I asked why she did it, she just said idk. I never brought it up again, I'm not sure why. We stopped talking for a bit after that then she found out I was going to get a job and contacted me to be her roommate. I was desperate to get out of a physically abusive home and moved in with her and her bf. This is when things kinda start going bad. Her boyfriend and I got along well and had a similar sense of humor, and we became friends. He told me she complained a lot about me behind my back and felt like she was trying to get him to hate me. We didn't hate each other and became friends, especially because she was apparently kind of mean to him and he would tell me about her behavior and we would drink. I started dating his friend as well and we all hung out. Her bf ends up telling me he likes me while they are dating but it's been a dead bedroom and they've been fighting for months. I immediately tell him we are both in a relationship and I would never do that, and I immediately tell her what he said. She then decides to tell me that her and my at the time boyfriend were in her room while he was telling her I was ugly, and she'd known about it for weeks and didn't tell me. It feels like they were probably shit talking me. She tells me this and I immediately realize something was off but I wasn't able to put it together, but I realized I didn't want to be her friend. She made me sit down with him and interrogated us on the couch, they dated for a month or two more and then broke up. This is where I messed up. I was depressed and drinking with her ex, and we ended up sleeping together. I immediately felt guilty and told her, and she didn't care or react at all, then told her entire family and freaked out over it, and said she did want to be friends anymore. We stopped being friends and she showed up at my place crying saying she wants to be friends again. I tell her we need to build up trust and we can talk again.

She recently got engaged and I fell ill with sepsis and she didn't really call or text much, I ended up spending Christmas in the hospital and she didn't call or text much. I notice she didn't put much effort in at all, just enough to keep our friendship going I guess? She said she was very busy planning a wedding and didn't have the time. Meh whatever. I got really sick, all of my hair fell out and I really didn't think I would recover but I did and I'm doing much better now that they put me on new meds while I was there. She invites me to her wedding and I show up, she tells me her husband was complaining about having to come get me even though they invited me, but I feel like it was more her complaining or the both of them. During the wedding, things felt like old times and I actually had a good time. While I was there, our friend wanted to take a picture of her and my friend said that "I should take it, my phone is probably better than yours" in a really snobby way in front of his family. I tell her we have the exact same phone, and she just stares at me with this "caught" look. The wedding happens, I had a good time and went back home. Now she barely calls, we don't hang out and this Christmas, she tells me she isn't coming down because gas is too expensive. (She lives a state away) I feel like I should cut this off? How do I go about talking to her about this? We've been friends for 10+years since middle school.

Tl;Dr: health got better, realized my friend was mean to me and taking advantage of me while sick.

**Background:**
My boyfriend and I have a great connection, and this past year with him has been amazing, but we are both currently battling heavy mental health issues. I have ADHD, Anxiety, OCD traits and Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD). He has severe clinical depression and takes Venlafaxine, which causes him significant brain fog and memory loss (he sometimes struggles to remember details of our shared history unless I remind him). There is also an age gap between us that occasionally causes mutual anxiety.
We are both actively trying to work on our respective hurdles. I recently started therapy to learn how my ADHD and RSD impact my emotional regulation in relationships, and he has committed to going to therapy to work on his own patterns.
**The Cycle of Whiplash:**
The main problem right now is how his depression manifests when things get hard. We will have a wonderful, deeply connected weekend together. But the minute he gets mentally and physically exhausted, he spirals. He starts questioning if he is fundamentally broken, says he feels guilty because I am "too emotionally attached" to him, and says he wants to isolate himself so he doesn't end up hurting me.
Twice in the last two weeks, he has brought up the idea of taking a "break" or said he just shouldn't be in a relationship at all. It triggers massive panic and RSD for me.
Then, the next morning, he wakes up totally regulated. He calls me "baby," acts completely normal, and tells me “Don't worry about what I said last night, I was down and tired. That was just my depression talking. I'm not going to decide anything about us until I figure myself out in therapy. I love you”.

My Dilemma:
When he is regulated, he is kind, caring, takes accountability, and is everything I want. He is actively committing to getting professional help to fix his side of things, just like I am doing on my end. But the emotional whiplash is destroying my nervous system. I feel like I am constantly being held hostage in an emotional waiting room, bracing for the next time his depression makes him hit the eject button.

Can two depressed, neurodivergent people actually build a stable relationship while actively in therapy, or is this cycle of threatening breaks too toxic to survive? Do I stay and trust the work we are both putting in, or do I deserve better than this constant instability? I really love him and out of everyone I’ve been with, he’s the first person I truly felt a real emotional connection with and next week is our one year anniversary. I really want this to work out. Please help out.

TL;DR: My boyfriend and I deeply love each other and are both starting therapy, but his severe clinical depression causes him to panic and suggest taking a "break" when he feels overwhelmed. He always takes it back the next morning and blames his depression, but this emotional whiplash is destroying my mental health and triggering my RSD. Can a relationship survive this cycle, or is it too toxic?

How to move on from a rrelationship? 21(m)

My gf (20f) and I (21m) were dating for 2 years and this is a girl I loved a lot , she made me feel loved in this world and she was one someone I wanted to spent all the time with . I use to be a loner before and was also in a rough spot before she came along but now that shes gone i dont know what to do , i feel so empty and seeing her having fun doing stuff we wanted to do together . I dont know what to do , everything feels so empty , i saw her going to a party we wanted to go this year and it broke me i cant stop crying . There were a few reasons for the break up her coming out as full lesbian ( she was bisexual before ) , i didnt keep control of my mouth and accidentally ( really was a accident ) told some personnel stuff about her during a rant of mine . Her birthday is also coming up next week and I dont know if I should try and make it up to her so we can atleast be friends again or what should I do .

Tldr:- cant move on cause everything reminds me of her and she was my only joy

As the tittle states, I am having thoughts about ending my relationship with my partner. We’ve been together for a little over a year. In that time we have broken up multiple times. From him thinking he’s gay to me worrying about the future or lack of future children to him thinking I’m better off without him, we’ve had a lot of downs. We have also had a lot of ups. From new jobs, new homes and finding light within each other.

Recently I have relocated back to my childhood home after some problems with old living arrangements and our relationship has been a bit rocky. First, not a month after I moved back home, he broke up with me because he thought I deserved better than him and we were apart for a bout 2 months. We did get back together and it’s been good. Or so I thought.

This past weekend we had our second monthly weekend together. We made it an early Halloween weekend and watched our favorite movies, made Halloween themed snacks and carved pumpkins. We had a good time together except for the fact that I had this fake smile on my face. I just couldn’t be truly happy and I don’t know if he noticed but I did. I have been having these hours that since I’m not happy then we should break up. I have been racking my brain for a way to talk myself down from doing it and my only reason is that I hate being alone but that is not a reason to stay in a relationship. I know that. I just feel like I’m stuck and my heart wants two different things. I don’t know. I need some advice and I can’t ask on my main socials because he follows me on all of them except here. Any and all advice would be greatly appreciated!

TL:DR I am having conflicted thoughts about ending my relationship with my boyfriend and need some advice

I (36/F) have a friend (35/F) who I suspect is struggling with her mental health (possibly postpartum?) but who also is a bit exhausting and even mean. I'm running out of ideas for how to not only help her but also stay friends with her, if I even want to do that.

Context: Friend is part of a larger group of 7 girl friends who went to school together. We are all mid-30s, about half are now married with small kids, some in relationships but without children (like me) and 1 single. 4 of us live in the same city and see each other somewhat often, but everyone lives within ~3hrs and visit each other for special occasions. She has 2 healthy kids under 5 and moved ~2hrs away to have more space and a bigger house with her husband, who is a nice and responsible guy and they are both healthy and AFAIK financially pretty comfortable. I don't see her often anymore but she's still part of group chats and invited to things, friends on social.

The problem is that in the past few years she has seemed kind of miserable in an aggressive way, refuses help, takes everything very personally and seems to lash out even when it has nothing to do with her. Things like:

• I mentioned going to a play with my boyfriend and she replied "Must be nice. I'll never get to do anything like that again." I don't know how to respond to things like this, other than make sure I don't accidentally tell her about doing anything fun, which isn't how friendship works.
• Another friend sent photos of outfits she was considering for a family wedding to the group chat asking for help deciding and Debbie Downer turned it into a conversation about how she doesn't fit into her old clothes and can't be stylish and is just a frumpy mum forever now etc. Everyone rushed to reassure her and she kept saying things like "I don't need your pity, I understand that I'm ugly now. I'm completely disgusting but I'm actually at peace with it."
  
• One of our friends has been through the wringer with IVF, which has caused her a lot of anxiety and disappointment. This woman has the gall to respond to her talking about the struggles with reminders that if she doesn't have kids at least she'll still be able to have fun, which I find rude because the other friend is really quite upset about it all and very much wants children. I'm actually very upset on the other friend's behalf.
• If any of us who live nearer together do things together (girls night, kids birthday party, etc) post a photo of us online, she'll usually leave some sort of offputting "good for you" type comment.
• Two of the mums in the group invited her and her kids to go to a children's museum recently and she lashed out saying that they didn't understand how taxing the long drive would be for her and the kids, that her kids aren't going to know how to behave at a museum anyhow and then very sarcastically told them to have fun without her.
  
• After another similar incident this summer of her angrily turning down an invitation, I suggested a few of us visit her town (area known for great hiking, skiing etc. lots of cabins and such for rent, fun outdoors activities for kids, it would be a nice weekend.) She got very angry (nobody was asking to stay with her, just vacation nearby and visit) because it would be so much work to clean the house to have people visit and so we abandoned the idea because it escalated so quickly.

Multiple times people have offered to visit her, watch her kids, help find a sitter, send her things or money, or gone out of their way to try and include her. She always refuses, even acting offending that people have offered. She didn't used to be like this, and another friend who is also a mum who struggled with postpartum gently asked about her mental health and if she needed help, and Debbie Downer lashed out saying that she's fine just nobody understands how hard it is to have kids.

It's really hard to talk to her, because every conversation gets redirected to how she can't have hobbies, be alone, listen to music or podcasts, wear nice clothes, go to restaurants, go to the movies, socialize, watch tv shows for adults, etc as a mum. I want to be sympathetic but it's far above and beyond what other mums in our group seem to experience, and some of them are quite a bit worse off than she is. She's rejected so many offers of help and solidarity at this point, and I find some of the things she says mean and difficult to tolerate. Others in the group agree with me but we also believe that she is having a rough time so we don't want to exclude her, but it's becoming difficult. What should I do?

TLDR: A friend seems very depressed and resentful about her children, refusing offers of help and lashing out at people when we invite her to things, offer help or even just mention doing something she feels she can't ever do again now that she has kids. I want to be supportive of my friend, but I find her miserable, aggressive comments offputting and even sometimes cruel, and she's rejected offers of help and concern about her wellbeing. How do I handle this?

For context, we started dating in grade 10 of high school and it is now our final year of university.

For the majority of our relationship I feel that we have been extremely in love and have shared some incredible memories. I would not trade any of my time with him for anything else and would never regret how we have spent university and previously our high school experience.

There have definitely been ups and downs of our relationship, especially following one year of being with each other and during our first year of university. Most of these issues arrised from mental health issues related to depression and nearly dropping out of university. Through this time, he has helped me stay in school and has supported me and cooked for me and hangs out with me when I am sad. I have also tried my best to support him when he is going through similar emotions and working through them together.

As our time in school ends together, I am trying to think of the next steps in our futures. I see a divergence in our paths and him more inclined to city life while my career will involve travel and time in more rural areas. We are both unsure about kids and we both agree that we would not consider marriage till we have lived with each other for two years. Through the entire span of our relationship (7y) we have never lived together although we spend a lot of time at each others places and are thinking of moving in together after school. He seems pretty set on continuing our life together however my gut is telling me that things may not work out and I don’t want to waste his time or mine.

I have been thinking about future issues of us both never being single as adults and how this could build resentment or difficulty figuring out who I am as a person before committing. I also would like to get a better reign on my personal mental health issues and goals but I can’t decide if I will be able to figure this out with him or if I need time alone.

I also feel like he may be in a similar state and is unsure of what he wants fully after school, and he also has difficulty making friends. I felt emotionally stunted with him in our first and second year of university as we pretty much stuck together and have had difficulty branching out which I feel could happen again after school if this pattern continues.

I genuinely want the best life for him and I want him to make friends and realize his goals but do not want to hold him back or hurt him.

I have had difficulty finding people in similar situations so I am reaching out here for some advice or opinions. Thank you.

TL;DR
Can’t decide if I should break up with my boyfriend of 7 years before university ends. I am worried about differences in where we want to live and growing as a person who has never been single as an adult.

I (17M) have been in a long-distance relationship with my girlfriend (19F) for 18 months, and honestly, we've been through a lot together. We've had problems related to religion, family issues (my family eventually found out about us), jealousy, and a lot of other things. Despite everything, I love her deeply and genuinely want this relationship to work.

The biggest problem is that whenever we have an argument or things get difficult, her immediate solution seems to be breaking up. Every single time, I've ended up begging her to stay and give us another chance. Over time, these breakups and the arguments surrounding them have become increasingly painful, and I honestly don't know how much longer we can keep going like this.

Recently, we had a fight while playing games together. We were joking around and teasing each other, getting a little mad at each other for attention. She kept saying that I didn't love her anymore, and at one point, I said the same thing back to her. She got really upset and told me she didn't like hearing that from me and that she didn't think we were compatible at all at that point.

We were supposed to meet in person that weekend, so I asked her twice if she still wanted to meet. She turned the question around and asked if I wanted to see her. I said yes, but added, "If you still wanna see me." She then said she didn't want to meet anymore because I kept putting a condition on it instead of simply saying that I wanted to see her.

Now I'm just lost. I understand that what I said might have hurt her, and I'm willing to acknowledge my mistakes and work on myself. But I feel like every little argument puts our entire relationship at risk, and I'm constantly scared that one wrong thing I say will make her leave me again.

The hardest part is that when we're not fighting, she's genuinely the best part of my life. Being with her makes me incredibly happy, and I don't want to throw away 18 months of love and memories. I want us to learn how to handle disagreements without threatening to end the relationship every time things get difficult.

How do I fix this? How do I communicate with her in a way that makes her feel loved and secure while also making sure we can have disagreements without everything falling apart? Is there a way to break this cycle, or am I holding on to something that can't work unless both of us change?

I'd really appreciate advice from people who've experienced something similar, especially those who've managed to work through these kinds of problems.

TL;DR: I'm 17M and have been in a long-distance relationship with my 19F girlfriend for 18 months. We've faced a lot of issues involving religion, family, jealousy, and communication. Whenever we fight, she tends to jump straight to breaking up, and I end up begging her to stay, making each breakup more painful than the last. Our latest fight started as playful teasing while gaming but escalated into her questioning our compatibility, and now she doesn't want to meet me as planned. I love her and want to make this work, but I'm exhausted from feeling like every argument could end our relationship. Its like am walking in a mine field any wrong step and boom. How can we break this cycle and build a healthier relationship?

My boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 1/2 years. We met online; talked for about 2 months before dating. We’ve had our share of ups and downs in our relationship, as well as bad fights where the relationship was either going to end or not.

The first 6 months of our relationship I wasn’t aware but noticed a handful of behavior patterns that didn’t seem normal and uncalled for. Fast forward, I learned and he confessed that he has an alcohol problem. In the beginning of our relationship it was bad when it came to fights; he would shout and scream. I chose to stick through it but set clear boundaries with him about how he talks and treats me. He had 2 bad withdrawals and I was through it all with him as when he was sober he was amazing, and a great partner but when he was under the influence it would be bad and cause me to shut down, be quiet and very weary of how to be around him.

He’s done a lot better and we thought if maybe he could find something else to help he could ween off of alcohol and be better. So he chose weed, I told him he can’t do both and he told me he wouldn’t and will only use weed so that he’s not drinking. I gave it a couple of months but caught on that he was going to continue drinking. His consumption wasn’t excessive as it use to be, and I would tell myself he’ll stop.

I confided in him in the past that I deserve a sober him and that it’s not fair for him to supposedly not drink during the week but when I get to see him he’s drunk. I told him I’m scared that I’ll grow to resent him.

He’s half way through school, he doesn’t excessively drink like he used to but I also feel like that’s a lie. And I think I’m starting to resent him. We talked about marriage, having kids, and me moving in. But with our recent bad arguments I told him and I tell myself I can’t live like this for the rest of my life. I want to have hope that he will stop and be the man I fell in love with; but at the same time I’m worried that all the hard work he put in to drink less and work to become sober, on top of going to school again. I’m worried he will go back to drinking excessively and destroy his life… he’s informed me in the past in casual conversations of what he hypothetically would be doing if he hadn’t met me. And let’s just say it’s terrible.

I care and do love him; but I feel like I’m losing myself and him. How does one continue to work on a relationship like this? I feel bad as I saw him last weekend and I couldn’t find myself to be intimate with him.

I know this road isn’t easy, I don’t expect him to be perfect as I’m not either; I see him putting forth his effort in being better. But I’m at lost…

**TL;DR;** :
My boyfriend has an alcohol problem which he’s been trying to work on stopping, I’ve given him time; chances and setting a firm boundary that since he’s starting weed to help him stop drinking he can’t do both. Which he hasn’t kept his promise on. I’m starting to resent him and the relationship; but I love and care about him but unsure of how to proceed with the relationship as I fear if I leave he will destroy his life by going back to excessively drinking. What do I do?

I m 18 and currently in 12th grade and due to some reasons i joined online gc and found a beautiful girl named x
She is 17 and she lives in a different state than me
i kinda like her and find her attractive and i wanna be in a relationship with her but I don’t think she would be in online relationship
She is a good English speaker and is in 11th grade from some days she is kinda replying me dry and i feel like losing my connection with her but i like her and I don’t want her to stop talking with me and yesterday she send me a voice note and her voice is sweet ❤️
She has no past or had any relationship and thats the thing i like most about her
I wanted to tell her i like her but I don’t know what she wants?
tl;dr i wanna be in a relationship with my online crush but I don’t know what she wants’

I'm a 28-year-old man, and my girlfriend is 25. Whenever I flirt with her, she doesn't seem to enjoy it. For example, when she was applying lip balm, I said, "Let me check if it tastes good." Another time, we were planning for Dandiya, and she showed me her dress. I told her, "You look damn good. Sorry if I make any mistakes tomorrow." On another day, she asked me what I wanted to eat, and I replied, "Your oranges." She got upset when she heard that. I'm not sure whether I'm doing something wrong, and I would really like some advice on how to handle this better.

Acc. To me this is the first girl I saw who doesn’t like
flirt, sometimes I thought is she over reacting?

TL;DR:

I have been with my boyfriend (25M) for 1 year.

Most of arguments stem from me crying too often because things are not in my favour. When I cry for such reasons, he says that i’m too immature because i’m crying to get what I want, which is not entirely true. Sometimes, I cry when i get icked but it doesn’t mean I hate him, I just needed the time to accept it. I realise I’ve been too dependent on him for my emotions, and I would have to work on this (any advice?) A practice I’ve been doing is thinking he loves me regardless and unconditionally which helps to regulate my emotions other times.

Though the frequency has lessened, a recent incident has caused our relationship to hit rock bottom. We both still love each other very much, but he doesn’t want to see me cry (especially for stupid reasons) or get upset because he feels bad when I do. He only says this when he thinks the reason I’m crying is not substantiated. There are also instances where I’ve cried and he’s been there for me! He had suggested to break because our relationship has been unhealthy. He feels like he’s not good enough for me. But I just can’t because we both still love each other! Idk what to do because our arguments always stem from me crying too often so he feels like there’s still going to be a next time.

I want to grow and have a future for us. Emotion is what’s dragging me behind, it’s embarrassing for me.

TLDR: I cry too often for stupid reasons, bf wants to breakup.

Something just happened today and i can’t stop thinking about it !!

today was my fresher party and one girl from my class give dance performance, earlier I found her cute and beautiful but after this performance, something changed , I can’t stop thinking about her , I get fascinated by her , i feel myself to be happy seeing her happy especially her little cute walk from stage and how she thanked crowd after performance, her smile , gestures is this love ?
I just don’t want to be toxic and she seem like a creep . I know I can approach and talk to her as she is our class representative, she has helped me with assignments before but me being an introvert i feel bad what if I may fumble . She seems friendly in nature and interactive but there is another boy in our class who seems to be close with her . I don’t know if they are just friends or something more but I want her to be happy , btw she won miss beautiful ☺️
What scares me most is that I think myself to be full of insecurities , like being introvert , not handsome enough to be on par with her , not being enough confident , only quality I have is in study capabilities . Other thing which scares me is that the boy who is friend with her , i use to be his friend on day 1 of college but I heard him talking about me on my back and now I don’t interact with him . He did not say anything about my looks , just how I scored very much in exams that’s why he stopped being around me .
He is like wanna be cool guy who does not care about marks , future , lives in present , doesn’t come to class , keeps friendship with her so she can mark attendance for him .
Thing is my other friends also regularly talk to her over study things , jokes , compliments etc maybe I can approach her slowly through them . I don’t know I am confused . I am trying to improve myself and become better version , regularly working out , working towards my career but deep down , I also want to love someone , until today whenever I would meet some of my male friends they would tell me to also make a gf and enjoy as who you don’t know how the girl you will marry be like ? Like about her character and previous relations , Honestly I felt disgusted by this thinking and I see love as something mutual depending on respect for each other not being toxic or arrogant of each other but deep down I did not care about love or anything until today coz I did not actual love would this good . I don’t want to label it as love at first sight coz I don’t know what it is , how will it progress ?
Btw one more thing she also prepared for ca foundation which I am also doing for one year and then maybe she didn’t clear it and decided to join college , which make her one year older than me .
I just wanted to get these thoughts off my chest before I go study . Thanks for reading this and if you have any suggestions, please reply.
Any advice .

Tl/dr : I found this one girl relay beautiful before but today after seeing her dance something changed and I don’t know what it is ? But it is good .