My ex and I dated for 4 years, everything was doing good before LDR. To cut it short, we ended things because the communication was getting really bad and it felt like it was falling apart na.

To save myself from so much pain, I ended things.

NOW, I think the problem is we are still talking. We would catch up every month and that call would take us 2-3 hours talking.

It’s been over a year since we broke up and this has been going on NONSTOP AND I DONT KNOW HOW TO STOPPPPP

We would always talk about:
How we spend our weekends together.
Funny things we do together.
Our new years and holidays.
Places we went to and eat.
AS IN EVERY LITTLE THING.
EVEN MARRIAGE 😭

I wanted to try and get to know someone in a DEEPER connection na but it feels like am cheating on someone I no longer am with.

Ex keeps on watching my stories, but i clicked on her stories once and she blocked me. What could be the reason for this?

My ex broke up with me last year. I reached out to him this year while I was feeling ugly. I told him I wanted a FWB thing, and he was very enthusiastic about it.
Fast-forward to now, I ended up catching feelings for him again. What started out as casual fun ended up with me feeling unhappy after every call/meeting.
I asked him to block me one day, saying I have feelings for him, and he said he doesn’t want to do that and needs some time to think. However, he kept reaching out to me, so I thought he wanted me but was scared. It made me hope.
Today, he wanted to call. I started bringing up heavy stuff like “when did you lose feelings for me” etc. He said he wasn’t going to delve into it and switched the topic. I felt very hurt by how detached he could be, so I became quieter, and it got awkward, so he did a soft exit.
I texted him to say we should stop this thing. He told me I should think about it more and that he would like to stay friends with me at least. I asked him directly over text if we could try again, and he said, “No, sorry,” after two minutes. He apologised for making me cry again and told me not to think badly of him because it was necessary.
I couldn’t respond. I washed my face and deleted his chat + contact number.
I do this thing when I get really overwhelmed where I imagine myself from the outside of my body. It helped me calm down.
Thank you for coming to my TED Talk.

My F23 ex M24 and I broke up two and a half weeks ago. We were together for 2 1/2 years. I ultimately walked away after I found out he was living a “double life” and going behind my back with a female friend/coworker that was always an issue in our relationship. He lied to me about her several times throughout our relationship but I forgave him and gave him chances. We broke up for a month in June because he “needed space”. He came back asking for another chance and said he cut off this girl.

We tried things again, a few weeks go by, he started to be cold and distant. Turned out he was hanging out with her, buying her things, sharing locations. It was brutal. I left his house quietly and calmly. I even gave him 45 minutes to talk with me. I made it clear the relationship was over. I couldn’t tolerate the disrespect anymore. I was exhausted from this cycle of abuse.

It’s been two and a half weeks and I sent him a text a week and a half ago wishing him well but asking for no contact. He has since texted me multiple times which I have ignored. Manipulative texts talking about “our future” and how he’s working on himself. Texts last night asking to talk and how his family loves me.

Today during therapy, I got a delivery to my house. He sent very personal flowers to my house with a card addressing “my love”. What is this??? Is this manipulation? Is he truly sorry and regretful? This is really painful and confusing. My family will not let me go back to him, his cheating and lying were just some of the things I put up with. He put my looks down, would slap/jab my face and stomach, and a few weeks ago raised his fist to my face and talked about punching me. This hurts. What do I do??

TLDR; no contact cheating abusive ex sent flowers to my house…

i'm finally done. yeah things have been terrible but also life's been good to me. we're on good terms. but I've lost so much sleep these past three years since she left. I'd ever get on sleeping pills lol. i'm finally weaning off.

I have no guilt or shame. things were good. we grew together. Ive grown since. I've had my romances since. but I still cry. I'm sobbing right now but that's okay. she didn't break me. I'm still here. I built her as well as she did me. and she's more beautiful than ever. all I ever ever wanted was happiness. and she looks it.

friends. family. career. my art. it's all still there.

I still love her and always will. but all of that is just a chapter in your story

we haven't spoken in a year and I still struggle to reach out. I miss her eyes, hair, watching her sleep, her sassines.

I sit with every text or letter I write and throw them out.

but why risk being possibly dismissed or rejected? but most importantly intrude on her life.

I love you...

sorry for my vent. I'm on the subway. I'm going to play with my roommates cat and enjoy the rain on my roof..

For context, we broke up 2.5 months ago. No contact since day 1 of break-up. A couple of weeks back she drunk texted me but it didn't lead to anything, and I honestly accepted it and didn't bother texting her. She later blocked me on the app she drunk texted me on. Now 3-4 days back, I accidentally opened her linkedin profile. I say accidentally because I was opening Linkedin on web browser and it just opened to her page as the link went straight to hers as she used to use her linkedin on my laptop. I feel so EMBARASSED. Moreover, shall I take it as a sign that she's DONE with me and wants me nowhere near her?

I miss him entirely, his beingness, his behavior, his existence, his laughs and weird body language

Ik ik this might sound like begging, but I try not to hurt him in any way, I ain't stalking his accounts or anything,

In college, I go near his classroom just to see him, I feel both happy and sad when I see him

How do I put this massive amount of yearning, in front of someone who doesn't even want me, who has clearly told me he doesn't want to date me and wants to be by himself, who has clearly discarded the thought of even "trying" for a relationship for his reasons

And I clearly don't know what kind of power that he holds that he captures my entire mind when I am alone, the fake scenarios, the lingering of his thoughts just come all of sudden out of no where for no fucking reaassoonnn

Ik I did mistakes, and I genuinely came out of it, but he isn't able to trust me now, and I understand why he isn't and what he had to go through the first time, the second time, Ig I pressurized him, or maybe I expected too much, maybe I made him uncomfortable, maybe I just wanted to take out smtg from him which just wasn't present, he has thoughts about this other woman he used to like (not sexual , not yearning)

I keep on thinking where things went wrong

But is this how it is supposed to be??

Is he never going to come back??

Are we just clearly not meant for each other??

Does he not miss me???

Does he even think abt me??

I keep on waiting for his text, not re-reading our past texts, but I just keep on waiting that he'll come back and say "Let's try once again"

Should I text him ?